🕯 A Place To Be With OTHERS Who Are Grieving! WE support each other.

1 comment (Friday 11/3/23)

Marcy @MarcyW882921 💙

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Nicole @SummerOnTheWay1 ,

Is this a name change? You must be trying to keep me on my toes! LOL

Wishing you a restful night.

🤗

Marcy

👣 1 Step At A Time!

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KimberlyM389662

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Extreme anger is my challenge. I am very angry that he left his children. Our daughter is getting married next year and our son is adult profoundly autistic. I either want to throw and break things or scream until I can't speak anymore. I'm not sure that anyone knows that I have a physical mental health illness. There is something wrong with my amygdala. The amygdala is a paired structure (the two are considered one brain area) inside your temporal lobe. It's a key part of emotional control and processes. It also plays a role in memory and learning. Either way I go from panic attacks to extreme crying fits which also causes me to panic. I just don't know what I want to do anymore except stay away from people but then again I feel these walls are closing in on me. I am also angry because I want to be able to do normal things around the house and can't because of my back and complications. I'm afraid they are going to operate again and then who is going to take care of my son. My daughter has her own life and already has more than enough on her plate and my Mom is starting to lose her memory.

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Kimberly @KimberlyM389662 ,

It sounds like you have an extraordinary amount of stress on top of physical and emotional issues. I'm hoping that you are connected with some professionals with expertise in your areas of need. If not maybe you could get appropriate referrals by calling 211?

Thinking of you.

Marcy

1 comment (Sunday 11/5/23)

I AM THINKING OF YOU TODAY! 💙💙💙

MC @mc6844

Community Champion ⭐⭐

Thank you Nicole. Wishing you well, and all on the site well, too!

1 comment (Sunday 11/5/23)

Marcy @MarcyW882921 , you have YOUR HOUR back!!! 💃

And I have my TISSUES ready for when SUNSET is at 5pm EST tonight. 😭

I hope EVERYONE got some "rest" LAST NIGHT....

I did and GRATEFUL! 😎

Hey, about time after ALL THOSE NIGHTS lately of NO REST. Feeling NORMAL, well - whatever normal is these days. But let's say - feeling SANE. 👍 I do not function at all with NO SLEEP!

Find YOUR peace TODAY...

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Nicole @SummerOnTheWay1 ,

Woo hoo! I'm glad to have my hour back and was feeling grateful to wake up and have light outside.

Thinking of you and hoping you are getting your daughter fix today.

Marcy

👣 1 Step At A Time!

Community Champion ⭐⭐

Things that have helped me include: family, friends, singing in a chorus, being out in nature, reading, attending a bereavement group, interacting with people on the Grief & Loss forum, volunteering in the community, and reigniting my spirituality (not in a hierarchical order.)

Marcy

👣 1 Step At A Time!

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Ellabillie

Contributor ⭐

I’m so lonely without Ron. It hurts my heart.

I leave our place to run an errand and then come home to Ron not being there. When does it stop hurting. I can’t imagine it will.thank God for our 2 fur babies.they comfort me and sleep with me.

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Im so sorry your missing your Ron. Holiday season can make the missing more intense. I try to keep things simple. Knowing that going through loss isn't easy. But with loss there's also growth.For your Ron where he is. And where you are. Have you looked at the Signs From Loved Ones topic on the forum? I believe our deceased loved ones are closer than we think. More will be revealed as we travel this journey. Take care, and look for the ways Ron speaks to your heart.

1 comment (Tuesday11/7/23)

⏰ WITH TIME...

Living "humans" come into our lives for a SEASON AND A REASON.

Some STAY, some LEAVE.

Just KNOW, that ONE DAY/NIGHT we will UNDERSTAND why.

Took me a YEAR to figure this out. Spent way TOO MUCH time TRYING to "hang onto" humans who needed to EXIT my life!

Their EXIT was because THEIR season/reason had EXPIRED or they were NO LONGER/HAVE NEVER been "destined" to be in your life.

It is a FREEING feeling once we realize this and it ALSO "encourages" us to IMPROVE upon our "relationships" - old, new and potential.

So get out there. Be BRAVE. YOU can do it!!!! 😎

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Nicole @SummerOnTheWay1,

Reading your post about living humans in your life reminded me of a chapter in a book I am reading. The book is Build the Life You Want by Arthur C. Brooks & Oprah Winfrey. There is a chapter about friends and they are described in two categories "real and deal." Your real friends are those close friends that you confide in and the relationship endures and the deal friends are ones that serve a purpose in your life (or maybe you serve a purpose in their life) for a period of time and then it ends.

You described the process well. Identify who these people are and how they fit into your life. If their purpose or your purpose is over, it is ok to let go. If however they are someone that you respect, admire, confide in, trust, etc., invest the time and energy to maintain that relationship over time.

Marcy

2 comments (Wednesday 11/8/23)

🚗🚘 My Out Of Food Walmart Run TODAY!

See you later....

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KimberlyM389662

Conversationalist ⭐⭐

Nicole, I am sorry that I haven't posted anything in a while. I have just been dealing with everything and trying to not drown in. It's been building and building up and I just some days feel like I am barely holding my breath and head above the waves. It's just one after another. I am trying my best to make sure my son has everything and everyone he needs. I have some really great friends and neighbors that are supportive and helpful. On a positive note, I have attached 2 new pictures of our mascot taken this morning. I took him to PetSmart with me last week. We put him on a scale and at 5 months he weighed 39.2 pounds. I hope these pictures cheer all of us up at least a little bit today because let's face it, if there is nothing else that can make you smile it's a puppy face. I just ask if everyone could just send some prayers my way and when I am ready I will privately message you about everything that's been going on. Here's our beautiful boy.

2.5 MB of 2.5 MB

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Thank you for posting Kimberly. He definitely is a beautiful pup! Glad he's with you and hope you get to feeling better.

1 comment (Wednesday 11/8/23)

I am Walmart but had to say THANKS for the pictures 💙🐕🐶 Kim @KimberlyM389662 !!! 💃💃💃

Lol, finally HE IS AWAKE 😂🤣

Luv you,

Nicole 🤗

📸 Mom Kim has attached 2 pictures of Our Boy 📸

✏@KimberlyM389662 wrote:

Nicole, I am sorry that I haven't posted anything in a while. I have just been dealing with everything and trying to not drown in. It's been building and building up and I just some days feel like I am barely holding my breath and head above the waves. It's just one after another. I am trying my best to make sure my son has everything and everyone he needs. I have some really great friends and neighbors that are supportive and helpful. On a positive note, I have attached 2 new pictures of our mascot taken this morning. I took him to PetSmart with me last week. We put him on a scale and at 5 months he weighed 39.2 pounds. I hope these pictures cheer all of us up at least a little bit today because let's face it, if there is nothing else that can make you smile it's a puppy face. I just ask if everyone could just send some prayers my way and when I am ready I will privately message you about everything that's been going on. Here's our beautiful boy.

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Community Champion ⭐⭐

looks very cute!

2 comments (Thursday 11/9/23)

I AM THINKING OF YOU TODAY! 💙💙💙

Bill @BillH490171

BillH490171

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Good morning and hope everyone is enjoying this day. Here in southwest VA, the leaves have turned and are falling like crazy. I'll be out some raking and moving them around some.

As we move into the holiday season, this will be the first one without my spouse for myself and my kids. I've read some ideas on how to deal with this "first" in the year of firsts. I plan to be away from my house, busy as I can be, and then celebrate Thanksgiving with 3 of my 4 kids on Friday.

Anyone have any tips that worked for you in getting through the holidays?

Take care, Bill