WE ARE SORRY about your loss 💛

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SereneSeagull

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Well got through another Thanksgiving without the members of my family I lost. Very small gathering of football and pizza. Drove around on a scavenger hunt to find a place even open for carry out pizza

Talked to a family member in another state, and they had a video going of the pictures of those who had passed, so I thought that was nice. Wish I could’ve been with them.

I was feeling the grief a lot last night and so glad there are others that know how hard the holidays are. Today is a new day, until Christmas, but I got through. One day at a time is all we can do, right?

~~ Per Jimmy Buffett 🫧🫧 Bubbles Up!

LisaS961881

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I am so grateful that my notifications haven’t been working lately because I just discovered your post. I wanted to reach out to let you know how I, and I am certain many others, appreciated how honestly you expressed your experience with us.

I wanted to share that we too either watch a video, pass around photos, or simply contribute a fond memory of those who have passed to everyone present at our gathering. At times, of course, the tears flow and the pain can be gut-wrenching, but we all feel not only a small bit of comfort, but also that we have celebrated the lives of those we miss.

Yes, today is a new day, and we all do our best to muddle through this.

SereneSeagull

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Thank you Lisa. Hardest part for me was last year, as my father had told me for years that I was the person in charge of estate, so the grieving process had to be put to the side somewhat so I could take care of everything that needed to be done.

This year it hit me hard at Thanksgiving. I didn’t think it would and took me by surprise as this year at the last moment my spouses family member was hospitalized. So the Turkey day turned into a very unconventional evening with my own family household trying to put together something like takeout pizza at the last minute.

Then as we were eating, I started to miss my own parents and how hard it was this year now that both are really gone. That’s it, just sibling and her family and me and mine. Miles apart.

Anyway, it hit me. But yes, today is a new day. Went to the gym met up with my friends and shared my hunt for an open pizza shop in town that hadn’t closed for our Thanksgiving meal. And then danced the morning with friends in class.

😊Thanks

~~ Per Jimmy Buffett 🫧🫧 Bubbles Up!

SereneSeagull

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Ok so I guess I’m not supposed to reply to a post here on this thread, but make my own…. Sorry, didn’t realize I’m not supposed to do that.

So here’s mine,

As with most people I know where I socialize (where I find my joy)at my fitness center, who have experienced loss, we all are walking it together. Whether we express our grief outloud to others or keep it close to our vest. One of the most helpful things to me in experiencing my grief in the losses I’ve had in my life was to allow that pain and hurt to be there at times. That it’s ok to be painfully sad and miss my loved ones.

But I also take comfort in knowing that my circle of friends and support are with me. Getting outside of that constant sadness is hard. I wish everyone who is experiencing pain of loss the comfort of knowing they are not alone today in their feelings on Thanksgiving as others know this pain.

~~ Per Jimmy Buffett 🫧🫧 Bubbles Up!

SummerOnTheWay1Author

1 step at a time!!!

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SereneSeagull

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They so do, no matter how old they get, I agree. I have a friend who gives of herself for her kids, even though they are older now. She keeps putting off her doctors’s appointments, and several of us at the gym have been encouraging her to take care (edited cuz I forgot a word here), of herself as well.

I think our children will always be our main worry, no matter what. So true

~~ Per Jimmy Buffett 🫧🫧 Bubbles Up!

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s988200m

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I am sorry for your loss

Sherry Miles

SummerOnTheWay1Author

[Wednesday 7/29/26]

Dear @s988200m , I hope you will stop by AGAIN to see us!!!

Grief & Loss Team 🤗

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SummerOnTheWay1Author

📎 [11/5/25] Michelle @MichelleC103656 , I am heading offline but "available" IF you need me dear friend.

Luv to those darling furbabies of yours from Mister 🐈🐈🐈🐈

Nicole 💛

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MichelleC103656

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Thank you, Nicole. We are just trying to get through each day. I appreciate your kind words. Luv to you and Mister.💌🐈

SummerOnTheWay1Author

📎 [11/5/25] TODAY is "your" day and you are in my thoughts dear friend!!!

Michelle @MichelleC103656

Luv,

Nicole 🤗🤗🤗 (Grief Forum)

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MichelleC103656

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Hey Nicole! It's been a while. I hope that you and Mister have been doing well. September was so wonderful. Then, October brought my husband Jim and me so much grief. My Mom had a stroke. She went into a coma on a Saturday night and passed away the following Monday. We were trying to come to grips with her loss, when 2 weeks later Jim found that his mother had passed away. We were staying at her house. We said our goodnights. She was fine. The next morning, Jim went to check on her,and she was gone. He came and told me. I didn't understand at first. We called his sister and everyone. When an autopsy was done, they said that she had suffered a heart attack. She had just been to her doctor and been given a clean bill of health. So, things have not been so great. We are in shock. We can't believe everything that has happened. We start crying some days and can't stop. I know that we were so lucky to have them in our lives for so long, but it just hurts so much💔. My Mom was 86. Jim's mother was 92. Okay, I am going to try and get a little sleep😴. I look forward to hearing from you, Nicole. Your friend, Michelle👩‍🏫, and Hi from the furbabies.😺🐱😸

SummerOnTheWay1Author

@jbar4650 , SO GLAD you stopped by to see us!!! 🤗💛

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jbar4650

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No I don't have this. I am losing it every day.

SummerOnTheWay1Author

[6/30/26] Dear @jbar4650 , we hope you will stop by AGAIN to see us!!!

Grief & Loss Team ‌🤗‌

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SummerOnTheWay1Author

1 step at a time!!!

👣 Remember to take 1 step at a time!!!

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jbar4650

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It has been 3 months since losing my daughter and there are more tears than ever.

SereneSeagull

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Ok, so I see we are allowed to reply to people here, it sounded like yesterday I was under the impression we could not.

Jbar, I’m so sorry for your loss. I have a family member who lost a child in an accident. There is no grief as hard as this from everything they’ve told me. They have found grief support groups in their area for those who have lost a child, be it older child, or young, that meet up. It has given her tremendous support, because everyone there has that loss of their precious child and can feel your pain Morso than anyone.

I hope you can get that as well. Big hug to you. I’m so sorry for your loss.

~~ Per Jimmy Buffett 🫧🫧 Bubbles Up!

SummerOnTheWay1Author

@sandyslaga , SO GLAD you stopped by to see us!!! 💛🤗

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sandyslaga

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I'm new to this group. My husband of 45 years died June 3, 2024, from Alzheimer's. He'd just retired in January 2021. He was diagnosed later that year. I kept him home and was his caregiver.

I am finding this second year much harder. The first year was numbing with all that needed to get done and just getting out of bed on most days. Now I find that the reality and enormity of losing him is sinking into the core of my being. I'm in therapy, which has helped largely because it's a safe space in which I can share the same stories ad nauseam. I've had the same therapist for years, and hubbie and I attended together from time to time. That she knew him is comforting, especially when she shares her memories of him.

Hubbie and I had a wonderful marriage and were homebodies these many years. I have a son who lives with me, a married daughter, and 3-year-old granddaughter in town. I also have a best friend whom I've known since college and who lives about 5 hours away. She and her husband have been here in my darkest hours during his illness and since.

I don't know who I am without my husband. Worse, I have no desire or motivation to find out. I know two things for sure: the cavalry isn't coming; and, you never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have.

M heart is with each of you here. We can do this.

Peace,

Sandy Slaga

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JamesK33

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I share a similar story. My wife of 42 years died during March 2024 and I was surprised by the difficulties faced in the second year after her passing. My wife's illness lasted four years but I never accepted that she would pass away. During grief group discussions, I learned that an unexpected or a slow death of a loved one is traumatic.

Most if not all of my friends believe enough time has passed that I should no longer be grieving the loss of my wife. They think I should just let go and move on. Easier said than done. Her death left a large hole in my life and heart. Further, I have yet to learn of a process that puts my life back together. Time has not healed all wounds.

I worry that I have a touch of depression and sometimes have not been able to be productive. Occasionally, I will go for several days without getting much accomplished. I have found that the mantra "do the next thing" and a simple to complete list of projects that "need doing" helps me become active again.

The one thing I have been able to keep up is going the YMCA for swims. I do not want a preventable health issue to be added to this grief.

I hope you find peace about the loss of your husband. I know it is hard, and I do not know of a solution for the pain. But knowing that others are suffering from a loss may help.

SummerOnTheWay1Author

@JamesK33 , SO GLAD you stopped by to see us!!! 💛🤗

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mc6844

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Nicole, thank you for all your encouragement to those on the forum. Sometimes we forget what is bothering us until we stop in here.

SummerOnTheWay1Author

[Thursday 7/30/26]

Dear MC @mc6844 , I am "thinking" about YOU!!!

How are you doing TODAY/TONIGHT?

Luv,

Nicole 🤗🤗🤗 (Grief Forum)

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