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Nicole@NicoleRetired2020FL , You are up late tonight!🤔

Marcy

I've read through several posts and as always admire everyone's efforts, and the struggle to move forward in ways we can. I agree that it's not easy to restart a life, gain new interests or pick up on old ones. Keeping up with one's own health is a challenge but necessary to prevent problems. I'm past a lot of hobbies. Tried to get interested again, but it's a no go. I never had time to watch much TV in my life. So there are lots of old shows from less complicated eras that I haven't seen. I think I'm reminded of the saying 'there's a time for everything under the heavens...'

117,182 steps and 21 flights of stairs today. My mom, God bless her came over and really helped me clean up my house. I'll end up paying for it tomorrow with my back. We are supposed to get some nasty rainy weather tomorrow with potential downpours and flooding. Glad that I don't have to go anywhere except the pharmacy. I feel sorry for everyone going to the Raven's game tomorrow. Yes I live in Baltimore and actually like my team, just not sure what I think of the hype surrounding our quarterback. I've seen worse but, I have also seen much better. We get to the playoffs and then he plays horribly and we get kicked out the first round, even when we win the division. Same thing happened to the Orioles this year. Good night my friend. My love to you and hope you have a good night. Mine have been a little rough and I have had some other things going on so that's why I haven't posted anything in a while. Here's our boy. 

Nicole @SummerOnTheWay1 . That sounds like a good time to write yourself a letter saying all of those things. When you have a downside day, pull it out for some self-encouragement.🙂

Marcy

(4) Multiple losses in quick succession. 

- Quick Succession meaning other loved ones pass while you are still grieving the earlier  passing of a different loved one.

All the ideas I've read on the forum about moving forward sound good. Though I'm not apt to jump into things anymore. I just found out if I have a Medicare plan in an area, then move to a different zip code I'd have to check my plan is accepted in the new area. I've found out that with Medicare there's much you don't know unless you ask. Of course you have to have knowledge and information to know what to ask. Knowledge is power, for sure. It's been almost a year and the grieving keeps popping up. I guess it stands to reason after 50 years of life. It's not only the deceased ones lives we grieve, but that was our lives too, and the missing of the familiar. I think Nicole's idea of getting up, having coffee, and going back for zzzzzz's is the best idea so far  lol.

Nicole @SummerOnTheWay1 . Guilt is an issue that I am familiar with. For me, I think it is my way of trying to gain control of something. Apologizing is one way to deal with it whether the person is alive or dead and following up with a request for forgiveness. The tough part is getting to the point where you can forgive yourself.

Marcy

Just wanted to warn everyone.  I got a call about replacing my husband's Diabetes blood monitor with one that TALKS!! and it is free.  They will simply charge Medicare.  I did not tell the man that my husband was dead but since he was representing "our" insurance company I thought he should know that.  He kept trying to get information from me and I said I was on my way out and hung up the phone.  Now I am getting calls from "them" several times a day.  I have blocked them.  I researched this and found that they are trying to get your Medicare number so that they can send you the monitor and supplies and bill Medicare.  BE AWARE   DO NOT GIVE ANY INFORMATION ABOUT YOUR MEDICARE TO ANYONE THAT CALLS YOU ON THE PHONE OR CONTACTS YOU ON YOUR COMPUTER.  Since my husband died I have been constantly harassed by these scammers.

Nicole @SummerOnTheWay1 ,

I just wanted to stop by and say hi. It's been a busy week with chorus performances and now this crazy weather has my head ready to explode. My fingers are crossed that things will calm down sometime tomorrow afternoon so I can get some relief.😩

Marcy

This forum has been helpful because the main topic is grief and how to get through it. A focused topic and main stream of thought. It helps one to pause and think. Whereas for instance in a personal discussion, a relative or friend will suggest things which can overwhelm and cause confusion and anxiety. Day at a time, sticking to a routine as much as possible is the best way to get through it, I believe.