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CarolynS674392
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June 7, 2023

Doesn't anyone want to talk to me?

  • June 7, 2023
  • 26 replies
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No messages to me.  I know I don't come here regularly, but I'd appreciate a hello from someone.

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    SueS788527
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    June 16, 2023

    Carolyn, I'm sorry I missed your post.  Like the others responding, I now either respond to someone if I feel I can add value or share some positive personal observations.  We are all vulnerable and fragile as we grieve our loved ones.  I find that I am also more sensitive about actions or nonactions more than I was before my husband died.  Maybe that is part of developing the new you.  I sincerely believe with grief one can become a better more compassionate person.  When I feel blue, I find that reaching out to someone else who is also experiencing pain or uncertainty helps me as well.  More than likely your loss of your loved one has created a void.  In my case companionship and intimacy in all its meaning.  I also know that even with relatives and friends that void cannot be totally filled.  Perhaps we have to redefine what we need now in our new life.  We cannot replicate the past but what can we do for the future?  Perhaps staying open to new possibilities will enable us to visualize a new completeness.  I hope so for all our sake.  Know that we are all on this journey together.  Sue

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      CarolynS674392Author
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      June 17, 2023

      Thank you to all who replied.  I am getting started on my new volunteer job.  I guess I haven't been here too much lately.  I was also going to bed earlier.  Still taking care of my wonderful little dog Augie.  Nice to be here.

        mc6844
        mc6844
        Community Champion ⭐⭐
        June 17, 2023

        Carolyn, you're fortunate to have your little dog. We had wonderful family dogs. One was a sheep dog and would "herd" up the kids at bedtime every night! Very effective! And so funny to watch. lol. I don't presently have a dog. They require a lot of care and I'm a lot older now. I visit dogs of family/friends. And I love to hear anecdotes of people's dogs. It's always heartwarming. Carolyn, you and little Augie take care and have a nice day! 

          BillH490171
          BillH490171
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          June 22, 2023

          Hi Carolyn, I'm new to the group and the forum. But, I'll always give you a shout back.  I too am grieving the loss of my spouse (4 weeks) and have our small older dog to be with me.  Pets seem to be a good part of our lives and at this time, can provide comfort and also gives up a purpose to take care of them at this chaotic time..

          Bill

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            LeeS4949
            Community Champion ⭐
            June 22, 2023

            Welcome to the group Bill ,so sorry for your loss.

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              LeeS4949
              Community Champion ⭐
              July 8, 2023

              Hi Carolyn,just a quick hello and hope your volunteer job is going well..

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                JimF909689
                Contributor ⭐
                July 14, 2023

                Hi, I hope you're well. 

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                  SueS788527
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                  July 14, 2023

                  Hi, Carolyn, thinking of you and hope you are feeling less alone.  Volunteering helps and also taking time to do those things you enjoy.  This is a journey and it will take time for you to find purpose and a new identity.  Good luck.  Sue

                    mc6844
                    mc6844
                    Community Champion ⭐⭐
                    July 17, 2023

                    Carolyn, I agree with Sue. Time takes time. I'm glad you're on the site. I think about all of you on the site often. I feel better when I drop in and see how you're doing. I know its not an easy road. But the people here understand where you're at. I think that helps a lot. Staying in the day. A moment at a time when necessary. Then before you know it you feel better. And just keep going. Take care.

                     

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                      RalphS482406
                      Contributor ⭐
                      August 5, 2023

                      Hi Carolyn, AARP member Ralph saying hello. R u going out today?

                      mc6844
                      mc6844
                      Community Champion ⭐⭐
                      October 15, 2023

                      Hi Carolyn, how are you doing? Please take care!

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                        Janiceww6254
                        Contributor ⭐
                        June 30, 2024

                        Hi Carolyn,

                        Just wishing you a good evening and hope you sleep well.

                        Janice

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                          CathyB681929
                          Contributor ⭐
                          March 28, 2026

                           Hello,

                          I am a 72 year old woman who l just moved to San Diego one month ago. I lost my husband from CVOD in 2020. My medicine is "people" and purpose. I am looking  to connect and find true solid people. Women needing, or reaching out to women might be a good name for a groupd if I was to start one! smiling....

                          Sometimes you just need to talk...right?

                          If anyone has any interest please feel free to contact me. I'd love to her from you 😊

                          Pleasecallmekate@gmail.com

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