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SummerOnTheWay1

📎 AARP Expert Amy @agoyer has some WISDOM to share after her losses. 🤗🤗🤗

I have "pasted" the link BELOW to her post in OUR GRIEF SUPPORT GROUP located in the AARP Friends & Family Forum. She is ALWAYS there for us grievers and welcomes questions. Thank you Amy!!!

*** Lol, it takes about 1 minute for link to take you DIRECTLY to her post. 🙄 ***

https://community.aarp.org/t5/Friends-Family/A-Place-To-Be-With-OTHERS-Who-Are-Grieving-WE-support-each-other/m-p/2569614#M7888

agoyer

Conversationalist ⭐⭐⭐

@SummerOnTheWay1 Thank you! And thank you for all that you do!

SummerOnTheWay1

📎 Okay guys, I MISS YOU ALL!!!

Since we are NO longer allowed to continue with Our Daily Chat Thread here in the Grief Forum - AARP had suggested STARTING one in their Friends & Family Forum.

Lol, I had told them NO ONE posts there anymore and forum has died over the years. 🙄🙄🙄

But, how about we give it a try???

Any takers???

I am heading out to library down my hill to hopefully hand wash my car in PEACE. Yes, need me some of that. Here at apartment way too many folks want to borrow my ears. NOT TODAY.

I am heading to PM the Grief Team (well, before we disbanded last month due to new rules).

I can set up a NEW THREAD there for us to CONTINUE to nurture each other on Our Healing Journeys!!! 💃💃💃

Luv you ALL my friends,

Nicole 🤗🤗🤗

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GailL1

@SummerOnTheWay1

I am sure that you will make a success of it with your dedication and spirit.

You mentioned a couple of words in a post not too long ago concerning going to the Friends and Family board with this sort of discussion. I thought these two word captured exactly what you and others here are trying to accomplish - the words were “MOVING FORWARD”, I believe, and it is an important aspect of life after loss - a more long term quest whether emotional, mentally, physically, logistically or just those everyday decisions that have to be made.

Think you said it well here on 08/29/2024 (7:42 pm)

https://community.aarp.org/t5/Grief-Loss/I-m-still-here-Good-news-finally/m-p/2567652#M15131

Good Luck

SummerOnTheWay1

📎 You are welcome MC @mc6844 and thank you for yours!!!

Luv you my friend,

Nicole 🤗🤗🤗

[*** MC wrote: Thank you for all your support Nicole! ❤️ ***]

mc6844

Community Champion ⭐⭐

Thank you for all your support Nicole! ❤️

SummerOnTheWay1

📎 Dear Jonibee @jonibee and Cadee@Cadee2719 I miss hearing from you dear friends and hope you are BOTH doing well on your JOURNEY OF HEALING 🤗🤗🤗

You guys have lost luv ones who are SO PROUD of what you have accomplished while grieving.

MY thoughts stay with you!!!

Luv you VERY MUCH,

Nicole 🤗🤗🤗 and 🤗🤗🤗

jonibee

Community Champion ⭐⭐

Just taking a moment to say hello and things are proceeding as they should..I have 3 upcoming appts and then there is the waiting time for diag anf primary care visit..So Until all this happens within this month & next, I will be hoping for a good outcome regarding my health. Thank You for inquiring as to how I'm doing..Hoping all is well with you too...

SummerOnTheWay1

📎 So GOOD to hear from you dear Jonibee @jonibee !!! 💃💃💃

Found out TODAY I have pre-diabetes and need to exercise and do a Mediterrean diet. 🙄🙄🙄

So between GRIEVING - slum landlord, I need to figure out WHERE to move to. This move will help me with my grieving, depression and anger. Thanks for asking dear friend.

Luv you VERY MUCH,

Nicole 🤗🤗🤗

[*** JONIBEE@ wrote: Just taking a moment to say hello and things are proceeding as they should..I have 3 upcoming appts and then there is the waiting time for diag anf primary care visit..So Until all this happens within this month & next, I will be hoping for a good outcome regarding my health. Thank You for inquiring as to how I'm doing..Hoping all is well with you too... ***]

SummerOnTheWay1

📎 READY TO MOVE FORWARD ON YOUR HEALING JOURNEY? 🤔

Follow YOUR purpose.

Griffin recommends thinking of three things you enjoy doing the most — cooking, gardening, reading stories, sports, whatever.

Or make a list of the things you have always wanted to learn more about. Then poke around to find a free class online or at a local community college or university. You will learn a new skill and meet people interested in the same subjects.

▶️***[Link to AARP article below]***◀️

https://www.aarp.org/home-family/friends-family/info-2022/dealing-with-loneliness.html

mc6844

Community Champion ⭐⭐

Great ideas Nicole. I took free computer classes at the local high school some years ago. I was grateful to learn new skills. I knew a girl who took woodworking and built a lovely dresser. You can learn skills and if course meet new people. The other people there need people there, or there wouldn't be classes. Plus taking a course in a familiar field of study, or a new one, can help people move forward too.

SummerOnTheWay1

📎 I have found that TALKING with OTHER grievers has helped me not to feel so alone.

While we will still have OUR MOMENTS of anger, sadness and so on - LEARNING from others how they have been able to MOVE FORWARD helps us on our journeys.

So stop by and SHARE your SURVIVAL TIPS, you may be helping someone who just lost a luv one.

Thank you,

Nicole 🤗🤗🤗 (Grief Forum)

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MarcyW882921

Community Champion ⭐⭐

I spoke with a woman whose husband passed away recently. She said seeing all of the women in our group who have experienced this kind of loss and survived and even thrived is inspirational for her. If you have gotten through this trauma, you may be serving as an example for others without even knowing it!

Marcy

SummerOnTheWay1

📎 DISCUSSION: What is your opinion on Grief Counseling? 🤔

Personally it does NOT work for me as I already know what I need to do. Over the years I have had counseling and in my humble opinion counseling is NOT for everyone. But glad that option is there for folks who feel they need it. Also, I am a huge fan of reading Success Stories and Self Help books over the years. These INSPIRE me!!!

I hope to hear from you.

Thanks,

Nicole 🤗🤗🤗

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MarcyW882921

Community Champion ⭐⭐

I did not seek individual counseling but did join a bereavement group. I am not a group person, but I went into the group with an open mind based on a recommendation from a friend. The facilitator and people in the group were so warm, understanding, and compassionate and I felt safe on day 1. We are all individuals and make decisions about what is best for us. This avenue was a positive experience for me.

Marcy

SummerOnTheWay1

📎 DISCUSSION: Luv Ones Helping Us.

Hello Everyone!!!

As I lay here being LAZY 🙄🙄🙄 before getting up to get dressed to head up to Dollar Tree - I am SO GRATEFUL my luv ones got my back.

HOW ABOUT YOU??? 🤔

Must recent gratitude for me may be unimportant for others but I was having a SENIOR MELTDOWN MOMENT in Walmart.

Why?

Never fails, they like to MOVE stuff just when I have my Shopping List all setup with WHICH aisle to find stuff. Yes, have ALWAYS hated shopping and more so at age 66. Go ONLY when I NEED to.

Anyway, I have learn't to have a BACK UP to everything as you know these days one NEVER knows IF an item will be in stock in store or online.

For weeks yours truly has been checking the USUAL spot for the portable Gorilla Tape. Nope, none.

Then THIS Tuesday, my usual day to go to Walmart (out of food day) as I was WALKING BY the craft section after getting Mr's cat food, headed once AGAIN to go see IF tape was there - something made me glance over.

Now keep in mind I NEVER frequent the craft aisle, so had NO reason to glance over there.

Guess what is NOW there INSTEAD of the usual spot.

YES, THE TAPE!!! 💃💃💃

I believe a luved one, not sure who - helped me out BEFORE the tape I had was finished.

Hmmm, I would luv to hear from YOU.

Thanks,

Nicole 🤗🤗🤗

mc6844

Community Champion ⭐⭐

Nicole, I think that's entirely possible. They say our loved ones walk beside us always. And of course the old saying of Faith, the evidence of things unseen.

jimbohretired

Contributor ⭐⭐

Finally am starting to post again. Lost my wife 3 years ago this Christmas but even with that I still feel blessed. She was my life for 53 years - met for the first time in 2nd grade - grew up with her as a friend iI went into the US Army after one year of college while she finished her degree in nursing. I started writing to her about a year before I was discharged and we then spent our lives together when I was discharged. Anyhow I am now functioning very well. Still have no desire to date but have made some good friends and have both a daughter and a son living close by. I talk with my son almost daily

Anyhow I have discovered that for me that staying active is a blessing. I bike 21 miles a day first hour with a couple and the second hour am talking with my son. I also do circuit training 3 days a week.I have joined a few clubs which allows me to interact and not feel so alone.

Life goes on .

Most current items happening for me is marriage of my oldest granddaughter and death of my oldest brother - He made it to 90 years of age. Another thing that helps is to go back and think of all the blessings that the Lord has given me over the years. My daughter gave me a wonderful gift this last christmas. The way it works is one is given a series of questions that you answer and which end up in a book. The exercise reminded me of all of the blessings and also of the challenges we faced and dealt with over the years. As I said above Life goes on.

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MarcyW882921

Community Champion ⭐⭐

Jimbo @jimboretired ,

It's great that you have come back to post on the forum. Glad that you are feeling blessed and thanks for your positive update.

Marcy

SummerOnTheWay1

📎 Keep stepping to feel BETTER!!! 👣

mc6844

Community Champion ⭐⭐

I hear ya Nicole. Except after dentist I have all I can do to drive straight home. It's good to do something positive however. Dollar store has good greeting cards. I think I'm one of the last few who still send by snail mail. I suppose that will be extinct pretty soon kind of like myself lol

SummerOnTheWay1

📎 Lol MC @mc6844 , the dentist is another story!!! I run home to get in bed even AFTER my 6-month cleanings. 🤣😂 The STRESS the day before, on the day is enough to make me start drinking. NEVER drank...

Nicole 🤗🤗🤗

[*** MC wrote: I hear ya Nicole. Except after dentist I have all I can do to drive straight home. It's good to do something positive however. Dollar store has good greeting cards. I think I'm one of the last few who still send by snail mail. I suppose that will be extinct pretty soon kind of like myself lol ***]

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