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[KimberlyM389662]

@mc6844 . I have the best support system.  My Mom and my best friend of 50 years.  I have 4 different appointments each month and, 1 is my therapist every 2 weeks. I am trying to focus on me and doing things that I put off. A physical with my PCP and GYN as well as a eye exam. I need to be here for my kids.  I am also going to have a second opinion with another neurological specialist (spine) just because I think that I need to. I called my surgeon about my increased pain and frequent falls and,  his response was to call my PCP. My PRIMARY CARE didn't dy my SURGERY, he did. It was 2 years ago on believe it or not April Fools Day. I have now been in pain for 3 years.  My fall was December 28, 2020. It's time for someone else who will listen and tell me what needs to be done.  I know that I am always going to have some pain,  I mean I broke multiple vertebrae and 2 titanium rods and 9 screws but,  I should not be in pain and agony every day for the rest of my life.  

[MarcyW882921]

Kimberly @KimberlyM389662 ,

It sounds like you have an extraordinary amount of stress on top of physical and emotional issues. I'm hoping that you are connected with some professionals with expertise in your areas of need. If not maybe you could get appropriate referrals by calling 211?

Thinking of you.

Marcy

[SummerIsTooHOT]

1 comment (Friday 11/3/23)

Marcy @MarcyW882921 💙

[MarcyW882921]

Nicole @SummerIsTooHOT ,

Is this a name change? You must be trying to keep me on my toes! LOL

Wishing you a restful night.

🤗

Marcy

[SummerIsTooHOT]

1 comment (Friday 11/3/23)

You are welcome dear Jonibee @jonibee !!! Lol, I can be a PEST when it comes to checking on folks 🤣😂 So TRYING to pester less! 🙄

Gosh, I am SO READY for your fingers to get better. 😤

And NEXT WEEK, you will be in my thoughts and prayers dear friend. 🙏

Luv you,

Nicole 🤗

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✏@jonibee wrote:

Just checking in to say hello...I have to return to the Ortho doctor for a cortisone shot next week as my fingers are still numb feeling. Next week will be the one year anniversay of my husband' passing...My daughters and I will visit a restaurant in his memory as he use to like to go out to eat periodiaclly and enjoyed doing so along with family..So in his honor we shall share a meal together...Life goes on as it well should but it is a bitter sweet time for me with out him here...Thank You for thinking of me...jonibee✏

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[MarcyW882921]

Jonibee @jonibee ,

Since I can cross my fingers, I will do that with hope that you will find some relief at the Ortho doctor for your fingers next week. I'm glad you have plans with family for getting through your one year anniversary. Sending thoughts for healing and strength as you go through the week.

Marcy

[SummerIsTooHOT]

👣  1 Step At A Time!

[jonibee]

Just checking in to say hello...I have to return to the Ortho doctor for a cortisone shot next week as my fingers are still numb feeling. Next week will be the one year anniversay of my husband' passing...My daughters and I will visit a restaurant in his memory as he use to like to go out to eat periodiaclly and enjoyed doing so along with family..So in his honor we shall share a meal together...Life goes on as it well should but it is a bitter sweet time for me with out him here...Thank You for thinking of me...jonibee

[mc6844]

Take care Jonibee. I hope your fingers feel better. In many countries a place is set at the table for the deceased, as they believe their loved ones are always with them.

[SummerIsTooHOT]

👣  1 Step At A Time!

[MarcyW882921]

I am thinking of you too Nicole @SummerIsTooHOT!

Marcy

[SummerIsTooHOT]

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[mc6844]

Getting back to an activity that's engrossing relieves stress. Reading, needlework etc  I'm not much on reading these days. I still find needlework satisfying. Except I need bigger squares on cross stitch fabric

Lol. It's also tiring. Doesn't take much to get tired these days. 

[MarcyW882921]

Nicole @ NicoleW439658, 

I am waiting on a table for my kitchen and a screw for my bathroom towel bar and my remodeling will finally be done! I am so close!

Marcy

[SummerIsTooHOT]

1 comment (Tuesday 10/31/23)

Marcy @MarcyW882921 , as usual, I am totally confused with all this! 🙄 So THE TIME CHANGE THIS SUNDAY 11/5, should make you HAPPY? 🤔 And me SAD/lol 🤣😂

Luv You,

Nicole 🤗

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✏@MarcyW882921 wrote:

Nicole @SummerIsTooHOT, I like when it is dark at night time and when it is light in the morning. Changing times messes up my body's natural time clock and I have a harder time keeping a consistent schedule.

Marcy✏

[MarcyW882921]

Yes Nicole @SummerIsTooHOT! I am looking forward to the time change! I want my hour back.

Marcy

[SummerIsTooHOT]

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[mc6844]

I solved problem of outside light by getting solar floodlights. Ones I  got have spikes. And go on and off by themselves.

 Can be put in potted plant, moved, etc.  They work good. Lessens electric bill. 

[MarcyW882921]

I am more vigilant about identifying things each day that I am grateful for. When any angry feelings arise, I am taking a step back and thinking through the situation. Both have reduced my level of stress.

Marcy

[SummerIsTooHOT]

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[SummerIsTooHOT]

6 comments (Monday 10/30/23)

Dear Cadee @Cadee2719 , YOU are ALWAYS here for us IN SPITE of losing your hubbie, son and brother ALL WITHIN A FEW MONTHS of each other.

You are SO STRONG AND CARING and I luv you SO MUCH my friend.

I am ALWAYS here for you 💙💙💙

You are in my prayers and thoughts,

[MarcyW882921]

Thinking of you today dear Cadee @Cadee2719. Today may be more difficult than others. I know you are a strong woman, but I am sending you some extra support, love, and caring! You will get through this day. ❤️

Marcy

[Cadee2719]

Thank You for your kind words and thoughts.  It was a difficult week for me.  I have ordered the gravestone for my husband and went to put flowers on his and my son's graves.  It was a lonely, sad feeling.  I stayed home and had very little contact with people to work my way through the sadness.  My son's home sold so on November 9th we flew to Idaho to look at homes.  He bought a beautiful home which will close the end of this month.  I found three communities that I would love to live in and instructed my realtor to begin the search.  I have A LOT of work here to do to prepare to sale my home and pack.  I guess it was a good thing that I already replaced the sewer system, electric panel, water heater, pool equipment and replaced all the appliances!!!!   Now the work begins.  It will be a new beginning for me, near my last remaining brother, in a place that is safe to walk and live without fear of being attacked or robbed.  (What a concept)  I also got an appointment on 12/21 to see the rheumatologist and hope that he can discover the reason for all the leg pain.  Things are looking up for me and I am excited.  ♥️

[MarcyW882921]

Cadee @Cadee2719,

You made it through a very difficult week and did it in your own way. The feelings won't disappear, but you live on with all of your fond memories.

Now you are expressing excitement about the changes on your horizon. You have put all of the repair work in on your current home so that leaves the packing to do. It's great that your son has sold his home and has a closing on his new home. You made the trip to Idaho and found three potential communities for you and that's terrific. You have a doctor's appointment scheduled in December and soon you will be near your brother in a place where you will feel safe again. 

I am so happy for you and impressed with all that you have accomplished!👏🙂

Marcy

[Cadee2719]

Thank You Marcy for your support.  I truly appreciate the fact that my son is willing to pick up his practice and relocate to another state with me.  There I will be near my last remaining sibling and his wife and a grandson; the last of my immediate family.  That seems important to me at this stage of my life.  I still struggle to speak about my husband, son and brother without crying.  I am hoping to get stronger.  I decided that I would leave the home I loved for the past 46 years to be near family and to be SAFE.  NOW the work begins!  I cannot express my gratitude to the friends I have on this site.  Without your support, I would not have made it and I love you all for being there for me.  I am happy that your remodeling is done and you are slowly recovering.  I will keep you informed of my journey.  ❤️

[SummerIsTooHOT]

1 comment (10/29/23)

WHAT ARE YOU GRATEFUL FOR TODAY/TONIGHT?  🤔  They say we get MORE good things when we appreciate the ones that come our way! 👍

Me: GRATEFUL my Neighbor From H.ll has been gone SINCE October 15th. Party Time DOUBLE TIME 💃💃💃💃💃💃

[MarcyW882921]

I am grateful for the beautiful sunshine, less wind, birds that sing lovely songs, friends/family who text, call, and post, strangers who smile and say hello, and safe travel today!

Marcy

[SummerIsTooHOT]

1 comment (Sunday 10/29/23)

👋  Sunday Chat!

Well we have Marcy @MarcyW882921 off on her 1st SOLO trip this weekend!!! SO PROUD OF YOU my friend. 💃💃💃

My daughter also was on the road this weekend.

I pray they BOTH make it back home SAFELY... 🙏

Nothing planned for TODAY so far except my ☕COFFEE 🙄. Hey, that is the MOST IMPORTANT event of my day./lol 🤣😂

Find YOUR peace TODAY,

[MarcyW882921]

Hi Nicole @SummerIsTooHOT! 

I am back home safe and sound! It is a new adventure traveling alone. Some parts were OK and others not so much. I'm glad I gave a short trip a try.

Marcy

[SummerIsTooHOT]

👣  1 Step At A Time!