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Evening all, I got back from Ohio for my wife's memorial last Saturday. It both sad and uplifting at the same time.  My family got through it and my kids delivered some very special comments about their Mom.  We did not share our comments prior, but the words nurturing, strong, funny, bold, loving and caring came out in all of our comments.  It was a needed step for us to move forward.  One special item was my son (youngest at 28) found a memory box with note cards for the guests to write down their favorite memory of my wife.  Later that evening, after the event was over, my family was sitting outside relaxing and we took turns reading from the stack as we passed the cards around.  It was so touching and special. I suggest that you all try it at a memorial too.

So up next for my journey is a few birthdays and the holidays.  I'll be ready...

Take care y'all, Bill

And how are you Nicole? 

Good Morning Nicole.  🖐  

Two days ago I posted under the “How are you doing” thread, which has gotten buried under the other threads. It was to let everyone know that I wasn’t doing well and would be stepping away temporarily to focus on my mental health. It has been brought to my attention that it could upset some people and I was made to feel that I was not wanted on this site anymore. That person knows who she is. I have always thought I gave good advice and my presence helped people but apparently I was mistaken. I appreciate all the help I’ve received along the way on this forum. If I’m mistaken in these feelings, that person could answer my PM and see how I feel. But not the case so I will be stepping away permanently. There is no worse feeling in the world to feel that you and your contributions are not welcomed. God bless you all 😥

Nicole @Nicole439658 , I saw a post from 9-15 in an Email but don't see it here. I'm glad that you got some good news from your Medicare prescription coverage. Perhaps things are starting to settle in with your new coverage. I had my fingers crossed that it would happen for you soon!

Marcy

I'm not sure I received a current posting about Beatlelover KT who stepped away from this site last year.  I think there were a number of encouraging words to KT and I hope is she doing ok.  While most folks posting comments are well-intentioned, there may be a few that have issues.  I am happy to say that I don't remember seeing any myself.  On the other hand, I have been very self-reflective over the last 2 years, so I may have missed a nuance or two.  In my view, unless someone is really out of line, I would give grace to anyone posting and understand that they are probably in pain and could be lashing out in what they perceive to be a safe zone.  I don't know and hope those individuals seek grief support to help them work through their issues.  This site is effective for open comments but does not take the place of professional grief support.  That is why I joined several grief groups, most of which were helpful in some way.  Sue

Look at you = INSERTING a "link" = getting better at using the site  💃💃💃

Thanks for article - will READ after Walmart TODAY when I get there  🙄🙄🙄

Yes, "dragging" my feet/lol  😂🤣

Marcy @MarcyW882921 , this is a TOPIC my family NEVER "allowed" = emotions and sadness. I brought up my only child (a daughter) to feel COMFORTABLE with how she is feeling.

I stayed DEPRESSED and ashamed.

Nope, NO MORE!!!

YOU are a "blessing"...

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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[*** MARCY @MarcyW882921 wrote:

Nicole @SummerOnTheWay1 ,

In a discussion with a social worker, the topic of traumatic grief came up. I was horrified at the sound of the words. Coming from a family that had your "pull yourself up by your bootstraps" philosophy, the thought that someone would be so immobilized by grief was unheard of and unacceptable. 

Reading information from different sources helped me to learn about the subject and broaden my thought process. Here is one article that is pretty straightforward and my be helpful.

 

traumatic-grief

 

Marcy ***]

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‌👣‌‌👣‌‌👣‌  You will see your loved ones AGAIN!

“Only time and tears take away grief; that is what they are for.”

~Terry Pratchett, I Shall Wear Midnight

Thanks Marcy @MarcyW882921  , Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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[*** MARCY @MarcyW882921 wrote:

GriefWorks is based in the UK and offers a package for a fee. They do however have free monthly webinars, they send out tips for coping with grief via Email, and they have an online group where people post their thoughts. Marcy ***]

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So I have recently lost my older brother to cancer. He fought the hard battle with some victories but ultimately succumbing to the disease. It was hard to watch this process and I supported him in many ways. Now I find myself alone as the sole survivor of my immediate family. I was very close with my family and miss them all dearly. I find accepting the grief seems easier than accepting the loneliness of my sole survivorship. Anyone else have this revelation?