💡 Just For TODAY!

[Anonymous]

👤   Please REACH OUT to *1* GRIEVING person.

(A) Email/text/call (B) Visit (C) Invite to do something fun (D) Babysit/help around their house.

Grief & Loss Team 🤎🤗

[Winter2024]

Just for today. Make an appointment for a massage.

*** My daughter gets them all the time. Me, never had one. What about YOU? 🤔 ***

[mc6844]

I got one. Before my sister's wedding. All the bridesmaids. I wasn't impressed. But then my generation of women didn't get massages, pedicures etc. I've never gotten a pedicure. I don't like the idea of some poor girl bending over my feet. If I can pay for a pedicure it should be me helping her up from her feet. 

[MarcyW882921]

Getting a pedicure may well be helping that person to get up on their feet. It is how they make their living. That being said, I haven't had that many in my lifetime and I got my first one as a gift for my wedding in 2000. They are quite relaxing and there is a benefit to having human touch.

Marcy

[jonibee]

i came across a book of poems and one on grief was very meaningful..Because it was so long I didn't copy it but the name of the book is "History Will Remember When The World Stopped" (during the pandemic)by Donna Ashworth...One line that resonated is ..."Remember grief is the price you pay for Love devine; The stronger the Love the deeper the grief but Love, Love will always win in the end! 

[Winter2024]

Spend time with a pet.

[MarcyW882921]

I was invited earlier in the week by another griever to join a group of us at a location on the intracoastal. It is later today and I am hoping it will be a nice diversion and social outing for all of us.

Marcy

[Winter2024]

Think of something you want that is available; then make a plan to get it.

[mc6844]

My idea of socializing has changed to what I feel up to at the time. I feel I'm social every day in some way or other. Cooking can be tiring now. I make up a batch of pasta and keep in fridge. It can be eaten cold or heated. Ready made salads are good options. Baked potato, veg, frozen fish or tenderloin is easy and nutritious. Not eating can lead to depression. I know its not easy to keep going. But you need your strength. The Grief site needs you! We all struggle with these types of things. 

[Winter2024]

Celebrate small accomplishments like eating breakfast. (So many of us have lost our appetites 😥)

[mc6844]

Good suggestion Nicole. 

[MarcyW882921]

Nicole @Winter2024 , I like this idea of a way to offer support. Grave site visits are times when people who are grieving often become very emotional. If the person is open to having someone with them, it could allow them to experience the emotion without being concerned about their ability to drive safely.

[Winter2024]

Plan a surprise for someone.

[MarcyW882921]

Thanks Nicole @Winter2024 . I did just that. We aren't sure whether we will do something tomorrow or Sunday. It depends how rainy it is tomorrow.☔️

Marcy

[Winter2024]

Make a list of things you feel guilty about. Consider where you can make amends.

[MarcyW882921]

When you are grieving, there are times you are so distraught that it can be difficult to even know what you need. You can try throwing out some offers of things you can do for the grieving person and maybe they will hear an idea that would really help them.

[Winter2024]

Lie down and relax. Close your eyes.

[MarcyW882921]

Just wanted to let you know I have missed hearing from you. I hope all is going well in your new home.

Marcy

[Winter2024]

Be kind to yourself, and rest when you need to.

[MarcyW882921]

Nicole,

I was concerned about you, missed your presence, and was frustrated that I had no way to contact you. So glad you are near your daughter and back among us!🤗

Marcy

[Anonymous]

👤   Please REACH OUT to *1* GRIEVING person.

(A) Email/text/call (B) Visit (C) Invite to do something fun (D) Babysit/help around their house.

Grief & Loss Team 🤎🤗

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[Anonymous]

(1 comment) It ALWAYS brings a "smile" to my face when you stop by to see us mc6844 , Nicole 🤎🤗

▶️@mc6844 wrote:

It's good to drop into this group and see how you all are doing. I love to see you having good days. They help to offset the tiring days! Take care.◀️

[mc6844]

Thank you and I smile when I see everyone's posts. Even though it's a challenge to smile about some things, and we don't always smile. It's good to be reminded to see how others are doing. Take care.

[mc6844]

It's good to drop into this group and see how you all are doing. I love to see you having good days. They help to offset the tiring days! Take care.

[mc6844]

Nicole how are you doing?I hope things are quieter in your area. Take good care of yourself.

[mc6844]

Thank you for this reminder Nicole. I can't help physically anymore. I try to offer hope and a kind word. Or smile. Online groups and forums are a great source of help and hope for reaching out and peace of mind for the day. I also think it's imperative to take good care of oneself. Most posts I've read on this site are from caregivers. Overwhelmed and exhausted. There's not much 24/7 help available when caregiving. Even if you have nurses on an insurance plan, they really are for vitals checks etc. It's the housekeeping, laundry, meals, and quality of life support that is not easy. I found a wash and fold laundry service. For towels, sheets, shirts, jammies etc. Reasonably priced. And made me feel cared for lol in midst of so much sadness and mayhem.

[Therapist4u]

I REACH OUT to....

Nicole 😁👍😸

Take care ☮️ ~Allen 🌈 PEACE!

[SueS788527]

Hi, Nicole, I totally agree with your recommendation to reach out to others, many of whom are struggling with their own situation.  This type of interaction started several weeks after my husband died, pretty much by accident when a stranger was so kind to me at a critical time.  Then I realized the power of true compassion and sharing and was able to offer him some emotional support as well.  It is healthy to do this and has helped me with healing and forgiveness as well as closure on pressing issues.  The power of communication and compassion is AWESOME.  That is why the Grief Forum has become a second home to me.  Thanks everyone.  Sue

[Therapist4u]

Hi @NicoleW518772

AKA  APassionateLife🐱

"reach out" to at least 1 person TODAY......YOU😊

Yes....& a kudo to boot 😃

[jonibee]

Just a note to let you know that I am dealing with my loss on a daily basis and there are moments that the recent loss is overwhelming. I am keeping busy with day to day things and my hobbies. My daughters and I talk about the happenings and deal with them from time to time but remember the good times over the bad times which brings comfort to us..Gone but not forgotten is so true...

[LeeS4949]

I really like this post! Thank you. What you do here HELPS people. Please always remember that.