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jf7747659
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December 5, 2025

Loss of Husband 7 months ago

  • December 5, 2025
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My husband of 45 years died after just a 3 week hospital stay of AML.  He had been healthy our entire married life except for the summer before when he contracted Lyme's disease.  Maybe that disguised his fatigue he must have been feeling shortly before we went to the hospital for shortness of breath.  Anyway, he and I never thought he wouldn't be returning home from that hospital stay.  So lots of tears, lonely days and nights and all the rest.  Unbelievably, two of my three adult children are getting married in 2026. We are all over the place with happy and sad emotions - my daughter won't have her Dad to walk her down the aisle.  I'll be by myself thru all the social events that are part of each wedding instead of having my husband by my side. 

I just changed my primary AARP membership from his name to mine which led me here. My faith tells me I'll see him again but its a hard road to travel as a widow.  

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      SereneSeagull
      SereneSeagull
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      December 5, 2025

      Hi, and sorry for your hard loss, and the circumstances that led to it.

       The tug-of-war that envelopes your emotions are such a struggle.  I hope you have a large circle of family and friends who can support you.  That pain is so hard. Take care of yourself and lean on them.  Getting your emotions out by writing is helpful to many who grieve, so I’m sure it was hard to do that, but can be very cathartic in going through the myriad of emotions that will swirl around you.  Thank you for your message.

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        HaixinL535295
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        December 6, 2025

        Good luck will soon come your way. Believe in yourself.

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          jf7747659Author
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          December 9, 2025

          Thank you for the kind and caring words.  At this point I can't see the future me. I am finding the approaching holidays are making me even more sad because I can't keep the memories of past Christmas years from entering my thoughts.  It doesn't seem possible that when you lived with someone and saw them every day for years and then "poof" they are gone that you can adjust to a new life.  I mean eventually you have to, but what a painful process.  I don't have my husband to do the simplest things with anymore - like take a day trip somewhere and then stop for dinner.  i don't think its the same with a girlfriend at all. I do have a part time job that takes me physically away from my house which is a great distraction and I thank God for that.  sorry I just had to whine a little more.   

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            MaryD25234
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            December 17, 2025

            I know what you mean. I hold on to the truth that  "death ends a life, not a relationship".Love doesn't just disappear. So of course you're thinking of him. And you're right, it is a painful process.

             

              SummerOnTheWay1
              SummerOnTheWay1
              December 17, 2025

              Mary @MaryD25234 , I will ALWAYS "think" of him. So GLAD you stopped by to see us!!!

               

              Luv,

              Nicole  🤗🤗🤗  (Grief Forum)

               

              ➡️[*** MARY 

              @MaryD25234 wrote:

              I know what you mean. I hold on to the truth that  "death ends a life, not a relationship".Love doesn't just disappear. So of course you're thinking of him. And you're right, it is a painful process.

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                WalkingWoman
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                December 13, 2025

                I don't think I ever knew it could be this lonely.

                 

                 

                  SereneSeagull
                  SereneSeagull
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                  December 13, 2025

                  I was thinking of you today.  Someone I know lost her husband this year as well. I was writing my Christmas cards and was writing to her..  Being with others can be helpful.  If you belong to any organizations, community or church, that can also help by being with others.  It’s the stepping out that can be hard.  It’s one step as you can.  The isolation can be all-encompassing, which is why I mention being in the company of others.  

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                    MaryD25234
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                    December 17, 2025

                    I"m so sorry for the loss of your other half of 45 years. My husband of 44 years passed away last month. I have joined online Zoom meetings through the Modern Widow's Club online. If you have not heard of them you might be interested in checking them out. They have free and paid memberships. I 

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                      aidenwalker
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                      March 12, 2026

                      I’m so sorry for your loss. Losing someone after so many years together is incredibly hard. It’s completely natural to feel both joy and sadness with the upcoming weddings. I hope those moments also bring some comfort and remind you of the love you and your husband shared.

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