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"Elder Orphans" - Facebook Group

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September 7, 2017
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I just got a link from an AARP Livable e-mail, for an article about "Elder Orphans". The article contained a link to a closed Facebook group for us. If you request to join the group, a 3-item questionnaire pops up, asking your age, marital status, and status regarding children. Then you have to wait for the administrator to check it out & approve you.

It should be interesting to see what information they provide, and what the conversations are about.

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YankeeInNC

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Have you been accepted yet? What's your feedback?

@SarahGH wrote:
I just got a link from an AARP Livable e-mail, for an article about "Elder Orphans". The article contained a link to a closed Facebook group for us. If you request to join the group, a 3-item questionnaire pops up, asking your age, marital status, and status regarding children. Then you have to wait for the administrator to check it out & approve you.

It should be interesting to see what information they provide, and what the conversations are about.

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SarahGHAuthor

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@YankeeInNC - Yes, I was accepted. I'm a little confused about the group, because there doesn't seem to be any "expert facilitator" to offer any guidance. I started a discussion about the major issue "elder orphans" have .. not having children to oversee healthcare, bill payment, housing maintenance & other arrangements, etc .. and it was as if it was the first time anyone raised the subject. That seemed strange, that people would talk about general things .. but not the most important one. No "expert" jumped into that discussion, to suggest agencies that could help, professional services & their benefits/limitations.

When I seem to have more information than anyone else in a group, and I'm certainly no expert, I'm not sure how much value it is. If one of the other group members suggests something that's inaccurate, there's no "professional" to correct that?!

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chasel46

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Just an update to the closed Elder Orphans facebook group that is run by Carol Marak. In addition to answering the 3 questions to join the group, she is now requiring people to have an updated photo of themselves as part of their facebook profile in order to join or remain a member of the group. For those of you whose jobs or employers do not allow photo's of yourself to be posted on facebook, or those who are dealing with domestic violance and have been advised by your attorney not to post photo's of yourself on facebook, you will not be allowed to join the group. If you are currently a member of the elder orphan facebook group, you will be removed and blocked from rejoining the group.

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YankeeInNC

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Have you been accepted yet? What's your feedback?

@SarahGH wrote:
I just got a link from an AARP Livable e-mail, for an article about "Elder Orphans". The article contained a link to a closed Facebook group for us. If you request to join the group, a 3-item questionnaire pops up, asking your age, marital status, and status regarding children. Then you have to wait for the administrator to check it out & approve you.

It should be interesting to see what information they provide, and what the conversations are about.

~SL

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nanzee

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Does anyone know of a different website that provides information to 'elder orphans'? I never joined Facebook and have no desire to do so.

SIMPLEGAL

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Being an "Elder Orphan" is something I never imagined would happen to me.

PattyDiane

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I am a member of the "Elder Orphans" group on FB and have not, as yet, been contacted about the need of a photo. I haven't posted on the group for some time and wonder if I will receive that notice if and when I do.

I'm not certain how I feel about the need of a photo. I don't have one on my FB page and the only one I know about on line is one posted by my high school reunion group which is my high school graduation picture.

I have found the group interesting at times, especially around the holidays which can be difficult for a lot of us who doesn't have family. Then, as mentioned in an earlier posting, there have been some unkind comments to some members who might have family, even if they are unable to see them. For myself, I've lost both parents and also one of my two sisters. My other sister lives 200 miles away from me and is disabled and also hates to talk on the phone. She hasn't answered my e-mails and the only way I know that she's still alive is through her daughter. I also have two step-children who also live far away and I communicate with them mainly through FB.

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AdelaP283980

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Hello, I'm an Elder Orphan too and have been trying so hard and for so long to get into the Facebook EO Grooup but FB just says my account is disabled! I wanted to sign up because I don't remember my sign in due to having stopped using FB since around 20 years ago.

Is "Bernie" an Elder Orphan group you have organized? If so, please could you include me too?

On the other hand, is there a possibility that you could help me reach the FB EO group? I want very badly to get to them and also to be in your Bernie Group. Please let me know? Thanks very much in advance. 🙂 Adela

SarahGHAuthor

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3 weeks ago when I was walking for exercise in my neighborhood, I fell in the street, breaking both wrists! It's been a real experience in being an "elder orphan"! No phone, noone who could bring clothes to the hospital for me, no one to let friends & family know what happened, no one to feed my cats. I had to insist on going home, so I could set some things up myself! In rehab, one of my roommates had a daughter who visited daily & washed her hair, my next roommate had 10 children, one of whom was a nurse, and they "took shifts" staying with their mother. The 3rd had 8 children, and her husband spent most of the day with her. Now I'm home from rehab, I have braces on that I can't remove or put back on myself, and am awaiting a call from a service that provides at-home personal care & therapy .. but that won't be enough, since I can't prepare fresh food for myself, except pre-packaged microwave stuff.

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SummerOnTheWay1

📎 [Tuesday 9/3/24] Hi Adela @AdelaP283980 , maybe we can start an ELDER ORPHANS GROUP here IF YOU and OTHERS are interested.

I do NOT do Facebook.

Nicole 🤗🤗🤗

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AdelaP283980

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TO ALL: PLEASE DO RESPOND TO ME, THANK YOU! 🙂

Hey Nicole, I'm ALL FOR IT and MIGHTY INTERESTED!!! (See Nicole's message below). And I wrote you withh a little suggestion (can't find it here(?). Did you see it? I suggested strongly to start a group and one of its advantages could be that younger members could be others' executors, trustees, etc. Are we all here from NYC? In our new group perpahs in time we could gather at a coffee shop to discuss this important matter.. I'm looking for an elder and/or estate lawyer, but lawyers don't usually provide the persons needed around the dead person. It's up to us (familyless and friendless) to find them. Where better to find them than within an "Elder Orphan's Helping One Another" Group??? :).

I hope you and all others on this forum respond that they want a new group and will contribute with active suggestions. We can encourate people in their 40s, 50s, 60s and beyond so we'll always have younger-than-us members to volunteer for the older members. 🙂 Adela

FROM: Nicole. Fall2024inVA, to me:

"Maybe we could start an ELDER ORPHANS GROUP here IF YOU and OTHERS are inteerested."

SummerOnTheWay1

📎 [Tuesday 9/3/24] Hi Adela @AdelaP283980 , I am in Virginia. Hmmm, I am NOT one to "trust" strangers but maybe there are folks who do. AWESOME suggestion!!! I will probably end up contacting the attorney who did my LEGAL stuff. Nicole 👵

[*** ADELA wrote: TO ALL: PLEASE DO RESPOND TO ME, THANK YOU! 🙂
Hey Nicole, I'm ALL FOR IT and MIGHTY INTERESTED!!! (See Nicole's message below). And I wrote you withh a little suggestion (can't find it here(?). Did you see it? I suggested strongly to start a group and one of its advantages could be that younger members could be others' executors, trustees, etc. Are we all here from NYC? In our new group perpahs in time we could gather at a coffee shop to discuss this important matter.. I'm looking for an elder and/or estate lawyer, but lawyers don't usually provide the persons needed around the dead person. It's up to us (familyless and friendless) to find them. Where better to find them than within an "Elder Orphan's Helping One Another" Group??? :).

I hope you and all others on this forum respond that they want a new group and will contribute with active suggestions. We can encourate people in their 40s, 50s, 60s and beyond so we'll always have younger-than-us members to volunteer for the older members. 🙂 Adela
FROM: Nicole. Fall2024inVA, to me:
"Maybe we could start an ELDER ORPHANS GROUP here IF YOU and OTHERS are interested." ***]

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