🕯 A Place To Be With OTHERS Who Are Grieving! WE support each other.

2 comments (Wednesday 12/20/23 9:44pm ET)

Thank you SO MUCH Marcy @MarcyW882921 for YOUR response to Shannon @ShannonW14183   💙💙💙

I've been struggling with sleep issues the last several days. Little to no sunshine effects me. Doesnt happen often. Grateful for that. Also missing best friend of 50 yrs. It's been almost a year. Sometimes it doesn't seem real that certain people are gone. But it's like he always said, that's the way it goes. And every day is different moving into the future. Every day we move forward.

I always thought self care was doing something, like going to the hairdresser or a fitness class. For older folks I think it's taking a break from all those things. That it's OK to sit still for most of the day and let the day take care of itself. Especially if one's energy is waning. I've seen Fruit n Veggies pill on TV. Attempting to swallow those would be dangerous. If they're in gummy form I guess that could be self-care lol. Who needs another problem at our ages? 

Hi Ms. Nicole I just found this forum....1st I'd like to say thank you for having this for some of us have no one to talk to about our grief/loss  & challenges associated with it !! I'm struggling so very much right now for My mom passed Dec 08th & my birthday was the 6th! We knew she was sick but it was only a matter of week's from being told she's very sick to get family here ASAP if they want to say goodbye! MOM was in Texas & I Maryland I was also having my own medical problem when called & told to get there asap..this is 1 of my hardest challenges/struggles I was unable to get to my mom in Texas to hold her hand & tell her "your baby is here" (for I am -of 7!), to say how grateful I was to of been blessed by her being MY MOMMY!, & to have told her I LOVED HER for the last time..EVER!! The guilt is trying to consume me! I just want her to know how much I love her-ALWAYS, & I hope she can forgive me for not being able to be by her side for her final day's..I was able to talk to her on phone & tell her these things but she was to sick to reply though I think I heard her make a moanish noise in reply?! I'm very grateful other member's of the family was able to go! My other struggle is ..I don't mean to sound like a "bad person"..but I feel I lost my MOM & MY BIRTHDAY! It is no longer my special day all I can think of is it's 2 day's before losing the greatest woman in my life ! I had no idea that I'd also be mourning the loss of "my 1 day a year" that makes me "special" so to speak! I'm blown away by this bothering me I truly didn't even consider it or think it would!! Has anyone out there reading this dealing with this particular situation? How do you "handle" your birthday now? Or em I being over dramatic or over sedative due to loss of mom?! Any helpful advice on either struggle would be BEYOND APPRECIATED! Thank you again for this forum and for LISTENING! I'm truly humbled..

👣  1 Step At A Time!

May she rest in peace.

This forum has been helpful because the main topic is grief and how to get through it. A focused topic and main stream of thought. It helps one to pause and think. Whereas for instance in a personal discussion, a relative or friend will suggest things which can overwhelm and cause confusion and anxiety. Day at a time, sticking to a routine as much as possible is the best way to get through it, I believe.

Nicole @SummerOnTheWay1 ,

I just wanted to stop by and say hi. It's been a busy week with chorus performances and now this crazy weather has my head ready to explode. My fingers are crossed that things will calm down sometime tomorrow afternoon so I can get some relief.😩

Marcy

Just wanted to warn everyone.  I got a call about replacing my husband's Diabetes blood monitor with one that TALKS!! and it is free.  They will simply charge Medicare.  I did not tell the man that my husband was dead but since he was representing "our" insurance company I thought he should know that.  He kept trying to get information from me and I said I was on my way out and hung up the phone.  Now I am getting calls from "them" several times a day.  I have blocked them.  I researched this and found that they are trying to get your Medicare number so that they can send you the monitor and supplies and bill Medicare.  BE AWARE   DO NOT GIVE ANY INFORMATION ABOUT YOUR MEDICARE TO ANYONE THAT CALLS YOU ON THE PHONE OR CONTACTS YOU ON YOUR COMPUTER.  Since my husband died I have been constantly harassed by these scammers.

Nicole @SummerOnTheWay1 . Guilt is an issue that I am familiar with. For me, I think it is my way of trying to gain control of something. Apologizing is one way to deal with it whether the person is alive or dead and following up with a request for forgiveness. The tough part is getting to the point where you can forgive yourself.

Marcy