Not my first time grieving

📎  Hi Diane @DianeB887812 , SO GLAD you stopped by to see us dear friend. What type of support are you seeking? Some of us chat here each day. Some seek out counseling. While others stay super busy so as not to think. I am ALWAYS here for you. Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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[*** DIANE wrote: I was hoping that having been though this before, I would have an easier time of it this time, but apparently this looks just like the last time. I'm walking around in a fog. 

 

So I just have to be kind to myself. Take plenty of walks (sunshine helps). Eat healthy (I lost 20 lbs while caretaking) Sleep if I can when I can.

 

And find support... here I am. ***]

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📎  1 step at a time  🤗🤗🤗

OK TEAM!

That was alot for me to just skim for now.. Information overload happens easily right now... BUT I will revisit this post to find interesting things to try. Thank you ALL for all this information..

Sorry to hear you’re dealing with this again. I’ve been through a similar experience, and it’s tough each time. I found that taking walks and soaking up some sunshine helped me a lot. Also, don’t hesitate to reach out for support—sometimes just talking to someone can make a big difference. Take care of yourself and be patient with the process. 

📎  SWEET dreams Diane @DianeB887812  🤗🤗🤗

I did catch a nap but just now had wake up to go empty the bladder. Maybe the 3am wake-up call will not happen tomorrow. You have a restful night. Hugs. 

📎  Good Morning dear Diane @DianeB887812 , ENJOY your walk this morning!!!  🤗🤗🤗

📎  1 step at a time  🤗🤗🤗

📎  AN UPDATE: IT IS A CHIPMUNK AND WE BOTH SCARED EACH OTHER WHEN I WENT IN TO EMPTY CONTAINER. EVEN WORE MY SNAKE SHOES (OUTSIDE SHOES) INSTEAD OF SANDALS I WEAR INSIDE. IN CASE HE RAN OVER MY TOES. GOSH, NOW TO HOPE HE/SHE USES THE ESCAPE PATH I HAVE SET UP.

Lol, let me post this NOW as one NEVER knows these days when one will FALL ASLEEP and as you know I am famous for nodding off.

Girl, I am now RECOVERED but earlier, guess what my little angel brought through my door.

Now I have seen this on TV and Ms. Geraldine (the lady that seems to have moved, reason I now feed him) had said that he better NOT do this.

He came in with a baby squirrel in his mouth which ESCAPED and ran into my utility room.  😱😱😱

Poor baby!!!  😭😭😭

I TRIED to kind of look around for it with my flashlight and even used a stool to reach the light bulb to turn on. Yes, the switch does NOT work.

I am hoping he/she gets back outside. Trying NOT to shut door until as long as possible. Front door is beside utility room.

Here I was watching the French version of Agatha Christie small murders on my android, feet up.

I YELLED at him. Was so upset.

Anyway, I guess that was his GIFT to me.

Speaking of KIND folks.

One of my neighbors just stopped by and asked IF we could exchange phone numbers. She is like a daughter to me. AJ, her 6 year old son, my grandson.

Okay, I think I have worn out your ears enough.  🙄🙄🙄

Hope you had a PEACEFUL day after the dog park and get some rest tonight.

I actually slept last night and GRATEFUL.

Still missing my daughter in Florida but TRUSTING life will work things out so we can BOTH be settled somewhere and near each other.

Life TOOK AWAY yesterday.

Life REPLACED today.

Luv you,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

@DianeB887812 

Just got back from a walk. Was thinking of you @SummerOnTheWay1 and your friend that gives you such lovely gifts. He wants to make sure you do not starve!

On another note, I just remembered something my old grief friends used to say. “Grief, you can’t just get over it, or around it or underneath it, you have to go through it. “

When I start to get frustrated with the effects of grief, I repeat this to my self, let out a sigh, and know it will eventually get better as I accept this new life. 

As I was talking with my friends at the dog park , I was reminded that along with the pain of loss, comes some freedoms that you lose when making compromises to live peacefully with your spouse. I now have complete control of the remote for the TV. 😮