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by MarcyW882921 in Grief & Loss

‎06-13-2023 04:14 PM

@Cadee2719 , You obviously have a lot of love to give and in time you will find a place for it to go. Because of our loss, we are forever changed. We are no longer a wife, caretaker, etc. so now we are searching for our new identity and purpose. I think we join many others on this path.◀️

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by Cadee2719 in Grief & Loss

‎06-13-2023 02:00 PM

I agree. My role for many, many years was "caretaker" to my husband. I did all I could to keep him alive. His doctors would tease me and say they wanted me as their nurse when they became ill. Toward the end of his hospice care, the nurse (the sweetest person ever) said "He is dying. You are still struggling to do everything within your power to keep him alive. He is suffering and you must let him go." Now that he is gone, I no longer feel as if I have a purpose in life. I struggle to find my identity. Last night I read something by Jamie Anderson; "Grief is just love, with no place to go." Thank You for expressing your thoughts and understanding.◀️

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Cadee I'd say you've found a purpose in sharing your experiences here. What you share helps others dealing with the same issues. Most people have no idea how Hospice works, or how to navigate end of life issues. Your knowledge can help many people find ways that work in their situations! Take care.

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‎06-12-2023 03:41 PM

Oh my...you are so spot on with your description. I can truly relate to everything you said!

Thank you!

Marcy◀️

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2 comments (6/12/23) Party Time!!! 🥳💃

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‎06-12-2023 02:16 PM

Good reminders Marcy! Thank yoi

▶️(2) mc6844 Conversationalist

‎06-12-2023 02:37 PM

Your question made me think. When my husband was dying in hospital he kept asking me "how are you doing?" I said "I'm ok." Of course I wasn't but didn't want to add to his grief. But I kept telling myself I was OK cause what else are you gonna do in those circumstances? Falling apart wasn't an option. It would be too much putting all of myself back together. Except we're never the same after these things. It's not only the people we love and care about that we've lost, but that part of our life and our roles in their lives. ◀️

Cadee2719

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I agree. My role for many, many years was "caretaker" to my husband. I did all I could to keep him alive. His doctors would tease me and say they wanted me as their nurse when they became ill. Toward the end of his hospice care, the nurse (the sweetest person ever) said "He is dying. You are still struggling to do everything within your power to keep him alive. He is suffering and you must let him go." Now that he is gone, I no longer feel as if I have a purpose in life. I struggle to find my identity. Last night I read something by Jamie Anderson; "Grief is just love, with no place to go." Thank You for expressing your thoughts and understanding.

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MarcyW882921

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@Cadee2719 , You obviously have a lot of love to give and in time you will find a place for it to go. Because of our loss, we are forever changed. We are no longer a wife, caretaker, etc. so now we are searching for our new identity and purpose. I think we join many others on this path.

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2 comments 📬(Monday 6/12/23)

Well, took it easy this weekend and had some "rough" moments but LEARNING to let the "moments" come and go! 👍

Was SO GOOD hearing from EVERYONE...🥳💃

So TONIGHT is Trash Night. 😭 NO mail = NO post office emails since I last checked. Check each week when I make my "dreaded" trip to the dumpster. But I do CHECK "just in case" they missed notifying me. 🙄

Then TOMORROW (Tuesday) is my "mixed emotions" trip to my LOA (local office of aging) to get my MEDICARE set up. Turn 65 THIS September and NOT looking forward to the process. Yes, decisions and changes. My OLD doctor does NOT accept Medicare. 😭😭😭 Same with dentist for my 6-month cleanings. Then the trip DOWNTOWN. 😱 Yes, getting on the highway. I picked a Tuesday and 10am HOPING all the "bumper riders" are somewhere else and NOT on my bumper./lol 😂🤣

Then WEDNESDAY, my weekly Walmart "out of food" run. 😭

***And yes, a night of falling asleep BEFORE my 11pm bedtime = now AWAKE. Oh well...😉***

Luv you ALL,

Nicole 🤗🤎

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Thanks for sharing Nicole. The moments and time marches on for sure. I hear a lot of hope in your shares and I hope your Medicare years are good to you!

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Thank you @mc6844 , so GOOD hearing from you!!! 🥳💃 Nicole 🤎🤗

▶️@mc6844 wrote:
Thanks for sharing Nicole. The moments and time marches on for sure. I hear a lot of hope in your shares and I hope your Medicare years are good to you!◀️

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2 comments (Monday 6/12/23)

Sometimes WE do NOT feel like stopping by to chat.

WE understand! 👍

But HOPE you will stop by AGAIN to see us. 🥳💃

Grief & Loss Team 🤎🤗

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Your question made me think. When my husband was dying in hospital he kept asking me "how are you doing?" I said "I'm ok." Of course I wasn't but didn't want to add to his grief. But I kept telling myself I was OK cause what else are you gonna do in those circumstances? Falling apart wasn't an option. It would be too much putting all of myself back together. Except we're never the same after these things. It's not only the people we love and care about that we've lost, but that part of our life and our roles in their lives.

M

MarcyW882921

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Oh my...you are so spot on with your description. I can truly relate to everything you said!

Thank you!

Marcy

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1 comment (6/11/23) Party Time!!! 🥳💃

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by MarcyW882921 in Grief & Loss

‎06-11-2023 05:30 PM

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Nicole @Spring2023 , Thanks for sharing this again. I read it several months ago, but it was good for me to read it again at this stage in my grief process. Marcy

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by MarcyW882921 in Grief & Loss

‎06-11-2023 05:35 PM

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Nicole @Spring2023, Today I did some physical activity, had lunch with a friend, called a relative that I hadn't spoken to for a while, and spent some quiet time reading. It felt good to take care of myself in multiple ways. I'd like to think that there were others who benefitted as well. 🙂 Marcy◀️

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Good reminders Marcy! Thank you

BeatleloverKT

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Happy Sunday to everyone! This is my day that

I don’t do a thing. No housework and usually no

cooking. Just relaxing. Hope you all are relaxing

as well. Love to all 💜

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MarcyW882921

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Kathy @BeatleloverKT Good for you! It is great that you allow yourself this day of rest and relaxation! Enjoy your you time because you deserve it.

Marcy

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1 comment (Friday 6/9/23)

I hope everyone gets some sleep TONIGHT. 😴

Yes, SOME nights are a "trip" for me = sometimes I fall asleep too early and then up when I am SUPPOSE to be sleeping. 🙄

Oh well, I NOW "celebrate" the nights I do sleep 11pm to 6am and KNOW on the other nights - it is TEMPORARY! 😉

Luv you ALL, Nicole 🤎🤗