Being ignored. My two sisters-in-law took me out to dinner for my birthday, but they, one especially, wouldn't talk to me when I spoke to her. I was sitting across from both of them. I said "Why are you ignoring me?" and she said it was because she was eating. Also, they are sisters, so when we get together they talk amongst themselves and don't include me. Why take me out if you are not going to converse with me?

Then, about a week before, I was at the hair salon and the one doing hair was talking to her client about a Polish market. I tried to enter the conversation by asking where it was - about three times I tried to talk and they ignored me too. What is it about me?

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CarolynS674392

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This makes me cry. I feel so sad.

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ChaviB814890restAuthor

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1 comment (THURSDAY 1/12/23) Well, had a very "rough" week but was too full of hate to share. Yes, they say to "forgive" and I have not gotten to that level. And "forget" - never! But just now, it was like LIFE reminded me that I had come too far to let TOXIC folks infiltrate my mind. Take up so much space, you are cold and unfeeling. Nope, toxic person, you had your fun. Stepping away for a few days did help. Missing you MamaMae, Aunt Len and Aunt Edna. Rest in peace my ladies... 🤗🤗🤗🤎🤎🤎

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LeeS4949

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I'm so sorry for the week you've had. I sensed something but I didn't want to push or pester you. I know sometimes stepping away is a way to deal with the toxic ones that inevitably slither into our lives, leaning on others is another. You're last posting says it all. They may have effected your week but you didn't let them win. Hugs and smiles. 🤗

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ChaviB814890restAuthor

Community Manager

1 comment (1/9/23) SO GOOD to hear from you today @LeeS4949 , @BeatleloverKT and @EileenP559346 . Thinking of you @MarcyW882921 and @jonibee 🤎🤗

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LeeS4949

Community Champion ⭐

Great to hear from you 😊 Is today Walmart day?

BeatleloverKT

Community Champion ⭐⭐⭐

Thinking of you all today. Sun is out today which always makes me feel better. Hope everyone has a blessed day 😎

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LeeS4949

Community Champion ⭐

And you as well 🤗

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ChaviB814890restAuthor

Community Manager

1 comment (1/8/23) WE LUV YOU Eileen @EileenP559346 🤎🤗 and sending you health. Hope you feel better soon! Nicole 🤎🤗

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EileenP559346

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Thank you. Appreciate all of you. Eileen

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ChaviB814890restAuthor

Community Manager

8 comments (Saturday 1/7/23) Dreary days always make me sad and overthink missing my loved ones. Today is one, cloudy! Luv you all, Nicole 🤗🤎

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LeeS4949

Community Champion ⭐

It is here too but maybe I'm just used to it. If the sun is out in Maine it's usually noteworthy. Not the best weather in the world but we make it work somehow.

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ChaviB814890restAuthor

Community Manager

2 comments (1/7/23) There is no pleasing me as I don't like much sun = hot, hot flashes./lol 😂🤣

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ChaviB814890restAuthor

Community Manager

1 comment (Thursday 1/5/23) @BeatleloverKT , @CarolynS674392 , @LeeS4949 and @jonibee 🤎🤗

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LeeS4949

Community Champion ⭐

Today is a weather day. Ice and freezing rain. I hear the roads are treacherous. Looks like a day to den up with the gang which is ok. I've been busy this week so I could use a house day.

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ChaviB814890restAuthor

Community Manager

3 comments (Thursday 1/5/23) Well the DREADED weekend is getting closer. Thursdays (today) are ALWAYS "sad" for me. It seems everyone where I live are ENJOYING their weekends while I am busy feeling sorry for myself. Luv you all, Nicole 🤗🤎

BeatleloverKT

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We must find our own joy I guess. I just don’t know where to even begin. It seems impossible most days

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LeeS4949

Community Champion ⭐

Joy frequently comes from unexpected places. I've seen it happen so often to me and others. I've never believed we can "make"it happen, maybe that's for others to do for us. A small contribution to our lives as we go thru our day perhaps. Its never an exact science, more fate. I dont believe in luck.

BeatleloverKT

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My challenges are plentiful. Sometimes just getting out of bed is the challenge of the day. These are the others I’m dealing with-

1. Getting my house ready to sell

2. Being forced to sell my vacation home, which I promised him I wouldn’t, but I can’t afford it

3. Dealing with everything that happens to my 90+ parents, who are still in their home

4. Living with my 21 yo grandson, who I raised, who is a challenge unto himself

5. Living everyday with the knowledge my husbands entire side of the family walked away from me after he died

6. Waiting for my 27 yo son (my only child) to move

away in less then three weeks

7. Just dealing with all the stuff that goes along with being alone, fixing everything and dealing with every issue with my home and life alone

Now that I see it on paper, I’m crying now. I hope my post doesn’t upset anyone. Everyone’s challenges are important. Mine just feel overwhelming right now

jonibee

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You only can take and do things one day at a time and slowly things will eventually start to fall into place. It's too bad that the passing of a loved one causes strife and literally being ignored or forgotten with extended families even people that you were part of their lives..You'll survive and be a stronger person and those who stood by you are the real gems...I try to do something everyday no matter how insignificant it may seem but it's a small step that will lead to healing within...I too have a dread of a day but try not to make it the focal point because there is nothing that I can do just accept it for what it is..I have my days that are filled with sadness but try to get through it by other diversions..It's comforting to be able to come to this site and talk about feelings and happenings a time to vent..Hopefully all will go well with your dealings and knowing we are here to listen...

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