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February 3, 2023
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SummerOnTheWay1

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MarcyW882921

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Yes Nicole @Nicole549658 I just looked at the clock to see how time is flying by. I must get busy trying to clean around in my mess and the holiday will be over!

Marcy

BeatleloverKT

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Happy Labor Day to everyone. Hope you find some peace and joy today 💜

SummerOnTheWay1

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mc6844

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I guess these holidays bring up memories of family and friends gone. I'm glad you saw the chipmunks and the deer. Sounds like they were there just for you. Their visits are such a blessing when I'm too tired for human interaction. I understand how you feel. The weekend is over. You survived it again! You have tomorrow to look forward to. I hope you regain your strength and enjoy your peace and happiness in your lovely surroundings. Take care, Nicole. I say a special prayer for you!

SummerOnTheWay1

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Cadee2719

Community Champion ⭐

I settled on Idaho because my brother, and a grandson live there. I want to be near family and be able to celebrate the holidays with them. I hate leaving my home, but it is no longer safe. It seems as if the elderly are their targets here and I am tired of being locked up in my home. I really appreciate the fact that my son is coming with me. My second grandson goes to college in Oregon and promised me he would come and visit as often as he can. I am simply searching for a "family" to be with. I know that you truly understand that. It sure is h*** getting old isn't it, but you my dear are far younger than I am and have ALOT of years ahead of you to enjoy. You appear to be a bundle of joy and live life to the fullest and make everyone on this site happy. Luv ya.

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Cadee2719

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🖐Hello to everyone. I pray that no one was harmed by the hurricanes. Bill, we are thinking of you today and know how difficult it will be. Kim, Happy Birthday early and I hope you have a fun day with family and precious Beasley. Beatle what breed of dogs are they? They are beautiful. Nicole, thank you for your love and devotion to us all. I wish I had your energy. Marcy, enjoy your travels and be safe. I am so busy packing and getting things done at the house in preparation to eventually put it on the market. My not being on the site as often does not mean I don't think of all you and miss you. By the end of the day I am glad to climb into bed with all my aches and pains. I am realizing that I "THINK" I am younger and stronger than I am, but at the end of the day I "KNOW" for a fact that I AM NOT.

BeatleloverKT

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@Cadee2719 Amen to the aches and pains! The dogs are my granddogs. I’m visiting my son and his wife in Kentucky. Zeke is a Belgian Malinois and he is the baby. Very energetic doesn’t even describe him. Ned is a greyhound/ shepherd mix. He’s the middle boy. Very sweet but has a lot of anxiety issues. Noah is a pitbull/Lab. He is the oldest. A true people dog, he loves to snuggle and cuddle and get lots of rubs all day. They are a lot of fun to hang out with! Keep me on my toes

SummerOnTheWay1

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mc6844

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Thank you Nicole for your kind messages. I just saw them. Flu shot made me kind of sick this year. I hope everyone gets one in spite of a small reaction. It's better than full blown flu. I do think of all on this site and keep you in prayer. I know everyone is struggling with one thing or another and it's not easy. Keep on keeping on. God is with you.

SummerOnTheWay1

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mc6844

Community Champion ⭐⭐

I'm sorry you had a rough night Nicole. Try to take it easy today and maybe take a nice nap!

SummerOnTheWay1

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MarcyW882921

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Not home yet. We finally saw some sun today and got to get out walking and seeing the sights.😊

jimbohretired

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Losing a spouse is tough. I lost the love of my love after 53 years of marriage.

But we had many good years. I am SO thankful that we took SS early (my wife's family did not have longevity. )We were able to travel - road trips, cruises and a couple of trips to Europe. As we aged Jan became less able to travel. Was in a wheel chair whenever we left the home (in the last 7 years). We visited our children many many times over the years either tied to a road trip or flying. Jan was in failing health after her first stroke in 2017 but could continue to be functional. Over the years she had many challenges including a kidney transplant, hip replacement, two strokes, colon cancer, and two broken shoulders from falls. But Jan made the most of it - she was a trooper!!!!! I can not emphasize this enough !!!! Get your "doing" in early as you never know what the future holds. We were lucky to have about 10 great retirement years with lots of blessings over that time.

It does seems that the emptiness of the home and the missing of your loved one never seem to go completely away. I am blessed to have two children close with a third in Chicago. And they are attentive and call often.

One other bit of advice - we purchased long term care insurance that we used for probably 4 years. This allowed us to have caregivers in the home. The cost for the care would have been prohibitive without it (About $6,500 a month)

Lastly I am now without my wife for two years. I have had to push myself to get out of the home. Some of the things that I have done that may help you...

I bike two hours a day -one hour of that with friends-and will often talk to my son for a good part of the other hour.

I take a circuit training class MWF each week.

I volunteer at the church Thursday mornings - do clean up and have coffee with the other volunteers.

I have been blessed to have two couples that have been very supportive. I will spend an evening at a minimum once and sometimes 2X a week with them.

Lastly, I now finally have begun to invite people to my home and this is a challenge for me.

Probably the most difficult thing for me is to go to functions by myself. Most everyone else that attends is with their spouse.

All for now hope this helps in some small way.

BeatleloverKT

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@jimbohretired I’m sorry for your loss. It’s been 5 years for me and it’s still very hard some days. You were blessed with a long marriage and had some retirement years together. Sadly I was still working when my husband passed. And you’re keeping busy in the community and with your friends and that is a great thing. Entertaining in your home is a brave thing, I could not do that. So all things considered, you’re doing well. Keep all that up and good luck to you on this journey no one wants to take. Keep us posted along the way

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Cadee2719

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I pray that everyone in Florida will be safe from the storm.

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