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7 comments (Thursday 5/25/23)

***EDITED: mixed you both up @mc6844 and @Cadee2719 = getting old)***

Dear @mc6844 thank you for asking! 🤎🤗

Been a good week "except" for my "suppose" to have done Walmart Weekly Food Run.

Lol, was "suppose" to do Wednesday, then TODAY! 🙄

Anyway, TOMORROW has to be the day as that is also "take trash to dumpster and get mail from mailbox"...

How is your book reading doing? 🤔

@Cadee2719 IF you don't mind my asking, how are your repairs coming along?🤔

So PROUD of you taking them "one repair at a time" 👍

Nicole 🙃

▶️@mc6844 wrote:

Thanks Nicole. Always nice to drop in and see how the group is doing! How are you?◀️

Cadee2719

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My repairs are slow but happening. Got the air conditioner in my car fixed and the filter. It seems like I fix one thing and another breaks! Shopping for an oven. Two nights ago I was up ALL NIGHT, could not sleep and was feeling anxious. The next day I was miserable. I tried to sleep and got about an hours sleep after taking 1/4 of a xanax pill. (I am not comfortable taking pills) Have no idea what is going on. Yes, if I move it will be far away from my daughter in law. I truly try to be there for her but all she does is complain about my son who has left her financially secure. She retired the day he died! I bite my tongue each time I hear from her and don't want to ruin the relationship because I love my grandson so much. I don't want to sound like I am feeling sorry for myself. I am truly trying to get through this and wonder if I am just pretending. Thank You Nicole for being there for me. I am sincere in saying that the people on this site help me more than they will ever know.

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Cadee I've found when I'm overtired, worried and stressed everything is harder. Its OK to feel sorry for yourself. I just don't let myself get in a funk. There are people who really don't have caring or sensitive ways of doing things. But there are many other people who do. Those are the ones I turn to when I need support. And this is a good place to express your feelings. And then I try to get on with my day. Take care Cadee. The people here care about you and understand what you're going through.

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10 comments (Thursday 5/25/23)

Dear @Cadee2719 , my responses are below in CAPS. Nicole 🤗🤎

▶️@Cadee2719 wrote:

My repairs are slow but happening.

AND THAT IS WHAT COUNTS, YOU ARE DOING THEM VERSUS NOT.

Got the air conditioner in my car fixed and the filter.

OH YES, TELL ME ABOUT THAT. LAST YEAR THE ONE IN MY CAR (2006 HYUNDAI ELANTRA) ACTED UP. I USE TO BE ABLE TO DO WITHOUT AIR, BUT THE "HOT FLASHES"/LOL 😂😂. FINGERS, TOES, EYES CROSSED IT MAKES IT THROUGH THIS YEAR! 👍

It seems like I fix one thing and another breaks! Shopping for an oven.

Two nights ago I was up ALL NIGHT, could not sleep and was feeling anxious.

OH YES, AND I WATCH THE CLOCK AND GET MAD. 🙄

The next day I was miserable. I tried to sleep and got about an hours sleep after taking 1/4 of a xanax pill. (I am not comfortable taking pills)

I TOTALLY AGREE. BETWEEN NEEDING TO HEAR IF SOMEONE TRIES TO BREAK IN AND THE SIDE EFFECTS....

Have no idea what is going on.

IT IS NORMAL AND THIS WILL PASS.

Yes, if I move it will be far away from my daughter in law.

WELL, WHILE I WAS IN VIRGINIA, I WAS AWAY FROM MY "VERY TOXIC" FAMILY. NOW TO HOPE I DON'T RUN INTO THEM HERE IN FLORIDA. MY DAUGHTER'S FATHER'S "FAMILY FROM HELL" LIVES IN MELBOURNE TOO. 😭

I truly try to be there for her but all she does is complain about my son who has left her financially secure. She retired the day he died! I bite my tongue each time I hear from her and don't want to ruin the relationship because I love my grandson so much.

OH YES, YOU WANT YOUR TIME WITH HIM UNTIL HE IS OF AGE TO "INTERACT" WITH YOU "ON HIS OWN"...

I don't want to sound like I am feeling sorry for myself.

YOU ARE SHARING.

I am truly trying to get through this and wonder if I am just pretending.

TAKE A DEEP BREATH....

YOU ARE DOING GREAT 🤎🤗

Thank You Nicole for being there for me.

AND RIGHT BACK AT YOU 🤎🤗

I am sincere in saying that the people on this site help me more than they will ever know.

ME TOO!!!!

◀️

Cadee2719

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I don't know what I would do without you. When I am down, you build me up. I seem to be constantly reminded of the horrible suffering my husband went through while in Hospice Care at home. I can't get it out of my head. He went down so quickly after the death of our son and there was nothing I could do to help. I am thankful I kept him at home and took care of him. I miss my husband, I miss my son, I miss my brother. I am trying to stay busy but then night comes. I stopped reading Widow to Widow because I can no longer concentrate. I WANT to be strong and I am not. I am stuck in my home. Although I live in a very nice area, it seems as if the homeless have taken over. It has become unsafe to go to the gas station, grocery store, Home Depot, Trader Joes, the bank, etc. That is the main reason I am thinking of moving out of state. I think if I were able to get out of my house, I would feel better. I ADMIRE the fact that you moved to Florida to be near your daughter. Again, forgive my complaining. Each time I come to this site and read the replies from everyone, it truly does lift my spirits. I hope that everyone is doing well.

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Cadee,

I'm so glad you came by to visit us today!

I too have those horrible memories of receiving my husband's terminal diagnosis, his rapid decline, and suffering at home while in hospice. It is horrendous to watch and feel so helpless! Both of you are thankful that he was able to be in the comfort of your home with you by his side.

There is grief and I recently found out about post traumatic stress associated with grief. You might consider checking out that topic to see if your situation fits the description and if appropriate, investigate treatment options.

I think getting out is good for the soul but not if the environment outside of your home is unsafe. If you have a trusted friend maybe you can drive away from the area to somewhere that is more conducive to a safe outing.

You are so consumed with grief right now that taking a break from reading Widow to Widow is probably a wise decision. Perhaps material that provides a good, temporary distraction is in order. Works of fiction, games, movies, craft projects? Things that interest you and/or allow for self expression.

You are not alone...we are here for you!

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(1 comment) Dear @mc6844 , I think I gave you a "kudo" for EACH of your posts tonight. I will verify when I get back from taking out my trash. 🙄

Figured one "less" thing and checking mailbox.

Party Time, I get to sleep LATER before heading to Walmart in the morning. 💃🥳

Lol, and YES, I am going this time...🤣😂

Nicole 🤎🤗

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Thank you Nicole. I hope you have better luck with your trash than I do. Three times in a row I placed the bags in back of the car. Forgot to pop the trunk and ran over the trash! Need to slow down here.

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(1 comment) 😱 OUR Marcy @MarcyW882921 is here!!!!

Party Time, WE have missed you....💃🥳

Nicole 🤎🤗

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Thank you Nicole!

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3 comments (5/25/23) I am so glad OUR @Cadee2719 stopped in as I had been feeling I too was feeling sorry for myself.

And "mean" humans on this site didnot help this week.

Lol, the side of me I try NOT to show did. Grateful AARP didnot ban me. Now that I told this individual exactly what I felt, hopefully he will stay out of my space. I hate drama.

Anyway guys, made it back in one piece and heading to go hopefully get some zzz's to deal with Walmart tomorrow.

Nicole 🤎🤗

BeatleloverKT

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Hoping for some peace for you now. We can

all use some peace in our lives! 💜☮️

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Have a good day Beatle!

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(3 comments) Just "watched" this YouTube video and it was just what I needed! Maybe it will "touch" someone's INSIDES today. Nicole 🤗🤎

For those waiting for life to happen - YouTube

👉Link to video. 👈

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Yes we are faced with all of those questions aren't we? Who am I? What am I going to do with my life? Are we going to become passive observers or will we "seize the day?"

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Thinking about new things is hopeful! Thanks for the reminder!

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(3 comments) So GOOD to hear from you TODAY Marcy @MarcyW882921 💃🥳

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Thanks. It's good to know somebody is out there.

Marcy

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I agree Marcy! I hope you all are taking good care of yourselves.

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(1 comment) So GOOD hearing from you @mc6844 TODAY!!!! 💃🥳

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@Anonymous wrote:
So GOOD hearing from you @mc6844 TODAY!!!! 💃🥳

I hope everyone on this grief thread has an easy day. Take care!

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(3 comments) What an AWESOME team WE have!!! 🥳💃

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I thought of you last night Nicole as I was picking up my curbside order from Walmart. 🙂 I hope your holiday goes smoothly!

Marcy