WE ARE SORRY about your loss 💛

[Saturday 10/3/26]

♻️‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌   What are YOU dealing with at THE MOMENT? ‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌

NEVER feel ashamed about any challenges you are facing.

WE ALL will have them at some point of our lives.

*** Stop by to SHARE when you feel up to it and/or SUPPORT another griever (with a comment to their post). Members helping members. ‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌

We are ALWAYS here IF you need us (listen & chat & support).

Grief & Loss Team ‌‌ ‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌🤗

[Saturday 10/3/26 5:15pm ET]

Dear ​@l124289r , what has "helped" me at age 68 is to FOCUS on the things that FILL ME UP. We cannot always AVOID "toxic" people in our lives, but we can try to LIMIT our time with them. People rarely change. But we can CHANGE how they "affect" us. Trust me, I still battle with "issues" from my VERY DYSFUNCTIONAL family life. Hmmm, have you tried "counseling"? I am SO SORRY you are dealing with all this.

Luv,

Nicole 🤗🤗🤗 (Grief Forum)

➡️[*** L POSTED - loss of my life. just when I think I’ve been devastated til empty, something else is taken from me. my aunt would not listen to me even when she asked so I said I could no longer wait and hope that I would get a word from her. I thought she was respecting my needs but I got another magazine from her this week. I don’t want to reject whatever thing another might be able to do that they consider support but it’s a bit agonizing that people push things at me without accepting anything from me. I’m sorry what I have to say is so hard to take (secondhand) but I must speak of it because it is harder for me to take Firsthand. Maybe I’m just happy when external conditions are good but I don’t think so. Not being considered adds to the trauma. I think some family members listened to my mother too much. She complained about my closing my eyes for school pictures but I had congenital cataracts and surgery before age 30. She said, “everything bothers you” but she also said, “you’re just like your father; he was practically mute.” That her arms hurt so much that Dad slept elsewhere and moaned at night in her sleep later both suggest to me that she had fibromyalgia just like I was diagnosed with around age 30. . . I’ll post this crap as info for others to consider and maybe hear me, but I’ve got to get out of this wallowing!

[Saturday 10/3/26]

TALKING about YOUR grief can feel awkward, but remember, SOME people want to HELP.

Simply SHARING what you NEED, whether it’s a shoulder to CRY on or an ERRAND done on your behalf, can LIGHTEN your emotional load.

‌‌➡️‌‌[*** Not everyone will be there for you, but keep searching for the ones who are. Forgive the ones who are NOT & move on to the NEXT person. ‌‌👍

[Saturday 10/3/26]

📜‌    “NEVER. We never lose our loved ones. They accompany us; they don’t disappear from our lives. We are merely in different rooms.” PAULO COELHO

[Saturday 10/3/26 8:45am ET]

👋   Good Morning Nonie ​@NonieS198048 , ​@Tempest332 , Bill ​@BillD916633 , Kathryn ​@KathrynH966420 , Dena ​@DenaAria , Josephine ​@JosephineG261368 , Mark ​@MarkD524822 , Michelle ​@MichelleC103656 , Marian ​@MarianS446683 & Gail ​@GailF119427 !!!

How are you guys doing?

We hope you will stop by to see us when you can.

Grief & Loss Team 💛 

[Friday 10/2/26 9:30pm ET]

😴  Try to get some "rest" tonight when you head to bed!!!

Luv,

Nicole 🤗🤗🤗 (Grief Forum)

[Friday 10/2/26 8:07pm ET]

Dear Cecilia ​@CeciliaM384861 , you will ALWAYS remember those 5 months dear friend. But as you take 1 step at a time in YOUR NEW LIFE = you will have LESS times of being sad. Grief is a journey, and you are doing GREAT with being Grandma. I bet your grandkids are ENJOYING their time with you.

Luv,

Nicole 🤗💛

➡️[*** CECILIA POSTED - My husband lived only 5 months after being diagnosed with cancer. During those 5 months he spent many weeks in the hospital. I stayed in a motel across from the hospital to be near him. I’m having a very difficult time remembering the happy times we had during our marriage. Instead I keep thinking about those five months and how his health deteriorated and how he suffered. I don’t understand why I’m remembering those awful days versus focusing on the many joyful times we shared. How do I change my memories to the happy days?  

Cecilia

My husband lived only 5 months after being diagnosed with cancer. During those 5 months he spent many weeks in the hospital. I stayed in a motel across from the hospital to be near him. I’m having a very difficult time remembering the happy times we had during our marriage. Instead I keep thinking about those five months and how his health deteriorated and how he suffered. I don’t understand why I’m remembering those awful days versus focusing on the many joyful times we shared. How do I change my memories to the happy days?  

[Friday 10/2/26]

♻️‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌   Stop by to SHARE YOUR JOURNEY!!!

WE will ALWAYS leave a comment in response to YOUR POST. ‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌

Sharing "may" HELP with our healing and "may" also HELP another griever who stops by = members supporting members.

*** They will KNOW there are OTHERS out there and "may" find YOUR solutions to YOUR grief works for them. Thank you for CARING about others. ‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌ ‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌

Grief & Loss Team ‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌🤗

[Friday 10/2/26]

🚗‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌🚘‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌     Driving Safety Risks WHILE GRIEVING!!!

*** When you can, get a RIDE until things settle down for you.

(1) Reduced REACTION Time: Similar to driving intoxicated, grief impairs your ability to react to hazards, making "near misses" or accidents more likely.

(2) Distraction & Disassociation: You may "zone out," forget where you are, or become overwhelmed, leading to missed stop signs or lane drifting.

(3) Sudden EMOTIONAL Surges: Triggers, such as songs or reminders of the deceased, can cause sudden, intense crying that blurs vision and impairs focus.

(4) Physical FATIGUE: Intense loss can cause severe exhaustion, reducing alertness.