🤗 WE are thinking of YOU! Please Stop By To See Us :)

👣 1 Step At A Time!!!

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CatherineS641676

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Thank you, my dear friend-I will give it a go, and again-please keep in touch. I care very much about you

Catherine @CatherineS641676 (1) Go to the "Grief Forum". (2) Click on "WE are thinking of YOU! Please Stop By To See Us :)". (3) Look at top of window that opens to find "Topic Options". ➡️***Click on "Topic Options"***⬅️ (4) A drop down menu will show. Click on "Unsubscribe" - this will stop all AARP emails for this topic. Nicole 🤗🤗🤗

📎 Jonibee @jonibee , those books sound awesome!!! 🤗🤗🤗

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I came across two paperback books that would be helpful in dealing with grief..One is called Zen Gardening by Veronica Ray (A down to faith philosophy) meditation along with starting anew in gardening whether it be small/large. The other one is "Healing After Loss" by Martha W. Hickman a daily meditation for working through grief..Todays messaage "I will read in the times I can be happy-which is what my loved one would want for me"also an excerpt which reads..."Whereas previously our moods seemed simply sad with occssional patches of light, now we may find an unsetiling variety in our feelings, as happy times seem engrossing and satisfying and then we are plunged into sadness again. Perhaps we can learn to accept these mood swings, recognizing the ability of each, know light gives way to darkness and darkness to light. I believe these two would be helpful to those dealing with grief..I found them at the Salvation Army thrift store with in ones fiancial level...

Have a PEACFUL day!!!

Nicole 🤗🤗🤗

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MarcyW882921

Community Champion ⭐⭐

Back at you Nicole @SummerOnTheWay1 !

Marcy

♻️ [1 comment] WE are all at different "stages" of OUR HEALING JOURNEY.

Some of us are making CHANGES that will help us to MOVE FORWARD.

*** Everyone is invited to add THEIR journey to this discussion 🤗🤗🤗

[1] We have Cadee @Cadee2719 who has SOLD HER HOUSE 💃💃💃 and moving to Idaho!

[2] Our "Social Butterfly" Marcy @MarcyW882921 has taken SOLO ROAD TRIPS AND SOCIALIZING!

[3] MC @mc6844 ?

[4] Jonibee @jonibee is TAKING CARE OF HER HEALTH! Anything to add Jonibee?

[5] And me, really need to "socialize" 🙄 but I am getting things SET UP to lay my old head somewhere in Florida.

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I am still in the appt stage of two more specialist to see because in todays world things are not as fast as we would like them to be..I am happy that Spring is almost upon us so planning for outside garden is on my to do list..I continue to read as knitting is out due to carpal tunnel in one hand and that's a bummer..I think that when I was the caretaker my husband needs took priority over my health needs and now I am facing the music so to speak..I will continue to remain positive in any outcome health wise and attend to that..Hoping all is fine with you all ...One day at a time...

📎 Are you SLEEPING at nights? 🤔

What "helps" you to get those zzz's in?

I DREAD nights.

Some I am AWAKE ALL NIGHT.

Nicole 🤗🤗🤗

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I think everyone has a "window" when they can get to sleep. Around the same time each night. Keeping busy all day, exercise and keeping blood sugar even. Occasionally none of this helps. Then I play a sleep meditation or healing tape. I've read that older people sleep an average of 4 to 5 hours a night. The good news is that morning arises. I know it isn't easy.

📎 MC @mc6844 , I am okay the NEXT morning with NO sleep IF I donot have to drive. That is NO fun at all!!! Nicole 🤗🤗🤗

📎 Thank you Allen @Therapist4u and MC @mc6844 🤗🤗🤗

Therapist4u

Community Champion ⭐

Hi Nicole! Great compilation!

KUDOS FOR ALL YOUR EFFORT & TIME YOU PUT INTO THIS!

Keep on Keeping on!

Take care!

☮️ 🌄 ~Allen 🌈 🎨

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Allen, I agree. Nicole does a wonderful job on this forum. Lots of thought and devotion.

📎 Marcy @MarcyW882921 , hmmm - do you mean setting up the home you shared with a luv one who passed?

In your case, your husband.

[1] The challenge is the bedroom deciding whether to keep the bed you BOTH slept in. Are you keeping yours? I tend to want "reminders" gone - not things like pictures, just furniture.

[2] Another challenge is maybe the ROUTINE you may have had with him. Maybe a garden, or sitting on a porch for morning coffee or watching TV in the evenings. Now the garden can be THERAPY as we can continue to work in it to "honor" him. As far as TV programs - that one is "emotional" and stepping away for some time helped.

Not sure what you are needing but this is my 2 cents worth.

Luv you STRONG AND DETERMINED lady!!! Nicole 🤗🤗🤗

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MarcyW882921

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So...I would be interested in hearing about anyone's journey to create a living space of your own after the loss of a loved one.

Marcy

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Marcy, that is a good topic. Arranging living space is a great way to move oneself forward. Especially if I'm not up to conventional ways like for instance, moving. A counselor pointed out to me that selling my home may feel like another loss. Something that hadn't occurred to me. I did get clutter cleared from my kitchen. Painted the walls. It makes it easier and pleasant.

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I came across a book that gives us insight as to how to deal with the loss of loved ones and pets. It's titled "The Love Never Ends" by Sunny Dawn Johnson ..Well worth checking it out....

📎 Jonibee @jonibee , where did you get YOUR copy? Nicole 🤗🤗🤗

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I believe it was from Thrift Books.com .Another great place is the Salvation Army but you have to delve into looking ...

📎 AT SOME POINT OF OUR "HEALING JOURNEY" WE ARE READY TO GET BACK OUT THERE TO SOCIALIZE. ARE YOU? Nicole 🤗🤗🤗 ‌

Me - finally "feeling" the interest to locate some PEACEFUL interactions with folks MY AGE [66 this year 2024]. Lol, had visited the local Senior Center and lost interest once I encountered I guess the member who feels she runs it. Rude and controlling. I had hoped the place would be run by the County who owns it. Guess not.

So NOW to figure out some other "possibilities" and research some other ideas [as I find them].

Nicole ‌🤗‌

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Nicole, I got a chuckle when I read your post. I could just see you encountering this person, then walking out. So many groups are like that. Have you tried wildlife rescue? I think there's a whole network of people rescuing injured wildlife and getting them to rescue locations. They have people who pick up the animals. It sounds very interesting and rewarding. Just a suggestion!

📎 Lol MC @mc6844 🤣😂 and I did "try" to be NICE to her but...

Yes, here in Cave Spring (Virginia), they do the wildlife thing. 👍

📎 WHAT HAS BEEN THE HARDEST PART OF YOUR HEALING JOURNEY? 🤔

Me - anger. Anger at NOT having the Love Ones I lost in my life as I age. 66 this year (2024). Nicole ‌‌🤗🤗🤗‌‌