Please help me ...

Please know she's your guardian angel now, always near, so please be aware of the signs she'll show you - keep the faith you'll one day hold her again and cherish every memory. Hugs to you Larry.

You were there for her when she needed you.  Life is not in our control...don’t worry...you did your part and that’s all that we can do.  I believe she will guide you.  Peace!

You are not lost.  You were with her for 16 years and now you can move forward with your life.  God Bless You for devoting 16 years as a caregiver.  Your wife was a lucky gal.  She would want you to move on and live a life of happiness.  

[Sunday 10/11/26 1:07pm ET]

Thank you SO MUCH ​@MkK700720 for stopping by to "support" our Larry ​@LarryW513754 !!!

Luv,

Nicole 🤗🤗🤗 (Grief Forum)

➡️[*** MK POSTED - I'm sorry for the loss of your dear wife. I would say she understands, from where she is. These situations usually don't go the way we'd like. It's a very stressful time, and we are not practiced in these things. There are good kind people here who have been through the same. It's good you are sharing the pain, and in that way it lessens in time. Take care!

I'm sorry for the loss of your dear wife. I would say she understands, from where she is. These situations usually don't go the way we'd like. It's a very stressful time, and we are not practiced in these things. There are good kind people here who have been through the same. It's good you are sharing the pain, and in that way it lessens in time. Take care!

[Tuesday 9/29/26 1:51pm ET]

Dear Eleanor ​@EleanorG447240 , thank you SO MUCH for stopping by to "support" our Larry ​@LarryW513754 !!!

Luv,

Nicole 🤗🤗🤗 (Grief Forum)

➡️[*** ELEANOR POSTED - I am so sorry for your loss, Larry. I pray you find some comfort through AARP Caregivers Grief Support and consider local grief support groups in your area. I also hope you find something in what Agoyer posted earlier. The grief I experienced taking care of my sister was nothing like the grief of other family members who have passed. The grief is not gone, but time has eased the pain of losing her. Take care of yourself and let others help you.

I am so sorry for your loss, Larry. I pray you find some comfort through AARP Caregivers Grief Support and consider local grief support groups in your area. I also hope you find something in what Agoyer posted earlier. The grief I experienced taking care of my sister was nothing like the grief of other family members who have passed. The grief is not gone, but time has eased the pain of losing her. Take care of yourself and let others help you.

[Monday 9/21/26 5:39pm ET]

ALWAYS so good having you stop by AARP Expert Amy ​@agoyer !!! WE APPRECIATE your "support" over the years.

Luv,

Nicole 🤗🤗🤗 (Grief Forum)

​@LarryW513754 I’m so sorry to hear of your terrible loss. I feel your heartbreak coming through your post. I know that grief after caregiving is especially intense when you’ve been so focused on caring for your wife - your whole life was wrapped around caring for her. My heart goes out to you. 

I urge you to consider that last thing you said to her not as a lie, but as comfort - you offered her comfort, and you held to your routine which was what she needed to hear. And truly, you were there for her. You stayed with her as long as you possible could, I’m sure, after she passed on. You held to your commitment, and I think she felt you there with her - that’s what really matters. Not the words. It’s the intention of loving her always. 

I know from my personal experience of losing family members after 11 years of caring for them, it takes awhile to wrap our minds around this type of deep loss. It’s very challenging to adjust and adapt to life being so different and feeling so empty. It can and will get easier - I promise - and I urge you to get some grief counseling and support if you haven’t already. It’s never too late to get grief support. The grief stays with us, but we learn to live with it and feel joy again. 

This article might be very helpful to you: Finding the Right Grief Support Group for Healing 

I also want to share this article: When Grief Lingers and Robs Life of Meaning, It’s Time to Get Help 

And I want to also share my column I wrote about life after caregiving and dealing with my grief - I hope it helps you to know that I empathize and that many people, me included, truly empathize with what you are feeling. My column shares how I worked to find purpose and meaning after caregiving for my Mom, Dad and sister.  Life After Caregiving: The Unexpected Beginning

I understand feeling lost. I felt “untethered” - free floating in space. It can get better.

And I also understand going over every moment and questioning what you did, said and the decisions you made. It’s ok. There are no perfect caregivers. Not a single one. We all lose our patience, we all get tired and overwhelmed. We have our own health and financial challenges to worry about. It’s a lot. Try to focus on your overall intentions - that’s what matters in the end. You loved your wife, you didn’t abandon her, and you did your best. That’s all any of us can do. Our best. 

Take care, 

Amy Goyer, AARP Natl. Family & Caregiving Expert 

[Tuesday 9/15/26]

Dear Larry ​@LarryW513754 , I am "thinking" about YOU!!!

How are you doing TODAY/TONIGHT?

Luv,

Nicole 🤗🤗🤗 (Grief Forum)