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VickieF426693
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May 25, 2025

Is Thank You a senior hang up?

  • May 25, 2025
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  “It’s implied “ my daughter-in-law replied. I had just remarked that I had not received a Thank You note for the gift I had brought to a shower a few weeks earlier. I wondered if  it would be implied that I meant to buy a gift if I’d shown up with an empty gift bag! 

Notes  are not the only acknowledgements that are going away…not even a nod if you open a door or let someone with one avocado  and a candy bar go ahead of you in line at the grocery store. What have your experiences been with what I consider to be common courtesy?

I guess I just need to remember my daughter-in-law”s last words on the subject. “Our  generation is just not hung up on formalities” she noted and ended with “By the way You’re  Welcome!”

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      papawofboo
      papawofboo
      Community Champion ⭐
      May 25, 2025

      My advice to you is to have a good heart to heart with your son. There is a lot of great moments coming with grandchildren but I get the feeling she doesn't care if you are in on them.

       

      As far as common courtesy, I am more surprised when it happens than when it doesn't.  And I think the reason for this is THE PHONE.

      Papaw of Boo
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      VickieF426693Author
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      May 26, 2025

      Oh gosh I really gave you all the wrong impression…my daughter in law is great! I was complaining to her about a shower I attended . The bride did not send a thank you note and I thought that was frankly,rude. My daughter in-law was trying to make me feel better!!!…SHE WAS NOT THE PERSON BEING RUDE! 

       

      papawofboo
      papawofboo
      Community Champion ⭐
      May 26, 2025

      A habit that I try to keep is to read my post at least twice before I hit reply.

      Papaw of Boo
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        VickieF426693Author
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        May 26, 2025

          Yikes, I really gave you the wrong impression. My daughter-in-law is great. She was trying to make me feel better that I did not receive a thank you note from a bride I had given a shower gift. I am very lucky to have such a wonderful daughter-in-law. I am thankful for that I think  should send her a Thank You note!

        nctarheel
        nctarheel
        Community Champion ⭐
        May 26, 2025

        Thank you's for holding a door, thank you's for giving up a place in line, thank you notes for gifts, greeting cards, personal letters, and other pleasantries are all dead....... victims of today's social media, texting, and other forms of "modern" communication with one another. Sad isn't it, @VickieF426693 ?????

          SereneSeagull
          SereneSeagull
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          May 26, 2025

          I hear you that it wasn’t your daughter in law, but I think it’s her cavalier response to today’s lack of acknowledgement, that maybe she too, subscribes to that philosophy?  I don’t think that response as to explaining that as a reason these days would be so welcomed by me.  

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