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Cadee2719

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This has been a busy week for me. I finalized an appointment with the rheumatologist in November. The problem was I was going to run out of medication in two weeks! When I called the doctor in California, he first said "He wanted to see me!!" I said THAT is not happening for as you know I moved to another state. Then he said I had to go and get a blood test here, which I did on Friday. Now I have to do a tele-health call with him and he "may" renew the prescription??? I told him if he refuses to continue the medication until November then to give me instructions on how to wean myself off of the medication. So I am in "limbo", and have no idea what he plans to do. In the midst of that I began the process to get a referral to a cardiologist here. Fortunately the doctor in California said "No problem, I will forward the records and continue your medication until you are seen." I cannot tell you the number of phone calls all of this has taken. I have two more doctors to get so I will be busy for a couple of weeks.

Yesterday my son took me to buy a gas grill for the patio and I AM DONE. There is nothing more I need to buy for my home. Now I can put my feet up and DO NOTHING!!!!!!! The new owners of the home in California just installed a fence in front to prevent people from entering the property. I guess the neighborhood is still dealing with people wondering into their yards attempting to enter their home, cars and their backyard. SO GLAD I NO LONGER LIVE THERE!!!!!! Each time I go to the farm stand to buy my fruit and vegetables, I pass a beautiful ranch with horses in the field that come up to the fence and up in the perch on the telephone pole is a huge nest with baby EAGLES. This is 10 minutes away from the beautiful community I live in. I am one lucky woman. Yes, Nicole I put up a bird feeder and sometimes it looks like the movie THE BIRDS with all the birds lined up on the fence waiting their turn to eat. I get the bird seed that leaves no mess and believe it or not the birds do not make a mess on my fence. The birds are the only "wild life" I see. In CA. I had squirrels, possums, owls, hawks, coyotes, woodpeckers and once even a mountain lion. 😁

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Dear Cadee @Cadee2719 ,

Putting your feet up and doing nothing sounds grand, but it seems like you need to keep your fingers busy dialing the phone in order to get needed attention for your medical needs. I hope your rheumatologist in CA will work with you until you have an appointment with the rheumatologist in Idaho.🤞It appears your rheumatologist could take some lessons from your cardiologist in CA who is willing to work with you to transition you to your next cardiologist. Keep advocating for your needs and you will eventually have all of your medical support in place.

Marcy

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I hope you are all well on the forum. I wasn't able to login. But I tried again today and it was ok.

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Glad to see you MC @mc6844 ! So glad you were able to log in.

Marcy

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Ty Marcy. You sound like you're doing well! ☺️

📎 MC @mc6844 , in my very humble opinion - some of us will grieve to the day we die.

But as time passes, we are able to MOVE FORWARD in whatever capacity we can.

Some years, I hardly think of my Mamamae (grandma), then other years it seems I am crying - dreaming and missing her BIG TIME.

Awesome discussion!!!

Luv you VERY MUCH,

Nicole 🤗🤗🤗

[*** MC wrote: I wonder if people think that they will always grieve? I heard this recently. I think it could be true. ***]

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Ty

📎 IT IS A SUBJECT I AND MY DAUGHTER USE TO AVOID UNTIL SHE LOST HER FATHER. NOW SHE UNDERSTANDS WHY I HAD TOLD HER WHERE EVERYTHING IS FOR WHEN I PASS. WHAT DO YOU HAVE SET UP SO FAR FOR YOURSELF? 🤔 ANY TIPS TO SHARE? 🤔

Me - I set up an area on my bookshelf for ALL legal documents. I am working on the cremation end of things. MY TIP: Try NOT to dwell on your passing as we ALL will one day. Just TRY to remember the ones we leave behind will be GRIEVING. Anything we can do while still ALIVE to make things easier shows we LUV them!!! 👍👍👍

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I have a portable plastic box set up with all of my important documents. I prepared it to be something I can easily grab and run with during hurricane season and also for utilization at the end of my life by my family designees.

Marcy

📎 REMEMBER THE SAYING AND PRAYER ABOUT STUFF AND PEOPLE WE HAVE NO CONTROL OVER? HOW ARE YOU DEALING WITH THESE SITUATIONS RIGHT NOW? THANKS, NICOLE 🤗🤗🤗

Me - my right now have NO CONTROL OVER are my Neighbors From H.ll Above Me. I won't lie and say I like them. I don't!!! 😱😱😱 It has been H.LL with all 3 sets of neighbors above me since moving in 2018. Luv my Cute Studio Apt in the Virginia hills but NO MORE neighbors next to me when I move. Until then, MY MUSIC keeps me SANE.

Therapist4u

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REMEMBER THE SAYING AND PRAYER ABOUT STUFF AND PEOPLE WE HAVE NO CONTROL OVER?

God, grant me the....

God, grant me the PURRrenity

😄

📎 Remember, listening to someone costs zero and you have made that person feel wanted and cared for.

YES, we all receive the stuff that cost money (money, giftcards, flowers, condolence cards/notes) BUT I know how much being listened to has WARMED my insides!!!

So think of someone TODAY who may be NEEDING your ear...

Thanks,

Nicole 🤗🤗🤗

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This is good to remember Nicole. We do get busy and temporarily forget that everyone has their sufferings.

https://www.signalsaz.com/articles/how-to-deal-with-loneliness-in-retirement/

📎 HOW ARE YOU MEETING NEW PEOPLE? 🤔

Me - Ironically I read this in my Google News. It is exactly what I am doing (reaching out to random strangers), subject to change of course. Thanks, Nicole 🤗🤗🤗

[1] Visit a park at the same time each day. Note the other people around. If comfortable, strike up a conversation with folks who appear approachable.

[2] If you enjoy an article, newsletter or book, let the author know.

[3] Say hello to someone you come across in your neighborhood, at the store or library. Ask them about their day.

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Get on a mailing list at a religious institution that is active. These types of institutions have many opportunities for volunteering, learning, socializing, and becoming part of a community.

Marcy

📎 HOW ARE YOU HANDLING THE HOLIDAYS AND DAYS LIKE MOTHER'S AND FATHER'S DAYS - BIRTHDAYS - ANNIVERSARIES AND SO ON? 🤔

Me, I have never been a Group Person and as soon as I turned 18, started to "skip" the gatherings. I luv the one-on-one interactions. As far as Father's Day, he was never the father my daughter deserved [drug and crime issues], so she never did the day. Every day is Mother's Day for me = she makes sure I am okay every day. She is the opposite of me and while she avoids family 🙄, she has had Extended Family & Friends all her life. So she spends the holidays with them. 👍

Thanks,

Nicole 🤗🤗🤗

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I wanted to stop by today. All on the forum are in my thoughts and prayers. Please take care and take it easy. One day goes into the next, and each day takes care of itself! 💓

📎 In my opinion, Living In The Moment helps to keep us SANE - HOPEFUL & PEACEFUL!!! What are YOUR THOUGHTS on this? Thanks, Nicole 🤗🤗🤗

Me - it is taking my all to NOT get angry and mourne the "possible" loss of a dear friend. One I didnot go looking for and who has RENEWED my HOPE of meeting HEALTHY HUMANS in my journey. I had told you guys about Dalinda, a Walmart Employee. Her cancer is back 😭😭😭 But you would NEVER know. I pry stuff out of her when she says she is okay. Then it is like the water has been released and she hugs me and tells me WHAT IS REALLY GOING ON. Lol, my Weekly Term = hmmm, now tell me what is really going on AFTER her 1st response to my Weekly How Are You Doing Question of I am OK. I am FINALLY learning that life brings us WHAT WE NEED and forever long it lasts, we NEED TO ENJOY IT. 👍

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Nicole @SummerOnTheWay1 ,

You are in Dalinda's life at a time when she really needs someone. You are to be commended for being there, for recognizing her needs, and allowing her to be heard! Maybe she is in your life to show you there are good, caring, appreciative people and The importance of making the best of every moment we have in life.

Marcy

📎 Some of us are already VERY ACTIVE in our NEW lives, while others NEED to get back into the groove. Hmmm, which are YOU? And IF you feel up to it, tell us what has been going on in YOUR LIFE!!! Thanks, Nicole 🤗🤗🤗

Me - lol, lazy and lazy!!! But finally feeling an "interest" to dig up my Old Hobbies. Now to actually do this. 🙄🙄🙄

I do miss my walks in nature but as I AGE just cannot deal with the I OWN NATURE mentality of some youngsters. Gosh, I return MORE STRESSED than when I left. So I have to find someplace safe and not taken over by humans. Wish me luck!!! 👍