WE ARE SORRY about your loss 💛

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If I may, I'd like to add a few words.

My mother passed in 1975, in her sleep and I was the one who found her. It was a heart attack. She was 52.

My dad was a wreck; I had to do the legwork of setting up the funeral. The circumstances dictated it.

I was pretty much a wreck myself. However, in the weeks that followed, no one asked me if I was okay, seeing as I was the one who found her and felt her cold neck when I checked her.

It took a long time for me to get close to normal.

What I realized later is that I need to be with people I loved and trusted. The person has to have both. I found out that grief in a person is unique and personal. People kept telling me it was time to move on. I'm sure they meant well, however, I found that no one could tell me when to move on. Only I would know when the time was. I found that time when I had peace in my heart. It took a while.

I miss my mom every day. I cry a tear for her every day. After her passing she contacted me three times. Not again for many years. I don't mean for that to sound eerie or creepy. Just fact.

Thanks.

1 step at a time!!!

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Good advice, Nicole!

There is no clock for grief. Look in the mirror, you're stronger than you think or feel!!

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When we lose someone we love we must learn not to live without them, but to live with the love they left behind.

@JoeJ415665 , SO GLAD you stopped by to see us!!! 💛🤗

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The night before my mom passed in 1975, my phone (land line) rang at exactly 2am.

When I answered there was a conversation taking place on the other end in a language I didn't understand. I hung up and went back to sleep.

The next day around noon I found my mom still in bed and not breathing.

One year to the day the phone rang at 2am. Same conversation on the other end.

Then one day in 2010, some 34 years later, my cell phone rang. When I answered there was that same conversation on the other end. I hung up and just sat there for the longest time. Then, it occurred to me that day's date was May 23. My mom's birthday.

📎 [Monday 4/13/26]

Joe @JoeJ415665 , MC @mc6844 - please keep OUR Michelle @MichelleC103656 in your thoughts. OUR dear friend has just lost her 6-year old granddaughter. 😭

I just cannot understand WHY people CANNOT "slow down" - drive carefully.

My heart goes out to you Michelle.

And you know you have a place to be as needed. Yes, with us.

Luv,

Nicole 🤗🤗🤗 (Grief Forum)

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Thanks, Nicole for sharing.

I've already had a conversation with the BIG GUY.

Nothing tears at me more than innocence taken so young.

Joe

📎 [Monday 4/13/26]

Dear Joe @JoeJ415665 , we are totally honored to have you with us.

Keep stopping by to see us.

Luv,

Nicole 🤗🤗🤗 (Grief Forum)

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Good morning, Nicole,

Thanks for the kind words. I can't remember the last time, if ever, I was considered "honored".

I will stop by from time-to-time. At present I'm kicking myself for being delinquent in completing my first children's book. 0ver 140 pages containing over 21,000 words. Not a toddler's book.

Take care, hear from me soon!!

Luv,

Joe

📎 [Tuesday 4/14/26]

Lol, don't kick yourself too hard Joe @JoeJ415665 !!!

We all have "seasons" in our journey and like the weather "ours" change.

You will FINISH your book.

Sounds like a "change" just took place for you = getting back to YOUR book.

Yes, please stop by when you can dear friend.

Luv,

Nicole 🤗🤗🤗 (Grief Forum)

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I'll try to limit the kicking; however, my butt is pretty sore now. 😉

Joe

@monique1112 , SO GLAD you stopped by to see us!!! 🤗💛

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Good advice, as always, Nicole!!

In the past two years I made a new will, executor, power of attorney for both personal and medical situations. I even created my obituary because no one knows my life better than me (sad to say). I'm 78 and will be 79 in 13 days. It's never too early to plan. You can enter the pearly gates worry free and those left behind will thank you.