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(2 comments) 🧲 LAW OF ATTRACTION WHILE GRIEVING: One day at a time. One thought at a time. Last year I lost both my parents within 4 months of each other. As I allowed my thoughts to get away from me, I could see all the negative come crashing around me. I was dropping things, breaking things, everything in my personal life started falling apart. I wound up stranded at an airport 200 miles away from where I needed to be (my father's funeral) but once I took notice and became aware, I stopped and said okay, I know what I need. I need to clear my energy, clear my negative vibes. What always works for me is the ocean. I knew I needed it to help me balance my thoughts and center myself. We cannot control what happens to others around us, but we can control our own thoughts and feelings. The ocean helped me to do that. It's always been my heaven. Of course it doesn't help me from not being sad that they are gone, but it does help me to bring better feeling thoughts which in turn brings better, more positive happy situations into my life. It's okay to feel happy even though you are sad at the situation. Anonymous

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MarcyW882921

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I think it was in one of Stephen Covey's books that I read about looking at the word responsible. He broke it down into a person being "response able" and it is what the anonymous person is describing. The human ability to look at and assess situations, thoughts, and feelings and choose how we respond to them.

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MarcyW882921

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Thanks for thinking of me. It has been an incredibly rainy day today and it is challenging for me to be inside all day!

Cadee2719

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Thank You for checking on me. Easter was hard. My son and I put flowers on the grave and had a quiet dinner Then came the one year anniversary of my first born son's death and I continued to remember and grieve. Then came my husband's birthday and it made me realize that I AM ALONE and now totally responsible for all things. Being married for 61 years and losing my spouse left a HUGE void in my life. I am trying to move forward but I feel that the loss of my son, husband and brother within a short period of time makes it impossible to do. I know life goes on, but I have to discover how "I" fit into this plan. The book Widow to Widow is helpful but I find that right now it is hard to concentrate on it. I do appreciate hearing from you and knowing that there are people out there that know what I am going through. Thank You for your kindness and remembering me.

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Cadee, 61 yrs is a long time. For me it was almost 50 yrs. Married at 23. But we all managed to get through this crazy life, didn't we? That's hopeful in itself. Being together so long I'm sure your loved one is close. I recently met a friend at an event. We didn't get a chance to talk at length. I wondered who the man in back if her was. Being very protective guiding her down the receiving line. I knew her husband had recently passed. So I asked a relative next to me, "who is that?" She said, "her husband." I said, "I thought he died?" She said, "he did." My friend didn't seem aware of it. I always say there's a thin line between life and death. I find comfort and strength in that. While knowing I need to attend to the practical. Time takes time. Take care Cadee.

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Thank you Nicole. I don't always get to email. But I wanted to thank you for your kindness and thoughtful greetings. At such an awful time when you have your own concerns. I'm sure heaven will bless you for remembering the widows, widowers, and all grieving.

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(1 comment) Dear @mc6844 , you guys are my ONLINE family. I donot know what I would do WITHOUT all of you!!!

Together, WE will all "survive" and figure out our Healing Journey in OUR TIME.

So good hearing from you my friend, Nicole 🤎🤗

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Thank you Nicole and for all your caring help.

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(1 comment) I just received 3 AARP emails telling me you gave me 3 kudos! Thank you for your "kudos" Catherine @CatherineS641676 = WE know you are alive and kicking!!! 💃🥳

CatherineS641676

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Sorry to have been so absent of late-we are helping my 93 yr old mother in law with some projects. I honestly think the exhaustion of so much to do each day drowns out the time I spend in my own thoughts, which right now, is a good thing. Thank you for your caring thoughts to and for all of us in this forum. I appreciate this safe place, and you, so very much

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I appreciate this good place. And all your efforts Nicole staying in touch with folks. I'm busy with house things etc. that I wasn't able to attend to for years. Whether I get to it on a daily basis isn't important. It keeps me going for now. We have to remember to slow down too. I hope all on this site are well. And remember to stop in, like you said Nicole, and let everyone know how you are. Otherwise, people tend to worry. Also, seeking other sources of support is wise at times like this. Take care everyone.

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3 comments (4/20/23) So GOOD to hear from you @mc6844 💃🥳

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Cadee2719

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I have met so many wonderful people on this site and it has helped me a lot. I read a chapter in Widow to Widow last night and it made me laugh. She was saying how once her husband died, EVERYTHING in the house broke. Well that is me. My dryer, washer, oven and stove top and water heater ALL stopped working. They were all old and time to be replaced, BUT did they all have to go out at the same time? I will be very busy now calling repair men and buying new appliances. Again, I want to thank all of the wonderful, caring people on this site that truly are helping me through this difficult time.

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Cadee so sorry to hear. What an ordeal. You will be quite busy. How nice to get new appliances though! Some time ago I got a Home Protection warranty because I saw the way things were going. The monthly payment is reasonable. And helps give peace of mind. I've also figured out creative home repairs lol. Not for House Beautiful magazine but works for me. Take care.

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3 comments (4/23/23) So GOOD hearing from you @mc6844 💃🥳

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Good to hear from you too, Nicole. How are you doing?

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1 comment (4/25/23) Hi @mc6844 , thanks for asking! 🙂 Today is my weekly Walmart run. Looking forward to filling up my "empty" refrigerator and freezer, Nicole 🤗🤎

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jonibee

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I check to see the current posts but don't always respond as I am trying to go forth and have been busy attending to other matters which also affect me...I choose to look on the positive side of life as any negativeness can lead to depression and this I don't want...I know that I can't change the past and only can look to the future without my love of my life ..but feel that we will indeed meet again ..Life goes on and one has to face it in all its phases ...This is Spring a time of rebirth and new growth join in and grasp it dearly...

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Cadee2719

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Good morning everyone! Another day, another repair. Getting my windshield replaced today. Calling repair people and shopping for appliances has certainly occupied most of my time and MIND. Nicole, I AM taking one step at a time. 😊 Best wishes to all of my friends on this site. I appreciate all of you.