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[WhereIsSpring]

Dear @mr6784 , I am SO SORRY for your loss!!!

Luv,

Nicole 🤗🤗🤗 (Grief Forum)

[mc6844]

It's a good time of year not to take anything on, or lose ourselves in what could become exhausting. Being older prevents me from that lol. And of course it does nothing to alleviate the pain of loss. So what activities help everyone on the forum refresh our minds and keep our spirits calm? Watching movies is good. No heavy topics. I like Westerns. Why? The scenery is beautiful and calming. Comedies are good. Paul Blatt Mall Cop 2 has some very funny scenes. There are many interesting series too. Of course it takes time to be able to sit still. That is ok too. I hope everyone finds something to help them refresh minds and spirits. 

[Cadee2719]

 Morning Nicole.  Yes, I got my ultrasounds scheduled for 11/26.  Being that it is taking place in the center of town, my son is taking me.  Downtown is filled with one way streets and quite busy so I AVOID it at all costs.   Finding someone to refill my diabetes medication has been a challenge.  The doctor in California has retired and the doctor I saw here cannot do it.  They are suggesting I go to the ER and have them fill it????  Moving to a new area and arranging for new doctors has taken 6 months to do and has been a CHALLENGE.  I am hoping that the family doctor I have an appointment with in December can help me resolve all these problems.    The holidays are coming and it is hard.  This will be my first Thanksgiving and Christmas in my new home; a big adjustment for me.  I miss my husband, son and brother more than ever.  November 25 my husband  & I would have celebrated our 63 wedding anniversary.  I moved to a state that my son was planning on moving to and now I am here without him.   Funny how LIFE has a different plan for me.  

[MarcyW882921]

Cadee,

I hope your ultrasound appointment goes well tomorrow and I'm glad your son is taking you. I'm so sorry that finding continuity for your medical care has been so challenging! I admire your perseverance and hope that it will yield some positive results for you very soon.

I know moving can be stressful even without having to deal with doctors. I remember feeling pretty alone when we moved south. I don't know if you are interested, but Grief Works does webinars periodically and they are doing one on December 2nd about navigating The holiday season. You can find it at illume apps.com in the Community Live tab. Maybe it would be helpful as you are trying to get through the holidays in your new home.

Sending hugs,

Marcy

[WhereIsSpring]

@mc6844 @MarcyW882921 @Cadee2719 @jonibee check your AARP PMs. I just sent you guys a "heads up". Been a peaceful 6 months here in the Grief Forum since the last drama this year's Mother's Day 2024. I am hoping with the visit today, we donot have a repeat performance. Missing poor and dear Allen @Therapist4u . Hope he is okay and will stop by again. Sad when certain folks feel a need to drive folks away. Lol, same person had driven me away last year Father's Day 2023. Luv you ALL, Nicole  🤗🤗🤗  (Grief Forum)

[Cadee2719]

 Sad that some people feel it is necessary to critique others, especially those working hard to find peace and love for those going through a very difficult time in their lives.  I admire the people on this site for being strong and wanting to help others on this journey.  We share our lives with each other because we care about each other and understand the highs and lows we experience.  We do not criticize each other because WE are OUR harshest critics.  This site has provided me with helpful information, smiles, laughter and a sense of connection with those that truly understand.  Nicole, Thank You for all that you do and the commitment that you have for being here for us.   ❤️

[WhereIsSpring]

Cadee @Cadee2719 , thank you SO MUCH for "supporting" the grievers who stop by. This Grief Forum is suppose to be a place EVERYONE can be themselves. WE have lost so many people due to the drama and jealously. Allen @Therapist4u is the latest. I miss his HUMOR in spite of the HELL he is going through. AARP owns this Grief Forum!!!  👍👍👍

Luv,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗  (Grief Forum)

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[*** CADEE wrote: Sad that some people feel it is necessary to critique others, especially those working hard to find peace and love for those going through a very difficult time in their lives.  I admire the people on this site for being strong and wanting to help others on this journey.  We share our lives with each other because we care about each other and understand the highs and lows we experience.  We do not criticize each other because WE are OUR harshest critics.  This site has provided me with helpful information, smiles, laughter and a sense of connection with those that truly understand.  Nicole, Thank You for all that you do and the commitment that you have for being here for us.   ❤️  ***]

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[mc6844]

I hope Allen is ok too! 🙏 

[WhereIsSpring]

♻️♻️♻️  Good Morning Suzanne @SuzanneS949035 !!!

How are you TODAY?

I am here IF and when you need me!!!

I hope you slept last night.

I am thinking of YOU.

Luv,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗  (Grief Forum)

[SuzanneS949035]

 Hello Nicole,

I'm hanging in there one day at a time.   His adult kids came this past weekend to get some of his things I thought they should have of his.

I'm still dragging my tail not moving forward with any routine, just trying to cover all bases and figure out if I can afford to keep my house.

I'm ok until someone asks about him, then it comes rushing back like it just happened.

HOping the woulduve, coulduve, shoulduve stuff moves on so I can stop tormenting myself and second guessing what I could have done different to help him.

I'm trying.....

I hope you're doing well.

Suzanne

[WhereIsSpring]

♻️♻️♻️  Hello dear Suzanne @SuzanneS949035 , how are you doing?

I hope you will stop by again.

Luv,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗  (Grief Forum)

[SuzanneS949035]

Hello Nicole,

The holidays have been rough as I imagine they are for so many with lost loved ones.

Didn't put the big tree up this year, my heart wasn't in it.   Ironic, that last year he was in the hospital for every single holiday, including his birthday and out anniversary.   I guess that was an early warning of what was to come.

Slowly sorting thru all of his stuff.   The garage looks like a hardware store, not even sure where to start.   In a few months I need to sell the house to move some place less expensive, with taxes and insurance going up, its too much with only one paying the bills.

I pray you had a lovely thanksgiving and that you will be enjoying Christmas with your daughter, thank you for reaching out, it helps remind me that I need to keep moving forward.

Hugs to you and everyone this season,

Suzanne

[WhereIsSpring]

Dear Suzanne @SuzanneS949035 , I DO NOT do the holidays, but admire the folks who do. Maybe one day I too will. 👍

I am SO SORRY to hear about you having to downsize. But as Marcy @MarcyW882921 said - this may force you into taking a step towards dealing with that clutter we all have during our Healing Journey.

YOU ARE DOING GREAT!!!

I am here IF you need me.

Luv,

Nicole 🤗🤗🤗 (Grief Forum)

[MarcyW882921]

Hi Suzanne @SuzanneS949035 . Yes, this can be a really difficult time of year.

 Not putting up your big tree was your decision, and it's ok. Unfortunately, the unhappy memories of your husband's hospitalizations and illnesses during the past year are consuming your thoughts and not allowing your heart to be in the holiday spirit this year. Your grief is part of you, and in time, you will grow around it and create new memories.

Sorting through all of the stuff can be overwhelming! I just told a friend about the amount of stuff in my house that I have not had the fortitude to tackle after two years! Maybe your need to sell the house will turn out to be positive because you will have to deal with the stuff. 

Keep taking a step at a time Suzanne!

Marcy

[SuzanneS949035]

Hello,

Each day is better, in some ways, in others worse when I encounter surprise financial responsibilities I will need to resolve placing me in a bad spot.

Today it's anger - grief - disbelief he did this and I didn't know it.

Tomorrow will be a better day.

Thank you for all you do, I hope you're doing well.

Thanks so much

Suzanne

[SuzanneS949035]

Hello Nicole,

Went to the funeral home to sign creation papers.   Trying to sort thru all the financial things and try not to worry.

Thank you for your group, I sincerely appreciate you.

Suzanne

[MarcyW882921]

Suzanne @SuzanneS949035 you have one thing marked off of your list of things to take care of. It can be overwhelming so prioritize the items and work your way through them at a pace you can handle. Some things can't be done until you have death certificates so those will have to wait. Hopefully your funeral director gave you a list to follow and you will feel your burden lighten as you check them off as being done.

You will get through this.

Marcy

[SuzanneS949035]

Suzanne

Thank you, they actually gave me the link for AARP which I already had since I've been a member.

One day I cry the next I can't today is the crying day I think, I finally slept last night after a week, I know he just died Sunday but it still seems so unreal.

He's had many health issues and I have a health background but no one prepared us that the end was here.

His kids are grown and so are mine, hugs to you too.

the future seems so uncertain, unfortunately after I retired I no longer had great life insurance for him and once we were going to his health was too bad.

Thank you again, sincerely

Suzanne 

[WhereIsSpring]

WE will always miss them but as we MOVE FORWARD there will be less tears and more smiles when we think of them.  ‌🤗‌‌🤗‌‌🤗‌

[SuzanneS949035]

 Thank you, those words are very helpful.   Looking forward to reaching the smiles.

[WhereIsSpring]

Migraines are NO FUN Marcy, hope you feel better SOON!!!  🤗🤗🤗

[*** MARCY wrote: I didn't sleep well last night and it triggered a creepy migraine today. I hate giving in to it so I'm fighting it the best I can. ‌😩‌

Marcy ***]

[mc6844]

Marcy, I hope your feeling better!

[MarcyW882921]

I didn't sleep well last night and it triggered a creepy migraine today. I hate giving in to it so I'm fighting it the best I can. 😩

Marcy

[WhereIsSpring]

Yes, it can be Virginia @VirginiaC26708 !!!

Luv,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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[*** VIRGINIA wrote:

At times its very hard ***]

[VirginiaC26708]

At times its very hard

[WhereIsSpring]

You are WELCOME Virginia @VirginiaC26708 !!!

Luv,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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[*** VIRGINIA wrote: x thank You ***]

[VirginiaC26708]

x thank You

[WhereIsSpring]

AARP Expert Amy @agoyer has some WISDOM to share after her losses.  🤗🤗🤗

I have "pasted" the link BELOW to her post in OUR GRIEF SUPPORT GROUP located in the AARP Friends & Family Forum. She is ALWAYS there for us grievers and welcomes questions. Thank you Amy!!!

*** Lol, it takes about 1 minute for link to take you DIRECTLY to her post.  🙄  ***

https://community.aarp.org/t5/Friends-Family/A-Place-To-Be-With-OTHERS-Who-Are-Grieving-WE-support-e...

[agoyer]

@WhereIsSpring Thank you! And thank you for all that you do! 

[WhereIsSpring]

♻️  [Thursday 9/5/24 10:51am ET]

Okay guys, I MISS YOU ALL!!!

Since we are NO longer allowed to continue with Our Daily Chat Thread here in the Grief Forum - AARP had suggested STARTING one in their Friends & Family Forum.

Lol, I had told them NO ONE posts there anymore and forum has died over the years.  🙄🙄🙄

But, how about we give it a try???

Any takers???

I am heading out to library down my hill to hopefully hand wash my car in PEACE. Yes, need me some of that. Here at apartment way too many folks want to borrow my ears. NOT TODAY.

I am heading to PM the Grief Team (well, before we disbanded last month due to new rules).

I can set up a NEW THREAD there for us to CONTINUE to nurture each other on Our Healing Journeys!!!  💃💃💃

Luv you ALL my friends,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗