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November 25, 2022

🕯 A Place To Be With OTHERS Who Are Grieving! WE support each other.

  • November 25, 2022
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***A place to share and support***

 

Grief & Loss Team 🤎🤗

 

 

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SummerOnTheWay1
November 28, 2023

👣  1 Step At A Time!

 

Contributor ⭐
November 29, 2023

My sweet husband died after a difficult surgery November 6th. I don't know how to live in this big house alone, it's so quiet. The upkeep is alot. Every room has a memory and story and shared items. I feel so heavy, my arms and legs. So **bleep** sad. I worry about money, still waiting for an attorney to do thier part (filing with courts) so I can fulfil my duty set forth in his living will. I'm just damned frightened and so so sad. I suppose this isn't one challenge. It's a challenge to just be me right now...   

Community Champion ⭐⭐
December 1, 2023

Alisa @AlisaH435648 ,

I'm so sorry for the loss of your sweet husband. Yes it probably is a challenge to be you right now because you may very well not know who you are. Your loss is so new and it takes time to figure that out. Your life changes drastically when you are no longer your husband's wife. Identify things you have control of and things that you don't. Take control of the things that you can... one step at a time... when you are ready.

 

Marcy

SummerOnTheWay1
November 28, 2023

2 comments (Tuesday 11/28/23)

 

WHAT ARE YOU GRATEFUL FOR? 🤔

 

(Me) Just got an email from my Online Social Security Account telling me my 2024 NEW/increased Retirement Social Security AMOUNT was available. Yipee, SO GRATEFUL!!! 💃💃💃

 

Therapist4u
Community Champion ⭐
November 29, 2023

Yipee

Yipee

 Nicole's 2024 NEW Retirement Social Security AMOUNT increased....LOL!!🙂

SummerOnTheWay1
November 28, 2023

👣  1 Step At A Time!

 

mc6844
Community Champion ⭐⭐
November 29, 2023

Thank you Nicole. How are you doing? 

SummerOnTheWay1
November 28, 2023

👣  1 Step At A Time!

 

Conversationalist ⭐⭐
November 29, 2023

I was just thinking about that exact thing about my husband. I was in labor for 3 days with both my kids. My daughter's birthday is tomorrow. I remember that her Dad stayed with me the entire time and he was a huge support for me. I also remember the joy on his face when she was born and how proud he was. I am trying to keep that as my best memory other than our wedding day. 

SummerOnTheWay1
November 29, 2023

1 comment (Tuesday 11/28/23)

 

Hi Kim @KimberlyM389662 , yes, those SPECIAL MEMORIES pop up to REMIND AND ENCOURAGE us!!!! 💙💙💙

 

SummerOnTheWay1
November 28, 2023

👣  1 Step At A Time!

 

Conversationalist ⭐⭐
November 28, 2023

Tomorrow is our daughter's 28th birthday. I was sitting here watching the Irwins (Crocodile Hunters family) and just crying through the entire episode because it was the episode where Bindi had her baby. It showed a lot of episodes where Steve became a Dad but, they were talking about how he would be such a great grandfather and how he is with them in spirit and it really hit me that my husband is not going to be here and that's what happened to me. Between me constantly falling, trying to raise my son and fighting social security I am exhausted and can't find the strength to get my other things that I need to get done in my house. I am just tired of trying and not getting it done. 

mc6844
Community Champion ⭐⭐
November 29, 2023

The Irwins is a good show. Slowing down to watch a TV show is a good idea. Moments like that can help to lighten our mood and make burdens seem lighter. The losses can hit hard at times. It's good to remember that your husband may be there in spirit like the Irwin grandfather. There's so much we don't know about the other realms. Please take care!

SummerOnTheWay1
November 27, 2023

1 comment (Sunday 11/26/23)

 

YOU GO GIRL!!!! 💃💃💃

 

CADEE @Cadee2719 SAID.

 

(1) Hopefully I will be able to put the house on the market in January.

 

(2) My cataract/glaucoma surgery is 1/9.

 

(3) I still have a long way to go, but as you say Nicole: "One Step at a Time".

 

Therapist4u
Community Champion ⭐
November 27, 2023

YA.....YOU GO GIRL!

 

Anyway... Take care!  🍂🍁🍂☮️  ~Allen 🌈🍂🍁🍂

SummerOnTheWay1
November 27, 2023

1 comment (Sunday 11/26/23)

 

CHECKUP TIME! 😎

 

Hey Marcy @MarcyW882921 , now that your kitchen renovations are FINISHED, what is NEXT on your list? 🤔

 

Community Champion ⭐⭐
November 27, 2023

Nicole @SummerOnTheWay1,

Roof replacement. You have to appease the insurance companies here or they will drop the hammer on you. My roof is pushing their limits and getting some grant money makes the time right to do it.

 

Marcy

SummerOnTheWay1
November 26, 2023

👣  1 Step At A Time!

 

Community Champion ⭐
November 26, 2023

Yesterday, 11/25 would have been the 62 year anniversary of my marriage.  Funny, in my mind I am still married to my husband and will remain so until the day I die.  I went to the graves and put beautiful flowers on both my husband and son's graves.  It was a sunny, beautiful day.  My son's home closes 11/30 and he and a friend will take a truck up to unload some things.  (Hopefully all the "stuff" he has in my house and garage.)  🤣  Hopefully I will be able to put the house on the market in January.  My cataract/glaucoma surgery is 1/9.  I still have a long way to go, but as you say Nicole:  "One Step at a Time".

Conversationalist ⭐⭐⭐
November 26, 2023

Hi, Cadee, my heart goes out to you.  I agree that if you are married for a long time, like I am too, I will still feel my late husband's presence and miss him every day.  I am glad you had a sunny day to put down your flowers and remember your husband and son.  Two losses are extra hard.  Good luck on your cataract surgery.  Take care of yourself and as we all are experiencing take it slow.  My prayers are with you.  If you can, please try to take some time to be with the rest of your family during this holiday season.  Many churches offer Blue Christmas services on December 21, the longest night of the year, so I have found those services very comforting.  Just a thought.  Love, Sue 💕

SummerOnTheWay1
November 26, 2023

👣  1 Step At A Time!

 

Community Champion ⭐⭐
November 26, 2023

Nicole @SummerOnTheWay1

I have designated reading and prayer time each evening. It helps me to relax and get my mind set on a positive track. I find this routine to be beneficial for me to sleep.

Marcy

SummerOnTheWay1
November 26, 2023

👣  1 Step At A Time!

 

mc6844
Community Champion ⭐⭐
November 27, 2023

When a family member/friend dies it affects more people than you think. Parents if they're still alive, same for siblings. Spouses, adult or younger kids, neighbors. The postman. The maintenance man, and on it goes. It's like a ripple in a pond. The one you lost had a part in all these people's lives. And it helps to remember the good ways your loved one touched lives, even if it was a brief moment or two.