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mc6844
Community Champion ⭐⭐
January 9, 2024

The Final Goodbye

  • January 9, 2024
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I think The Final Goodbye is the hardest, and most challenging part of an impending passing. I realized I was stuffing this inside of me. That I wasn't there at the exact time of death. A half hour late. I was wondering how others are dealing with their Final Goodbyes. 

 

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      SummerOnTheWay1
      SummerOnTheWay1
      January 10, 2024

      Hi MC @mc6844 , I have had "several" Final Goodbyes and I guess I have grown to ACCEPT what happened.

       

      Have you tried counseling or a support group?

       

      Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

        mc6844
        mc6844Author
        Community Champion ⭐⭐
        January 11, 2024

        Thank you, Nicole. I was really referring to if people were with the loved one when they passed? The ones that meant the most to me passed a day after I visited, or just before I got there. I was wondering how it all affects the grieving process. Also, so many people are choosing cremation due to costs of funerals. When there isn't final viewing how does that affect acceptance and grieving. 

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          layla52
          Contributor ⭐
          February 29, 2024

          Hello.  I will try to give a short version.  My husband was admitted to the hospital 9/7/23 for a procedure that would keep him overnight.  After the procedure he developed complications.  He was an inpatient for 11 days.  He then had to begin dialysis.  He was home for about 2 weeks and admitted again due to an infection of unknown origin.  This hospitalization was for 22 days.  Home again for a little more than 2 weeks and back to the hospital with extreme shortness of breath.  Doctors said he needed a heart procedure to replace the aortic valve.  After that was done, he went into complete heart block and suffered a stroke. After 1 month in the hospital, he was transferred to a rehab facility.  He was there from 12/8 and discharged 12/28.  He was very weak and in terrible pain.  He wanted to come home.  I took him home 12/28 with hospice.  He passed away January 1st.  I was with him and holding his hand when he passed.  I slept at the hospital the whole time, beginning 9/7 until he came home.  I am not doing very well with my grief.  I cry all the time.  I miss him terribly and find myself unable to concentrate on much else.

          I attended 1 grief group session and found it very difficult.  

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