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🤗 WE are thinking of YOU! Please Stop By To See Us :)

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Whatever YOU need, WE are here for YOU.

***YOU are a very SPECIAL person and WE want to hear from YOU***

Grief & Loss Team 🤗

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ChaviB814890restAuthor

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2 comments 📬(Monday 6/12/23)

Well, took it easy this weekend and had some "rough" moments but LEARNING to let the "moments" come and go! 👍

Was SO GOOD hearing from EVERYONE...🥳💃

So TONIGHT is Trash Night. 😭 NO mail = NO post office emails since I last checked. Check each week when I make my "dreaded" trip to the dumpster. But I do CHECK "just in case" they missed notifying me. 🙄

Then TOMORROW (Tuesday) is my "mixed emotions" trip to my LOA (local office of aging) to get my MEDICARE set up. Turn 65 THIS September and NOT looking forward to the process. Yes, decisions and changes. My OLD doctor does NOT accept Medicare. 😭😭😭 Same with dentist for my 6-month cleanings. Then the trip DOWNTOWN. 😱 Yes, getting on the highway. I picked a Tuesday and 10am HOPING all the "bumper riders" are somewhere else and NOT on my bumper./lol 😂🤣

Then WEDNESDAY, my weekly Walmart "out of food" run. 😭

***And yes, a night of falling asleep BEFORE my 11pm bedtime = now AWAKE. Oh well...😉***

Luv you ALL,

Nicole 🤗🤎

mc6844

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Thanks for sharing Nicole. The moments and time marches on for sure. I hear a lot of hope in your shares and I hope your Medicare years are good to you!

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ChaviB814890restAuthor

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Thank you @mc6844 , so GOOD hearing from you!!! 🥳💃 Nicole 🤎🤗

▶️@mc6844 wrote:
Thanks for sharing Nicole. The moments and time marches on for sure. I hear a lot of hope in your shares and I hope your Medicare years are good to you!◀️

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ChaviB814890restAuthor

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2 comments (6/12/23) Party Time!!! 🥳💃

OUR @mc6844 just stopped by. 🤎🤗

▶️(1) mc6844 Conversationalist

‎06-12-2023 02:16 PM

Good reminders Marcy! Thank yoi

▶️(2) mc6844 Conversationalist

‎06-12-2023 02:37 PM

Your question made me think. When my husband was dying in hospital he kept asking me "how are you doing?" I said "I'm ok." Of course I wasn't but didn't want to add to his grief. But I kept telling myself I was OK cause what else are you gonna do in those circumstances? Falling apart wasn't an option. It would be too much putting all of myself back together. Except we're never the same after these things. It's not only the people we love and care about that we've lost, but that part of our life and our roles in their lives. ◀️

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Cadee2719

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I agree. My role for many, many years was "caretaker" to my husband. I did all I could to keep him alive. His doctors would tease me and say they wanted me as their nurse when they became ill. Toward the end of his hospice care, the nurse (the sweetest person ever) said "He is dying. You are still struggling to do everything within your power to keep him alive. He is suffering and you must let him go." Now that he is gone, I no longer feel as if I have a purpose in life. I struggle to find my identity. Last night I read something by Jamie Anderson; "Grief is just love, with no place to go." Thank You for expressing your thoughts and understanding.

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MarcyW882921

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@Cadee2719 , You obviously have a lot of love to give and in time you will find a place for it to go. Because of our loss, we are forever changed. We are no longer a wife, caretaker, etc. so now we are searching for our new identity and purpose. I think we join many others on this path.

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ChaviB814890restAuthor

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Party Time!!! 💃🥳

OUR Marcy @MarcyW882921 just stopped by. 🤗🤎

▶️MarcyW882921 Conversationalist

‎06-12-2023 03:41 PM

Oh my...you are so spot on with your description. I can truly relate to everything you said!

Thank you!

Marcy◀️

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ChaviB814890restAuthor

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Party Time!!! OUR @Cadee2719 just stopped by 🤎🤗

▶️Re: 🤗🤎 WE are thinking of YOU! Please Stop By To See Us 🙂

by Cadee2719 in Grief & Loss

‎06-13-2023 02:00 PM

I agree. My role for many, many years was "caretaker" to my husband. I did all I could to keep him alive. His doctors would tease me and say they wanted me as their nurse when they became ill. Toward the end of his hospice care, the nurse (the sweetest person ever) said "He is dying. You are still struggling to do everything within your power to keep him alive. He is suffering and you must let him go." Now that he is gone, I no longer feel as if I have a purpose in life. I struggle to find my identity. Last night I read something by Jamie Anderson; "Grief is just love, with no place to go." Thank You for expressing your thoughts and understanding.◀️

mc6844

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Cadee I'd say you've found a purpose in sharing your experiences here. What you share helps others dealing with the same issues. Most people have no idea how Hospice works, or how to navigate end of life issues. Your knowledge can help many people find ways that work in their situations! Take care.

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ChaviB814890restAuthor

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Party Time!!! 💃🥳

OUR Marcy @MarcyW882921 stopped by! 🤎🤗

▶️Re: 🤗🤎 WE are thinking of YOU! Please Stop By To See Us 🙂

by MarcyW882921 in Grief & Loss

‎06-13-2023 04:14 PM

@Cadee2719 , You obviously have a lot of love to give and in time you will find a place for it to go. Because of our loss, we are forever changed. We are no longer a wife, caretaker, etc. so now we are searching for our new identity and purpose. I think we join many others on this path.◀️

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ChaviB814890restAuthor

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2 comments (1) Embrace Doing Less.

Embracing the habit of ‘doing less’ means eliminating unnecessary tasks, focusing on meaningful activities, and being content with a slower, more intentional pace. This approach leads to increased focus, better productivity, and improved mental health.

(2) Practice Tidying As You Go.

You maintain a consistently tidy environment by putting items away immediately after use. This continuous tidying habit eliminates the need for dedicated, lengthy cleaning sessions and keeps your spaces inviting and clutter-free.

Grief & Loss Team 🤎🤗

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MarcyW882921

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@Anonymous , I do try to keep things tidy and it does bring me a sense of comfort. I still feel compelled to do lengthy cleaning sessions on a regular basis, but that is just part of me. 😉

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ChaviB814890restAuthor

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Hey dear Marcy @MarcyW882921 , we have to do what feels right for us. 👍 Lol, I LAZY/lol 🤣🤣

My daughter is like you and it is an ALL DAY project. 🙄

Now that I am divorced and live alone, I prefer the "clean" as I go.

Good hearing from you. 💃🥳

Nicole 🤎😂

▶️@MarcyW882921 wrote:
@Anonymous , I do try to keep things tidy and it does bring me a sense of comfort. I still feel compelled to do lengthy cleaning sessions on a regular basis, but that is just part of me. 😉◀️

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ChaviB814890restAuthor

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(1 comment) Good Morning @MarcyW882921 , @Cadee2719 , @mc6844 , @BeatleloverKT 💃🥳

Signed up for Medicare at LOA yesterday. Now to find NEW medical folks by September 1st as mine DO NOT accept Medicare. 😭😭 Out of food = Walmart today. 😭😭

Luv you ALL,

Nicole @Anonymous

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MarcyW882921

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This is good that you signed up for Medicare. Celebrate...it is a milestone and you have earned it!

I'm sorry about the other two things. Hopefully you made your WalMart run for food today and you can begin your search for some new medical folks. Fortunately you have a little time.

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ChaviB814890restAuthor

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Thanks dear Marcy @MarcyW882921 ! I ran into "furbaby" Benny 🐕 with his mom at Walmart. 3 years old and CUTENESS. Luv you ALL, Nicole 🤎🤗

▶️@MarcyW882921 wrote:
This is good that you signed up for Medicare. Celebrate...it is a milestone and you have earned it!

I'm sorry about the other two things. Hopefully you made your WalMart run for food today and you can begin your search for some new medical folks. Fortunately you have a little time.◀️

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ChaviB814890restAuthor

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Party Time!!! 💃🥳

OUR @mc6844 stopped by 🤎🤗

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ChaviB814890restAuthor

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Happy Thursday @MarcyW882921 , @Cadee2719 , @mc6844 , @BeatleloverKT 🤎🤗

mc6844

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Thank you.Nicole. I hope you are all doing well too.

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ChaviB814890restAuthor

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Good Morning dear @mc6844 , so GOOD hearing from you!!! 💃🥳 Luv you my friend, Nicole 🤎🤔

▶️@mc6844 wrote:
Thank you.Nicole. I hope you are all doing well too. ◀️

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ChaviB814890restAuthor

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WE hope you will stop by again dear Carol @CarolD435501 ! WE LUV YOU, Grief & Loss Team 🤎🤗

▶️@CarolD435501 wrote:

It is so hard,,,,,lost my husband of 32 years April 15th 2023....some days I seem to go forward,,,and then I fall back more days then I gained.....How long do I have to feel this,,,,no one knows,,,,but talking the others may help.../.◀️

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