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September 19, 2018

Lasting Loving Relationships

  • September 19, 2018
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What are the secrets of a close, lasting, loving relationship. If you have or had one yourself or know someone who does, please share.

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    Contributor ⭐⭐
    October 4, 2018

    My husband and I were friends before we were anything else. We laugh a lot together, we enjoy just hanging out with each other. We also share the same field of work, so when he comes home, complaing about something that happened at work, I totally understand. We also have each other's back. Always.

    Contributor ⭐
    August 28, 2019
    Wish I could give you a million Kudos!!!!! but high 5 to you both!!!
    Contributor ⭐
    October 4, 2018

    Communication (verbal not emails or texts) talk, touch and hold. No problem is too big to seperate anyone

    Contributor ⭐
    October 4, 2018

    I would have to add (to communicating well with each other) that it's also important for you and your partner to have interests and activities TOGETHER and SEPARATELY.  "Too much" together time can also be bad for a marriage/relationship.  

    Contributor ⭐
    October 13, 2018

    I totally agree that having separate hobbies or activities are healthy for a couple. My husband loves to mountain bike but I can't due to medical reasons. I love to sew and create. Why should we stop doing things we love just because the other doesn't participate? 

    My advise is to not stress over the little things, enjoy those relaxing times together and apart. 

    Contributor ⭐
    October 4, 2018

    My husband and I are together for 37 years and we are both 56. Compromise, unconditional love, working together on everything inside the marriage, thinking of the other person during your day and bringing home their favorite coffee or tea or snack. Little things mean alot. Being a team especially when raising children. Not expecting the woman to do all the house work or all the decisions on child rearing. Treating her as an equal not as a possession. Respect.

    Contributor ⭐
    October 4, 2018

    Keyword: Unconditional !

    AngelinaDeGriz
    Contributor ⭐
    October 4, 2018

    Communications, date nights, and humor are all great parts of our lasting relationship. Even all these years later we still whistle at each other and pinch the occasional "goose"! My husband can make me laugh so hard I can barely breath! We have found our strengths in the relation ship: I do finances, he cooks, we both clean. And, separate bedrooms! We still have plenty of intimate time but, boy, do we sleep differently. This keeps us from waking the other. Then we are less grumpy and more rested.

    Contributor ⭐
    October 4, 2018
    I pinch my husband's butt too and he returns the favor. Together 37 years.
    LydiaN586309
    Community Champion ⭐⭐⭐
    October 19, 2018

    @barajasdawn wrote:
    I pinch my husband's butt too and he returns the favor. Together 37 years.

     

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    I just had the best laugh when I read your post.  I am a spooner and a belly rubber.  lol lol lol

    Contributor ⭐
    October 4, 2018

    The wife and I have been together for fortysix years now!  What keeps us together ? Lord only knows. In my eyes she is still as beautiful as the day I saw her at Sears and Roebuck. She worked Catalog and I just about did everythng from stock boy, carry out and paint sales. The first seven years we were married I think we were together myabe only a year. You see Viet Nam was going on and I Enlisted in the Navy. Was I  crazy? you bet! crazy  in love. The guys in the squadron called me a choir boy because when we hit the beach ( liberty) I always stayed true to my love. I'ld see chaseing the women and I just laughed.

      After sea duty I found that if I wanted to stay with her I'ld have to change. I started paying attention to the thing she liked doing . From there I attemptd ( and still am ) to like the same things. We are together to this day so I must be doing something right.

    Contributor ⭐
    October 4, 2018
    Thank you for sharing and for serving our country
    Contributor ⭐
    October 4, 2018

    Always remember the little things. A card, flower or candy for no reason than "Just Because".

    Have a date night when you can. Make each other laugh. Ask how their day was. Hug and Kiss goodnight and goodbye. Take her in your arms, look into those beautiful eyes and tell her how great she makes you feel. Remind her that you love and want her but also how much you really need her. Do not go a day without saying I love you. Do the things that brought you together from the start. Always compliment, respect each other and never take for granted.

    Every once in awhile, Absolutey blow her mind by going over the top.

    For our 25th Anniversary I rented a limo. We went to the first hotel that we ever went to. I took her to dinner at the restaurant where I first said I Love You. I found  our florist from our wedding day and had her flowers from her boquet delivered to our table.

    Keep the Fires burning.

    Contributor ⭐
    October 4, 2018

    What I found to interesting to a lasting,long relationship is listening to my husband of 17 years. Instead of talking so much. Sometimes he has some interesting things to say.. laugh if you will, but so true..

    Contributor ⭐
    October 4, 2018

    What I found to be interesting to a lasting,long relationship is listening to my husband of 17 years. Instead of talking so much. Sometimes he has some interesting things to say.. laugh if you will, but so true..

    Contributor ⭐
    October 23, 2018

     I was married for 67 years.  I am 86...in reasonably good health (held together by my good Doctor with vaious pills) and I lost my husband June 20th, 2018.  Then I lost my older son ( who had Schitzophrenia) July 10th, 2018.  I am seeing a grief counselor and I am a reasonably strong person, but I did suffer an anxiety attack recently (which brought me to a hospital).  Back to the topic...for a good, solid marriage that lights up your life...bury your ego.  You are not always right...neither is he!  He is as smart as you always knew him to be and so are you.  Negotiate the problem with a good attitude!

    Florette Small
    Contributor ⭐
    October 5, 2018

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