WE ARE SORRY about your loss 💛

[Monday 9/21/26]

MOVING FORWARD!!!

(1) Create Meaning and New Memories.

(2) Establish small rituals.

(3) Light a candle, write a letter, or continue a favorite tradition to keep a sense of connection.

(4) Allow joy without guilt.

(5) Understand that moments of happiness and grief can peacefully coexist.

[Monday 9/21/26 11:12am ET]

SO GOOD to hear from you dear Sheila ​@SheilaR696461 !!! Yes, those firsts WITHOUT him was hard for me. Sounds like you found the SUPPORT you need right now on your journey towards "figuring" things out. I ADMIRE how brave you are being. You are in my "thoughts" dear friend & sending GOOD NEWS vibes your way.

Luv,

Nicole 🤗🤗🤗(Grief Forum)

➡️[*** SHEILA POSTED - Hi and thank you, Nicole. I am in a support group with the hospice and another group that has been very helpful as well. I’ve tried counseling 2 times and both times were not a good experience. I understand it can take time to find the right counselor, but I’m not sure I have it in me to try over and over. Today I have my own oncology recheck appointment. It’ll be my first without my husband by my side. I have every reason to believe it’ll be good news, but I’m so sad he’s not here to go with me. I went to the Cancer Center last week for bloodwork and after I checked in and sat down the tears started. He didn’t treat at the same Cancer Center, so it wasn’t memories of him being there. Anyway, I hope today goes ok.

[Monday 9/21/26 6:09am ET]

I am SO GLAD it is finally Monday. First day of a NEW WEEK in my books. Yes, Sunday is usually considered the 1st day. Fridays thru Sundays are really HARD for me. Wishing you guys a day FULL OF PEACE dear friends.

Luv,

Nicole 🤗🤗🤗 (Grief Forum)

Well guys, it seems we have several "furbabies" in OUR GROUP who are helping their owners with their grief!!!

🐶🐶 Cecilia ​@CeciliaM384861 has two dogs - Boomer & Opal.

🐱🐱🐱 Michelle ​@MichelleC103656 has three cats - Stewie, Nova & Bristol.

🐱 Me (Nicole) has one cat - Mister.

ANY OTHER FURBABIES? IF YES, JUST REPLY TO THIS POST. TKS!

[Sunday 9/20/26 7:49pm ET]

😴 I hope WE ALL get some "sleep" when we head to bed tonight!!! 🤞 I will be watching PBS tonight & hopefully get "sleepy" by the time both programs end. If anyone needs me to listen to them or chat, I can multi-task. If not, see you guys in the morning!!!

Luv,

Nicole 🤗🤗🤗 (Grief Forum

[Sunday 9/20/26]

📜     “People you love never die… Not completely. They live in your mind, the way they always lived inside you. You keep their light alive. If you remember them well enough, they can still GUIDE you, like the shine of long-extinguished stars could guide ships in unfamiliar waters.” — MATT HAIG

[Sunday 9/20/26]

The weekends can be really rough when you have lost someone who was part of your life EVERYDAY. 😞 And it is okay to feel sad. But "try" to INTERACT with people who CARE & UNDERSTAND. They KNOW just what you need. A place to be yourself. Talk or silence. Hugs & acceptance. Go visit them. Or maybe have a coffee with them at your favorite hangout. Hang in there, Nicole 🤗💛

[Sunday 9/20/26 5:08pm ET]

Hi Cecilia ​@CeciliaM384861 , are your "furbabies" cats or dogs? Lol, I seem to remember you saying pups??? What are their names? Good for you deciding to AGE your way. At age 68, I have salt & pepper hair. Too lazy to dye. Tomorrow I am heading to Kroger for my WEEKLY grocery shopping. Lol, hate shopping (have always), but need food. I am in a VERY CUTE studio apt in the Virginia hills with a view of the mountains. But wish I had a FREEZER I could load up once-a-month. I use to go to Walmart, but with Gas Prices these days - Kroger is closer. But I go to Walmart once-a-month for NON-food stuff. Grateful there is a Gas Station at Kroger. My old wings got "clipped" THIS YEAR after doing a MONTHLY road trip to the city next to mine to get gas for over 8 YEARS. 😞 Drive was relaxing & beautiful and their Sheetz huge & clean. Oh well, maybe if we stop fighting with everyone (wars), Gas will return to normal. 🤞 Whatever normal maybe. Waiting to hear back from the Technical School I bought my 2006 Honda CRV-V from this MAY. I and the instructor for their Auto Dept ordered parts I paid for. Now waiting for them to let me know when they can install them. Lol, then HOPING for a "break" from my Car Drama (had to replace my Old Lady/other vehicle) so I can go to my "beloved" DOLLAR TREE. That is my FUN PLACE. Miss the $1 price tag, but now stick to the $1+ items ($1.25,$1.50). There is NO way I am paying $3 to $5. 😱 Sorry, that is for Walmart. 😉

Okay dear friend, let me shut up as I know you have a life off this site. But thank you SO MUCH for "chatting" today. I am ALWAYS here whenever you need me to listen or chat with.

I AM SO PROUD of you getting up & "functioning" today. 👍🎉💃🙃

Keep "stepping".

Luv,

Nicole 🤗🤗🤗 (Grief Forum)

➡️[*** CECILIA POSTED - 

I don’t have any land for today - enjoying time with my two fur babies. I also have laundry to do and want to dye my hair. I might be 72 but that doesn’t mean I have to go gray yet🥴. I hope you have a great Sunday. And great job taking care of the forgotten kitty. Shame on the neighbors but yay for you!

Cecilia

[Sunday 9/20/26]

🕯   Be GENTLE with yourself!!!

Grief is exhausting. It has a way of touching all areas of life and can affect how you take care of yourself. Carve out time for naps, eat nourishing foods, and drink plenty of water. But above all, treat yourself with compassion. Try not to judge yourself or feel guilty. Give yourself a break as you navigate the loss of your loved one.

[Sunday 9/20/26]

🔊   Think in CYCLES, not lines!!!

If you reach a point where you’re feeling good only to feel bad again, it’s not a sign that you’ve relapsed or gotten worse. It’s how grief works, and it’s actually FORWARD MOVEMENT. People will say, I was walking down the street and all of a sudden I started to cry, and yet, I had been feeling calm. Grief is a series of loops: It’s possible to circle back to where you were and still keep MOVING ONWARD. Hang in there!!! Nicole 🤗💛