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AARPTeri
Community Manager
January 5, 2015

How long do you want live? 80, 90, 100?

  • January 5, 2015
  • 229 replies
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Do you have a number in mind? Do you want to live to be 80, 90 or 100? How about 115 or 120?

Do you think it matters what your expectations are? I do. I think if you expect to live a long healthy life, your chances of doing so are greater.

229 replies

l406974p
Contributor ⭐
June 30, 2017

I'm 66.  When I was a young child, it somehow came to me that I was going to live to be 93.  I didn't question how I got the info - I was young (maybe 8), & with the simple faith of a child, believed it came from God.  Although somewhat overweight, & dealing for 20 years with fibromyalgia, I'm otherwise healthy & continue to work.  Genetics are on my side.  So I still believe 93 is my number. I would be even more pleased about that if I had not been widowed at 64.  I hope to find my last love to share these last decades on earth with me.  More fun that way!

Always remember, others may hate you, but those who hate you don't win unless you hate them, and then you destroy yourself.” - Richard Nixon
Contributor ⭐
July 1, 2017

I met my current Significant Other when I was 75, a year and a half after my husband of 26 years had passed away.  I'm 77 now and S O and I are still going strong!  There is life even when you are three quarters of a century old!  One of the secrets is to keep your body moving.  I am still Rock n Roll dancing at S O's band gigs.

Contributor ⭐
June 30, 2017

For me I think 80 would be a good age.  I'm 60 right now and I think another 20 years would see me through what I want to do.  I may change my mind later if I stay in good health, have a good mind, and stay active.

Contributor ⭐
June 30, 2017
I'm 82 and want at least 10 more years, possibly 20 if I'm not senile or disabled.
Contributor ⭐
June 22, 2017

From my perspective of 64, I feel like everyday is an adventure so I choose 100+. I am healthy with no illness or disability at this time so maybe things will change, there is no way to know. My mom is 88 and vibrant, I know she chooses to be here as long as possible. My poor dad had Alzheimers, but he still fought to survive because he loved his life so much. I have always wanted to live a long life and that hasn't changed as I have aged. I look forward to each and every day!

Contributor ⭐
June 30, 2017
Your attitude and your mother's is like mine. I adore my family, and have such a desire for living. I am never bored and find something I love doing. My husband has been gone for 13 years but, where I miss him, I am able to enjoy time with family and good friends.
Contributor ⭐
July 14, 2017

It is only when the pain in life exceeds the joy in life with all hope extinguished that death becomes attractive.  Maintain the joy, extinguish the pain, and live a century or more. 

Contributor ⭐
June 22, 2017

Why on earth would I want to live that long?  Maybe till 80, but after that I would really not want to live much past that.  The elderly are treated so poorly in this country and if you don't have your health, it's a lot worse. Doctor's are trying to keep us alive longer and longer, but with the economy the way it is, and the Health Insurance crisis, why would I want to prolong that?  No one knows if Social Seurity will still be around so living longer will just drain all your finance's and eventually you will end up broke. By the time I reach 80 I whould have lived a full life, and I want to go out with dignity rather than stuck in a nursing facility or a burden to someone else.  Just my two cents worth.  Thanks,  

Contributor ⭐
June 25, 2017

I'm with you, s814175p - 80 might even be too long to live, IMHO. I always think of the A.E. Houseman poem: http://www.bartleby.com/103/33.html - and am not counting on more than my "threescore years and ten", which seems about right to me. 

2Papa
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June 22, 2017

Depends on what shape I am in at the time.

Contributor ⭐⭐
June 22, 2017

As long as my cat wants to take care of me, I'm fine.

Contributor ⭐
July 6, 2017

Good idea!

Contributor ⭐
June 21, 2017

   I believe one has to feel RELEVANT and have a CHALLENGE. When that dissipates say Bye Bye. Of course PAIN to a high degree with persistence can also roll-the-ball-into-the-hole also. Then they just dope-u-up and you fester on with no existence bascially. When you get old they plant you in a corner and juice-you-up till your **bleep** fails or more often, till you fall and break your pelvis. Getting old sucks so do it NOW. This is your last chance at being your best.

Community Champion ⭐⭐⭐
June 21, 2017

To me, "Life" is just another "event" to participate in or not. As long as your consciousness has a desire to participate in it, it wants to exist. Once your consciousness has less desire to participate, it has less desire to exist. Factors that effect that desire are both internal and external. The general well-being of your consciousness determines its desire to exist. And that changes constantly until it doesn't. Ever hear that saying that it's a woman's peragative to change her mind? Well, even if it subconscious, your Conscious/Subconscious/Soul does likewise. Sometime a little, sometime a lot. So, the only answer I can give is, "Ask me again when it matters.".

Contributor ⭐
June 21, 2017

I have suffered chronic nerve pain for 40 years. I am now 72 and the prospect of decades more pain is not very attractive. Both of my parents developed dementia at age 86 so the prospect of attainling that milestone is also unattractive. Time will tell how pleasant/unpleasant increasinlg age will be.

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June 22, 2017

I am sorry to read that you are dealing with nerve pain.  Unfortunately. the treatments available for nerve pain and lots of other types of pain don't work and sometimes the side effects are worse than the pain you are having.  You may find some help from other sources. I suggest you locate a Naturopathic doctor.  My daughter is a massage therapist and has spent her entire life educating herself and me with regards to natural healing methods.  I take a lot of supplements and go to a chiropractor 2 times a week.  I walk almost everyday since a neurologist told me that it would keep me from getting dementia. I pray that you will find the help you need.  I did suffer with nerve pain for years and I don't have it now.  I will be praying for you and that you will find the help you need.

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June 21, 2017

There is longevity on both sides of my family, with 8 people having lived from age 88 to 101.  At least 2 suffered from Alzheimer's, 3 from some form of dementia and the other 3 a number of various medical conditions.  I would like to look forward to living as long as I have relatively good health, can still function pretty much on my own and little to no memory loss.  Having watched both my father who had Alzheimer's and my Mom who is suffering serious dementia herself, I would not want this for myself.

Contributor ⭐⭐
June 22, 2017
I urge you to do something now. Get moving as much as you are able. What is happening to your parents and other family members does not need to happen to you. Get moving!