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December 31, 2022

🤔 What CHALLENGE(s) Are YOU Facing RIGHT NOW?

  • December 31, 2022
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Grief & Loss Team 🤎🤗

244 replies

Conversationalist ⭐⭐⭐
February 8, 2023

Hi all.  Sorry I've been offline for a while.  I'm doing ok.  Nice to be back.

Contributor ⭐
February 14, 2023

My mother passed away on 1/20. I think my biggest challenge right now is the ability to look in the mirror.  I mean, I've always known I look like my mom, but now, good gravy, with her passing all I can see is her in the mirror staring back at me. I guess a positive spin would be I'll always be able to see her, but for now, not so much. 

 

Jen

 

 

Community Champion ⭐⭐
February 17, 2023

I'm so sorry that you are facing the challenges of losing a parent (your Mom). I too have had a strong resemblance to my Mom and it has only gotten stronger as I have gotten older. I like your positive spin that you will always be able to see her when you look in the mirror and I may try that out when I look in the mirror. I think I can do that now after four years and hopefully you will too in time.

jonibee
Community Champion ⭐⭐
March 4, 2023

My challenge now is going through stuff no longer needed to make room for my adult daughter who will be moving back home and needs the space for her bedroom things...I just got through with going through my husbands things and donating to a worthy cause along to family members who wish for certain items...Trying to get my financial house in order as my life is different now since husbands passing...I thought it was all said and done but the loose ends keep on coming out .the paper work and confirmation of things for correctness and follow through seems to elude me...Hopefully it will right itself out soon...Keeping current in all things is important so it doesn't get lost in communication of day to day living..Looking forward to the Spring to see the burst of life appearing outside  everywhere...Easter a time of rebirth of life...

Community Champion ⭐⭐
March 4, 2023

Kudos for you to get through all of your husband's things. That is a huge undertaking and you got it done!

 

The financial pieces are crucial, but sometimes they seem like some kind of puzzle. Pieces seem like they are fitting together and then some odd piece surfaces from nowhere. Keeping current is essential and we do the best we can.

 

You are accomplishing a lot and spring is coming!

Community Manager
March 4, 2023

1 comment (SATURDAY 3/4/23)

 

Hi Marcy @MarcyW882921 , I luv the 4 seasons UNLESS we have too much snow. So far, knock on wood NO snow. I miss my daughter in Florida but NOT missing the year-round Summer with my "hot" flashes. 😭

 

Nicole 🤎🤗

Community Champion ⭐⭐
March 4, 2023

Yes not everyone can tolerate the warmth year round. I guess that is why so many people split their time between two different geographical regions.

 

I'm glad you are enjoying the four seasons without the snow! 🙂

 

Marcy

Community Manager
March 5, 2023

1 comment (SUNDAY 3/5/23)

 

Well it is nearly 6pm EST for me and I am "counting" down the minutes for tomorrow to get here so EVERYBODY goes back to work!!! 🥳💃

 

I am OLD AND CRANKY/lol 😂🤣

 

Grateful this year 2023 has folks out of their apartments = time for me to RELAX and NOT dwell on my grief....

 

Yes, by SUNDAY, I am on EMPTY and need to "refill" with HOPE that there will be something AHEAD of me that will "add" to my life's journey.

 

Luv you ALL,

Nicole 🤎🤗

Community Champion ⭐⭐
March 6, 2023

In days of work, Sunday was the day when everything had to get done to prepare for returning to work on Monday.

 

Now it can be viewed as a beginning to the week ahead. What do you want the week to look like? What can you do to get things started in that direction? How can you stay on the path? So many questions and now off to find the answers! 

Community Manager
March 6, 2023

1 comment (MONDAY 3/6/23)

 

Lol Marcy @MarcyW882921 , for me EVERY day in Retirement is the SAME except for "mandatory" leave my apt errands.

 

As usual, ALWAYS good to hear from you!!! 💃🥳

 

Luv you,

Nicole 🤗🤎

Community Champion ⭐⭐
March 8, 2023

That's the beauty of retirement. Every day doesn't have to be the same. We are the masters of our own destiny and have the ability to be creative! 

 

Marcy

BeatleloverKT
Community Champion ⭐⭐⭐
March 7, 2023

As if grief and everyday life isn’t enough of a struggle, I have hurt my back somehow. After waiting in the car for groceries of all things, it began to hurt. Worse today. Puts a damper on my mood and my to-do list as sitting isn’t very comfortable. Off to my heating pad and Tylenol and hope that brings relief. Hope everyone is doing ok 💜💜

Conversationalist ⭐⭐⭐
March 7, 2023

I wish you a speedy recovery.  Unfortunately, at least in my case, I have personally seen that the death of my husband affected me in all ways, including physical health. That is why everyone keeps saying to take care of yourself.  You are fragile and deserve to take the extra time to rest and eat healthy meals.  Not everyone does, but eventually will realize that we have to be our own best caregivers.  Relax and do something you enjoy.  You deserve it.  All the best.  Sue

BeatleloverKT
Community Champion ⭐⭐⭐
March 7, 2023

Thank you all for the well wishes. Taking it slow

until I feel better 💜

mc6844
Community Champion ⭐⭐
March 10, 2023

I hope you feel better too. A back problem needs careful and special care. At least it gets you to slow down. But I know how painful a back problem can be.  Take care.

Conversationalist ⭐⭐⭐
March 10, 2023

I am grieving my husband and also trying to assist my mother by cheering her up.  She is depressed and cries to me a lot.  I guess that's my role.  She doesn't complain to my sisters.  Today was a good day.  My dad and mom and I went to see my niece's artwork in a district-wide art show.  Then we had lunch out.  We don't go out very much but we should.  She seemed happy today.  I'm very glad.

Community Champion ⭐⭐
March 10, 2023

Getting out of the house can be very therapeutic. A couple of times while we were out going to doctor's appointments, my husband asked if we could go out for lunch. The times we did that, he said it made him feel like a human being again.

 

I'm glad you spent time with your family, felt some joy, and had a good day! 

Conversationalist ⭐⭐⭐
March 10, 2023

Well, she hates the look of the condo my dad made her move into. She cries about that a lot. And she is feeling lonely because he doesn't talk to her as much as she would like.  She has longstanding depression, now complicated by dementia.  My dad wasn't the nicest in the past.  He was mean to me too.  But a lot of my dad and my relationship is healing and is good now.  He's very sweet in all the cooking he does for her and she praises his cooking.  Anyway, her moods are often worse in the afternoon and evening.  She is the nicest and sweetest lady you'd ever want to know.

Community Champion ⭐⭐
March 10, 2023

Throwing out a couple of ideas...

 

Can small changes can be made to change the look of the condo? Are there any day programs available in the area where your Mom could socialize with others?