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February 3, 2023
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SummerOnTheWay1

1 step at a time! 👣

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mr6784

Contributor ⭐

Glad to discover this forum as I am almost only 3rd month since my oldest brother Bob 88,died September 15. I was numb for 2 months which surprised me as usually cried a lot in grief. As a priest I felt blessed to lead the celebration of his life at the funeral home. Grateful to his pastor for liturgy.And I did the service at the cemetery, with family we sang in holy circle send him off and again no tears.
I feel somewhat misplaced with my grief the funeral was 3 hrs from where I live and only one friend present. My brother was mentor, supportive and strong encourager . He too was a priest 38 yrs.

mc6844

Community Champion ⭐⭐

It's a good time of year not to take anything on, or lose ourselves in what could become exhausting. Being older prevents me from that lol. And of course it does nothing to alleviate the pain of loss. So what activities help everyone on the forum refresh our minds and keep our spirits calm? Watching movies is good. No heavy topics. I like Westerns. Why? The scenery is beautiful and calming. Comedies are good. Paul Blatt Mall Cop 2 has some very funny scenes. There are many interesting series too. Of course it takes time to be able to sit still. That is ok too. I hope everyone finds something to help them refresh minds and spirits.

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Cadee2719

Community Champion ⭐

Morning Nicole. Yes, I got my ultrasounds scheduled for 11/26. Being that it is taking place in the center of town, my son is taking me. Downtown is filled with one way streets and quite busy so I AVOID it at all costs. Finding someone to refill my diabetes medication has been a challenge. The doctor in California has retired and the doctor I saw here cannot do it. They are suggesting I go to the ER and have them fill it???? Moving to a new area and arranging for new doctors has taken 6 months to do and has been a CHALLENGE. I am hoping that the family doctor I have an appointment with in December can help me resolve all these problems. The holidays are coming and it is hard. This will be my first Thanksgiving and Christmas in my new home; a big adjustment for me. I miss my husband, son and brother more than ever. November 25 my husband & I would have celebrated our 63 wedding anniversary. I moved to a state that my son was planning on moving to and now I am here without him. Funny how LIFE has a different plan for me.

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MarcyW882921

Community Champion ⭐⭐

Cadee,

I hope your ultrasound appointment goes well tomorrow and I'm glad your son is taking you. I'm so sorry that finding continuity for your medical care has been so challenging! I admire your perseverance and hope that it will yield some positive results for you very soon.

I know moving can be stressful even without having to deal with doctors. I remember feeling pretty alone when we moved south. I don't know if you are interested, but Grief Works does webinars periodically and they are doing one on December 2nd about navigating The holiday season. You can find it at illume apps.com in the Community Live tab. Maybe it would be helpful as you are trying to get through the holidays in your new home.

Sending hugs,

Marcy

SummerOnTheWay1

📎@mc6844 @MarcyW882921 @Cadee2719 @jonibee check your AARP PMs. I just sent you guys a "heads up". Been a peaceful 6 months here in the Grief Forum since the last drama this year's Mother's Day 2024. I am hoping with the visit today, we donot have a repeat performance. Missing poor and dear Allen @Therapist4u . Hope he is okay and will stop by again. Sad when certain folks feel a need to drive folks away. Lol, same person had driven me away last year Father's Day 2023. Luv you ALL, Nicole 🤗🤗🤗 (Grief Forum)

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Cadee2719

Community Champion ⭐

Sad that some people feel it is necessary to critique others, especially those working hard to find peace and love for those going through a very difficult time in their lives. I admire the people on this site for being strong and wanting to help others on this journey. We share our lives with each other because we care about each other and understand the highs and lows we experience. We do not criticize each other because WE are OUR harshest critics. This site has provided me with helpful information, smiles, laughter and a sense of connection with those that truly understand. Nicole, Thank You for all that you do and the commitment that you have for being here for us. ❤️

SummerOnTheWay1

📎 Cadee @Cadee2719 , thank you SO MUCH for "supporting" the grievers who stop by. This Grief Forum is suppose to be a place EVERYONE can be themselves. WE have lost so many people due to the drama and jealously. Allen @Therapist4u is the latest. I miss his HUMOR in spite of the HELL he is going through. AARP owns this Grief Forum!!! 👍👍👍

Luv,

Nicole 🤗🤗🤗 (Grief Forum)

[*** CADEE wrote: Sad that some people feel it is necessary to critique others, especially those working hard to find peace and love for those going through a very difficult time in their lives. I admire the people on this site for being strong and wanting to help others on this journey. We share our lives with each other because we care about each other and understand the highs and lows we experience. We do not criticize each other because WE are OUR harshest critics. This site has provided me with helpful information, smiles, laughter and a sense of connection with those that truly understand. Nicole, Thank You for all that you do and the commitment that you have for being here for us. ❤️ ***]

SummerOnTheWay1

📎 Good Morning Suzanne @SuzanneS949035 !!!

How are you TODAY?

I am here IF and when you need me!!!

I hope you slept last night.

I am thinking of YOU.

Luv,

Nicole 🤗🤗🤗 (Grief Forum)

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SuzanneS949035

Contributor ⭐⭐

Hello Nicole,

I'm hanging in there one day at a time. His adult kids came this past weekend to get some of his things I thought they should have of his.

I'm still dragging my tail not moving forward with any routine, just trying to cover all bases and figure out if I can afford to keep my house.

I'm ok until someone asks about him, then it comes rushing back like it just happened.

HOping the woulduve, coulduve, shoulduve stuff moves on so I can stop tormenting myself and second guessing what I could have done different to help him.

I'm trying.....

I hope you're doing well.

Suzanne

SummerOnTheWay1

📎 Hello dear Suzanne @SuzanneS949035 , how are you doing?

I hope you will stop by again.

Luv,

Nicole 🤗🤗🤗 (Grief Forum)

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SuzanneS949035

Contributor ⭐⭐

Hello Nicole,

Went to the funeral home to sign creation papers. Trying to sort thru all the financial things and try not to worry.

Thank you for your group, I sincerely appreciate you.

Suzanne

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MarcyW882921

Community Champion ⭐⭐

Suzanne @SuzanneS949035 you have one thing marked off of your list of things to take care of. It can be overwhelming so prioritize the items and work your way through them at a pace you can handle. Some things can't be done until you have death certificates so those will have to wait. Hopefully your funeral director gave you a list to follow and you will feel your burden lighten as you check them off as being done.

You will get through this.

Marcy

SummerOnTheWay1

📎 WE will always miss them but as we MOVE FORWARD there will be less tears and more smiles when we think of them. ‌🤗‌‌🤗‌‌🤗‌

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SuzanneS949035

Contributor ⭐⭐

Thank you, those words are very helpful. Looking forward to reaching the smiles.

SummerOnTheWay1

📎 Migraines are NO FUN Marcy @MarcyW882921 , hope you feel better SOON!!! 🤗🤗🤗

[*** MARCY wrote: I didn't sleep well last night and it triggered a creepy migraine today. I hate giving in to it so I'm fighting it the best I can. ‌😩‌

Marcy ***]