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ElaineM928269
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August 11, 2025

Loss of husband

  • August 11, 2025
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After being married 49 years and 9 months, my husband passed away.  He went in for pre-op testing because he was having a second knee replacement done.  They found two blocked arteries - one was 95% and the other 80% plus he had an aneurysm by his heart.  He needed open heart surgery.  The doctor was very confident and didn't foresee any complications.  Unfortunately, people are not always right.  My husband was bleeding and he wouldn't clot.  I still don't really know what that means except that he is no longer with me.

I feel so alone even though I have a daughter.  She has her own family to worry about.  I have a brother in law and sister in law who try helping me whenever they can.  My friends are there to listen, but have their own lives.

I just cry and cry.  I know he wouldn't want me to be doing this, but I'm just so sad.  I miss him.

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    SummerOnTheWay1
    SummerOnTheWay1
    August 12, 2025

    Elaine @ElaineM928269 , I am SO SORRY for your loss dear friend & glad you stopped by.

     

    Counseling has "helped" some of us while others have found "volunteering" keeps them busy & around people.

     

    I am SO GLAD you have "support" from folks that CARE.

     

    WE will ALWAYS "miss" them & taking EACH MOMENT as it comes has helped me with my journey.

     

    I hope you will stop by AGAIN to see us & I luv to "chat" = feel free to bend my ears when YOU need to.

     

    Luv,

    Nicole  🤗🤗🤗  (Grief Forum)

     

    ➡️[*** ELAINE @ElaineM928269 wrote:

    After being married 49 years and 9 months, my husband passed away.  He went in for pre-op testing because he was having a second knee replacement done.  They found two blocked arteries - one was 95% and the other 80% plus he had an aneurysm by his heart.  He needed open heart surgery.  The doctor was very confident and didn't foresee any complications.  Unfortunately, people are not always right.  My husband was bleeding and he wouldn't clot.  I still don't really know what that means except that he is no longer with me.

    I feel so alone even though I have a daughter.  She has her own family to worry about.  I have a brother in law and sister in law who try helping me whenever they can.  My friends are there to listen, but have their own lives.

    I just cry and cry.  I know he wouldn't want me to be doing this, but I'm just so sad.  I miss him.

     

    SummerOnTheWay1
    SummerOnTheWay1
    August 12, 2025

    😴  It is about 8:45pm ET for me in Virginia Elaine @ElaineM928269 . I hope you get some sleep TONIGHT & was able to stay "hydrated" with some food. My sleep and eating has their moments.  🙄

     

    I will check on you in the morning.

     

    Luv,

    Nicole  🤗🤗🤗  (Grief Forum)

    SummerOnTheWay1
    SummerOnTheWay1
    August 12, 2025

    👋  Good morning dear Elaine @ElaineM928269 !!!

     

    We do have two "kind & caring" AARP Experts Jane @JaneCares and Amy @agoyer who are available IF you have any questions.

     

    You didnot mention when you experienced your loss dear friend. IF it is "recent" THEY will know the "best" way to handle stuff (burial, estate, sorrow, depression, anger, family drama, finances and so on).

     

    Any plans for TODAY?

     

    Me, I have a 8:30am ET appt at CVS to get my Senior's Flu Shot, I am 67. HATE needles, but trying to stay "well" for my only child and cat.

     

    Anyway dear friend, I am here ALWAYS for you.

     

    Luv,

    Nicole  🤗🤗🤗  (Grief Forum)

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