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🕯 A Place To Be With OTHERS Who Are Grieving! WE support each other.

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SummerOnTheWay1

👣 1 Step At A Time!

jonibee

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Soft rocik music or Easy listening music...A dark room perhaps a shower before retiring for the night...

jonibee

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Words of wisdom for today..".I still miss those I loved who are no longer with me but I find am grateful for having loved them. The Gratitude has finally conquered the loss..".

taken from words of Rita Mae Brown

SummerOnTheWay1

👣 1 Step At A Time!

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KimberlyM389662

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@SummerOnTheWay1 . I am having a really rough time right now. Lots of panic attacks and I realized that I have been starting the grieving stage. It also doesn't help that I am currently in a bad place with my daughter who is very much her father's child. I am her mother and not the other way. She will wake up because she really hasn't experienced real life yet. She thinks of her pain and doesn't understand mine. It's all about her and that is exactly how her Dad was. If you have something wrong then they have something worse. It's just really frustrating and then I say things that I don't want to.

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Cadee2719

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Kim I, too have been dealing with a similar situation with my daughter-in-law. She fails to realize that the husband she lost was my SON. She dismisses the fact that I was doing Home Hospice care for my husband who died shortly after my son and brother. She says "I was not there for her!" She is a narcissist and ONLY cares about herself. My solution after trying to be there for her was to END THE RELATIONSHIP. I am now at peace. I will continue to stay in touch with my grandson (the spitting image of my son) who I love dearly but I will not be subject to the continued disrespect from his mother. I know it is harder to do this with a daughter, but healing is difficult enough for us and we do not have to subject ourselves to those that only continue to hurt us. You will find that you WILL become stronger and will make decisions that are best for you. Kim, be kind to yourself. You are working your way through the steps of recovery. It is a hard, long process but one that I know you will successfully complete. You are stronger than you realize. ❤️

SummerOnTheWay1

6 comments (Sunday 12/3/23)

😎 Tell Us About YOUR HOBBIES! The Experts tell us they "may" help us on OUR Healing Journey..... 😏

(Me) I AGREE as they help me to ESCAPE for awhile from OVERTHINKING. As far as hobbies, gave up a lot of them due to NO MOTIVATION. But working on my STEPS 👣 to TRY to return to them. My Puzzle Book, which I use to purchase EVERY year is long overdue and last one still empty. It is the VARIETY PUZZLES, luv the mix as I get "bored" with just one type of puzzle. Hmmm, reading - the last book still sitting "unread"....

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KimberlyM389662

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Mine is reading. I have been reading since I was 5 and I also love to put puzzles together or do search words books but, I am currently struggling with my focus. They are trying new medication but I was also told that this has been an ongoing issue related to the COVID-19 virus which I had this year. Now we have a new form of pneumonia going around and guess what? This one also originated in China and has now been diagnosed in several other countries. Here we go again.

SummerOnTheWay1

2 comments (Sunday 12/3/23)

Hi Kim @KimberlyM389662 !

That is why I got the most "recent" COVID shot, Pneumonia along with my "yearly" Flu Shot THIS YEAR (2023).

And unless it is MANDATORY to be INSIDE with "other" folks - I am home or outside.

Way too many BUILDINGS have NOT had Ventilation checked or properly running.

And flying, nope. Use to be a Flight Attendant (age 18 to 20) and KNOW about EVERYONE in the plane SHARING air. 🤮

SummerOnTheWay1

3 comments (Monday 12/4/23)👣 Did You Do YOUR Steps?🤔

(Me) 7:48pm ET Lol, after unpacking groceries today I decided I needed a REWARD. 🙄 So I returned to bed and have been BINGEING on "Pretty Hard Cases" (Canadian mystery series, free on Prime App). NOW I have to PLAY CATCH UP = all the stuff that should have been done. 😭 And an 8am Mechanic Appointment TOMORROW. 😭

Find YOUR PEACE.... 😎

Therapist4u

Community Champion ⭐

Nicole needed a REWARD .....

Introvert doodles

So she returned to bed 🛌 😊

SummerOnTheWay1

1 comment (Monday 12/4/23)

Oh YES I did Allen @Therapist4u 💃💃💃

SummerOnTheWay1

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MarcyW882921

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Making friends has been a challenge for me and maybe it has for others as well. I know people from chorus, tennis, and water aerobics and I talk to people at these activities. It doesn't go beyond social interactions during those activities. I find that it's not the same to be with couples who were friends of ours and the single people I know have families (parents, children, grandchildren) and friend groups that are established.

I do things on my own, but it seems to be a rather solitary existence.

Marcy

SummerOnTheWay1

5 comments (Tuesday 12/5/23)

Same here Marcy @MarcyW882921 and I HAVE to let my "only" child, a daughter FEEL okay with TIME AWAY from me.

YOU will meet OTHER "healthy" humans on YOUR Healing Journey when YOU get more "involved" in life! 👍

The "trick" is to FIGURE OUT what DIRECTION you want to go... 😎

I want to get INVOLVED with animals BUT so NOT into the "politics and drama" I encountered last year when I tried it. Lol, I am RETIRED and not looking for a JOB (boss from h.ll, micro managing and so on).

SummerOnTheWay1

2 comments (Wednesday 12/6/23)

👥 For Those Of Us Who Are READY To MINGLE, what steps if any 🙄 are you taking to meet "new" people? 🤔

(Me/lol) Kind of ready but NOT for groups. I am being NICER to folks, but still have my GUARD up. My "only" child, a daughter is STILL the only HUMAN I trust. At age 65, I MAY never trust anyone else before I die. Too OLD for all the "drama and games" 😎

mc6844

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I like how you say you're being NICER to folks. Lol.

SummerOnTheWay1

👣 1 Step At A Time!

jonibee

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Through out the year I receive gifts like the one shown here from my deceased hubby via by a messenger( a member of our family.)...This one is very special because of the message on the enclosed card...He is with me in spirit..With Love from Tom....

mc6844

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That's very nice Joni. Thank you for sharing your comfort and happiness. I'm sure loved ones are around in more ways we could know.

SummerOnTheWay1

1 comment (Thursday 12/7/23)

My mind ran on you "just now" Bill @BillH490171 for a SAFE AND PEACEFUL trip THIS Tuesday 12/12/23 (mentioned in your post below). 💙💙💙

✏ (FRIDAY 12/1/23) Bill @BillH490171 wrote:
Interesting day for me as I signed the burial agreement to have my wife's ashes placed in the niche we bought a few years ago. She'll be near her mom and other family members. Its been 6 months and I'm ready for this next step. I'll drive up to Ohio on 12/12. The sun is shining now after a cold rainy morning. I know she would be happy and urge me to place her there. Seems like this year is a blur at times.

Hope you all have a great weekend and let the sun shine on your lives, Bill ✏