WE ARE SORRY about your loss 💛

They so do, no matter how old they get, I agree. I have a friend who gives of herself for her kids, even though they are older now.  She keeps putting off her doctors’s appointments, and several of us at the gym have been encouraging her to take care (edited cuz I forgot a word here), of herself as well.  

I think our children will always be our main worry, no matter what.  So true

[Wednesday 7/29/26]

Dear @s988200m , I hope you will stop by AGAIN to see us!!!

Grief & Loss Team 🤗

Thank you, Nicole. We are just trying to get through each day. I appreciate your kind words. Luv to you and Mister.💌🐈

Hey Nicole!  It's been a while. I hope that you and Mister have been doing well. September was so wonderful. Then, October brought my husband Jim and me so much grief. My Mom had a stroke. She went into a  coma on a Saturday night and passed away the following Monday. We were trying to come to grips with her loss, when 2 weeks later Jim found that his mother had passed away. We were staying at her house. We said our goodnights. She was fine. The next morning, Jim went to check on her,and she was gone. He came and told me. I didn't understand at first. We called his sister and everyone. When an autopsy was done, they said that she had suffered a heart attack. She had just been to her doctor and been given a clean bill of health. So, things have not been so great. We are in shock. We can't believe everything that has happened. We start crying some days and can't stop. I know that we were so lucky to have them in our lives for so long, but it just hurts so much💔. My Mom was 86. Jim's mother was 92. Okay, I am going to try and get a little sleep😴. I look forward to hearing from you, Nicole. Your friend, Michelle👩‍🏫, and Hi from the furbabies.😺🐱😸

No I don't have this.  I am losing it every day.

It has been 3 months since losing my daughter and there are more tears than ever.

I'm new to this group. My husband of 45 years died June 3, 2024, from Alzheimer's.  He'd just retired in January 2021.  He was diagnosed later that year. I kept him home and was his caregiver.  

I am finding this second year much harder.  The first year was numbing with all that needed to get done and just getting out of bed on most days.  Now I find that the reality and enormity of losing him is sinking into the core of my being.  I'm in therapy, which has helped largely because it's a safe space in which I can share the same stories ad nauseam.  I've had the same therapist for years, and hubbie and I attended together from time to time.  That she knew him is comforting, especially when she shares her memories of him.

Hubbie and I had a wonderful marriage and were homebodies these many years.  I have a son who lives with me, a married daughter, and 3-year-old granddaughter in town.  I also have a best friend whom I've known since college and who lives about 5 hours away.  She and her husband have been here in my darkest hours during his illness and since.  

I don't know who I am without my husband.  Worse, I have no desire or motivation to find out.  I know two things for sure:  the cavalry isn't coming; and, you never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have.  

M heart is with each of you here.  We can do this.  

Peace,

Nicole, thank you for all your encouragement to those on the forum. Sometimes we forget what is bothering us until we stop in here. 

Laurel, I hope you had that support.  I came to the boards last night here, but wasn’t sure if I could post at first, but now see others posts on this thread the further down I go.  

The holidays are always a very hard time for me as I know others as well have that same feeling.  Keeping myself engrossed in my interests, but yesterday at Thanksgiving was hard with a family member in the hospital, and just us left to do pizza at the house.  Very hard night strugglg thinking about ALL of the family that is gone.  

The anniversary of my husband's death is next Tuesday. I am dreading that day.