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2 comments (Monday 3/4/24) Chat!

HOW ARE YOU? 🤔

I am taking bets on whether Maintenance will stop by THIS WEEK. 🙄

Walmart Grocery Run TOMORROW and the DREADED Mammogram on Wednesday at 8am. Yes, 8am!!! Lol, HOPE I "sleep" Tuesday Night 😎 The staff are NICE and this "helps" with my HATING their machine...

Cadee @Cadee2719 , thinking of you and your Son as you BOTH "travel" a NEW path 🤗🤗

Jonibee @jonibee , Marcy @MarcyW882921 and MC @mc6844 , keep stepping 👣👣👣

Well, day number 1 of 5 to "pester" my daughter for Our Weekly Video Call. Lol, already sent her my text "requesting" one TODAY.

Everyone, FIND YOUR PEACE TODAY 💙💙💙

jonibee

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It's too bad that adult children are to involved with other things to give parents a hello call ..I have a son who is guilty of this and it would be nice to have Hi how are you instead of a duty call which he doesn't do..I'm the one who usually initiates the call to inquire how are things or ask him to drive me to an appt..He does do this as it's divided with the three aduld children..I guess I'm lucky enough to see him when he comes to take me to the doctors..No complaints only gratitude that this is done....

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So good to hear from you Jonibee @jonibee . My Mom used to tell me often "You're gonna miss your old Mom when I'm gone." No matter how much time you spend with your loved ones talking or in person I think this is true. I'm glad your adult children are there to help you with appointments.

Marcy

3 comments (Monday 3/4/24)

SO GOOD to hear from you Jonibee @jonibee !!! 💃💃💃

I had to LEARN in my Old Age that my "only" child, a daughter has way too much going on = give her space. 🙄

I told her that ONE DAY she will be OLD and will then KNOW how I feel.

Lol, of course this DID NOT "click" and I am WORKING ON [note, every day is a work in progress] how I "react" to her forgetting to text while I WORRY. Kids these days just DO NOT get that stuff happens to Good People and it is "wisdom" to check in so loved ones KNOW you are okay.

I guess to the day I "die" I will WORRY about her 🙄

[*** JONIBEE @jonibee wrote:
It's too bad that adult children are to involved with other things to give parents a hello call ..I have a son who is guilty of this and it would be nice to have Hi how are you instead of a duty call which he doesn't do..I'm the one who usually initiates the call to inquire how are things or ask him to drive me to an appt..He does do this as it's divided with the three aduld children..I guess I'm lucky enough to see him when he comes to take me to the doctors..No complaints only gratitude that this is done.... ***]

C

Cadee2719

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I must agree. My adult son is so busy with job and life that we seldom have time to sit down and talk. I realize that it has been a mad house since he had to sell his place and relocate to Idaho. I am now in the beginning of that hectic process. My house is sold, inspection is today, I have packed about 90 boxes!!!!! and have a lot more to go. I close on March 31. I did not go to my Infusion as I felt that it may give me serious side effects and that I would now not be here for the complete process. I will find a rheumatologist in Idaho and do it there. I will fly up to Idaho once I get the "go ahead" that all is well with the closing and look for a home and then return, complete packing and MOVE. Sounds hectic doesn't it? I am trying to pace myself doing all that needs to be done so that I don't get sick. If you don't hear from me for awhile you will know what I am doing. STILL have not heard about the results for my son. Crazy isn't it? I got a letter stating that the hospital I use here is NO LONGER in the network and that my Long Term Care Insurance is asking for a 323% increase. IS THAT LEGAL. Healthcare in America. I think they want us old people dead.

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Cadee @Cadee2719 ,

Yes your schedule does sound a bit crazy right now. Hopefully you and your son will have more time to spend together once you are both moved and settled in your new Idaho homes.

Marcy

2 comments (Monday 3/4/24) 💃💃💃 HAPPY DANCE TIME GUYS!!!

(1) Cadee @Cadee2719 SOLD HER HOUSE.

(2) I got my Weekly Video Call with my daughter.

(3) My Neighbor From H.ll came home from work and LEFT AGAIN.

(4) Please ADD your Happy Dance!!!

Nicole 🤗🤗🤗

1 comment (Thursday 3/7/24)

HAPPY DANCE TIME!

Just got "online" message - my mammogram is normal. NEXT YEAR for next one... 💃💃💃

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So good to hear Nicole! Such a blessing.

1 comment (Tuesday 3/5/24)

Remind me again WHY I keep "assuming" SOME things that are in a BOX at Walmart are ALREADY assembled???

📸 Picture attached 📸

Lol, bought their LEAN AGAINST the wall or PUT IN your bathtub "drying rack" - and I could CRY when I opened the box.

Oh YES, 16 rods to INSERT in frame and I have 3 leftover. Gave up!!!

As soon as I TRY to insert the 3 rods, the OTHER rods decide to pop out... 😱😱😱

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Lol

2 comments (Wednesday 3/6/24)

SO GOOD hearing from you Jonibee @jonibee and just what I NEEDED "right now" 💙💙💙 Oh YES, those mood swings. Had one THIS MORNING after doing so well. I felt so HEAVY. But talking to ALL the ladies at my Breast Center THIS MORNING has my Butterfly Wings BACK 💃💃💃

[Jonibee @jonibee wrote:

I came across two paperback books that would be helpful in dealing with grief..One is called Zen Gardening by Veronica Ray (A down to faith philosophy) meditation along with starting anew in gardening whether it be small/large. The other one is "Healing After Loss" by Martha W. Hickman a daily meditation for working through grief..Todays messaage "I will read in the times I can be happy-which is what my loved one would want for me"also an excerpt which reads..."Whereas previously our moods seemed simply sad with occssional patches of light, now we may find an unsetiling variety in our feelings, as happy times seem engrossing and satisfying and then we are plunged into sadness again. Perhaps we can learn to accept these mood swings, recognizing the ability of each, know light gives way to darkness and darkness to light. I believe these two would be helpful to those dealing with grief..I found them at the Salvation Army thrift store with in ones fiancial level... ***]

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When old photos pop up on my phone or FB I find it sad. This is the new reality of continual adjustment.

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Yes @mc6844 sadness is one of the responses when FB pictures come up of our loved ones who have passed on. I definitely feel that too. I try to also be grateful that I captured the person and the moment in a photo and for their love that made such a difference in my life.

Marcy

1 comment (Friday 3/8/24)

Thank you MC @mc6844 and SO GOOD hearing from you 💙💙💙

[*** MC @mc6844 wrote:
So good to hear Nicole! Such a blessing. ***]

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Good to hear from you too, and I so enjoy catching up with everyone on the site. Good people who are there for others in their time of need. I'm having one of those nights that happen occasionally. Related to reminders of loss and the grief that follows. A back and forth process it seems.

2 comments (Friday - March 8, 2024) Chat!

Quiet day!

Daughter says NO travel for her THIS WEEKEND. 💃💃💃

It was like WOW!!! For awhile it was like she had a 2nd home in Atlanta. 🙄

Cadee @Cadee2719 , wish I was there to help you box stuff up for your MOVE to Idaho. 🤗🤗🤗

Everyone, FIND YOUR PEACE TODAY 💙💙💙

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Hey Nicole @SummerOnTheWay1 ,

Just an FYI...I am tied up with chorus rehearsals all weekend so you may not see me for a few days.🎶

Have a nice weekend!

Marcy

1 comment (Wednesday 3/13/24) Chat!

HOW ARE YOU? 🤔

Quiet day and GRATEFUL Spring "seems" to have returned = sun and birds "chirping" 💃💃💃

Had a few "Mary Poppins" moments (Wind Alerts) of late with hail and winter "trying" to return. 😱

NEXT week will be "busy" - adding gas up and laundry mart [luv their gigantic washer and dryer for my comforter] to my usual Walmart Weekly Grocery Day. Time to wash all my Winter Stuff and pack them up. 💃💃💃

Everyone, FIND YOUR PEACE TODAY 💙💙💙

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Nicole @SummerOnTheWay1 ,

I'm going to make you my motivator for doing some winter to spring changes when I do my weekly cleaning this weekend! 🧹🧽🌷

Marcy

[3 comments] Thursday 3/14/24 (3 more days)

🍀 Anyone "celebrating" St. Pat's Day? I never have!

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I'm not Irish, but I have made a traditional St. Patrick's Day dinner for many years. This year won't be any different and I just have to find places where I can share it with others!☘️ That can be a challenge when you enjoy cooking and you can only eat so much by yourself.

Marcy

1 comment (Saturday 3/16/24)

Yes, I do NEED to move next door to you Marcy @MarcyW882921 😎

Remember, I HATE to cook!!! 💙💙💙

[*** MARCY @MarcyW882921 wrote:
I'm not Irish, but I have made a traditional St. Patrick's Day dinner for many years. This year won't be any different and I just have to find places where I can share it with others!☘️ That can be a challenge when you enjoy cooking and you can only eat so much by yourself.

Marcy ***]

🕯 4 comments (FOLLOWUP WITH GROUP MEMBERS - Friday 3/15/24) 🕯

[1] Thank you SO MUCH for your "update" Jonibee @jonibee .

[2] Anything to ADD to what I said about you MC@mc6844 and Marcy @MarcyW882921 ?

[3] Cadee @Cadee2719 will be back SOON 🤗🤗🤗

[*** NICOLE @SummerOnTheWay1 wrote:
1 comment (Monday 3/11/24)

WE are all at different "stages" of OUR HEALING JOURNEY.

Some of us are making CHANGES that will help us to MOVE FORWARD.

*** Everyone is invited to add THEIR journey to this discussion 💙💙💙

[1] We have Cadee @Cadee2719 who has SOLD HER HOUSE 💃💃💃 and moving to Idaho!

[2] Our "Social Butterfly" Marcy @MarcyW882921 has taken SOLO ROAD TRIPS AND SOCIALIZING!

[3] MC @mc6844 ?

[4] Jonibee @jonibee is TAKING CARE OF HER HEALTH! Anything to add Jonibee?

[5] And me, really need to "socialize" 🙄 but I am getting things SET UP to lay my old head somewhere in Florida. ***]

C

Cadee2719

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Hello from Idaho! Put in an offer for a new house!!!!! Should know if they accept by 9:00 tonight. It is about 10 minutes from my son's home. I LOVE it and hope I get it. Set up new bank accounts, saw a lot of houses, arranged for storage as I will not be able to move directly into the new house, arranging to ship my car, completing the escrow on my house and when I return PACKING, PACKING, PACKING. The weather here is great; snow melted, sun shinning. The people are so kind and helpful. We fly back on Monday and then return on 3/29 and remain in Idaho. Hope everyone is doing well and taking care of themselves. Also, they installed the gravestone and sent me a picture. My son & I will visit and put flowers on the graves when we return. Sooooo if I am not on the site, you all know why. Take care. I am always thinking of you guys. ❤️