🕯 A Place To Be With OTHERS Who Are Grieving! WE support each other.

Wow Susan @SusanR479241 you have a lot of dates to deal with in close proximity! Sometimes we feel worse on the days before a milestone event because we get caught up in the anticipation. Thinking about potential triggers and making plans is a healthy approach. If you want to face your feelings, you could: spend time where you feel close to Jim, talk to Jim, write a letter to him, spend time with people who knew you and Jim, and/or do things that brings back memories of your times with Jim. If you want a distraction from thoughts about your loss you could: take a little trip, go to a movie, plan an outing with friends, do something that you wouldn't have done with Jim but you find it enjoyable, eat foods that you like and Jim wouldn't eat,  and/or change something in your house that you have been wanting to do. I'm throwing out a range of things as potential ideas or ones that will spark some other options. This journey is so individual so do what feels good to you. 

Wishing you all the best Susan.

Marcy

Again, a total bust. Not a single soul showed up.  I guess I'm just going to have to donate that whole house full of stuff.  ☹️  Got a few more thing we discovered we needed.  Discovered today, back home, that we need to get the medical equipment we left there.  What's out here that his parents had is old and worn out.  I put it out on the curb and posted a curb alert in my FB groups around here.  My stuff was purchased new, shortly before my mother passed away in 2019, 36 hours after I brought her home.

Hi Susan @SusanR479241 and I'm sorry for your loss. Welcome to the group...we are glad you found us. I know it isn't a club or group you wanted to join and we feel the same way. I too was relieved to find a place where I could express my feelings at any time of the day or night. Writing on this forum and in a journal were both beneficial in my journey.

Sixty years is a long time to be married to someone! Situational depression is very common however it becomes a concern if it ends up being chronic. If you feel like you need help identifying your type of depression, contact a professional for an assessment.

It has been said that at the moment your loved one dies, your life is totally changed and you are no longer the person you were when that person was in your life. It doesn't mean however that your love for them or your memories with them are gone. They will remain with you and hopefully become a source of comfort rather than a trigger for grief and sadness. Initially I felt like I had a giant hole in my chest where my heart and love used to be. My soul was lost and my waves of sadness were unpredictable.

I'm curious as to where you may have looked for support during your struggle. People share ideas here for places to go, available resources, and things we have tried. Even though groups are not in my comfort zone, I had a positive experience joining a bereavement group. I think my participation was instrumental in validating my feelings and sanity while building a sense of support and community.

Wishing you some relief from the volatile internal weather you are experiencing.

Marcy

Bad neighbors can be rough, I hope you get better ones soon. MRI all done, made sure they send the results to my doctor as well.  Garage sale will be attempted again today, hoping for better luck today.  

Actualy I have three they seem to grow unexpectedly ...Trying to down size these appts and get on with living ...Happy Saturday...

3 hours from now.

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Marcy

Today is a new beginning to get things done..Yesterdays appt with lawyer was a mixed bag first more legal fees and signings ..Needed hubby' death certificate wrong one given to son (copy) needed original one that's done..Then upon viewing documents at home discovered daughters married name mispelled ( so that nulls the documents now it has to be done all over again) what a waste of time..We all missed this in the signings the lawyer/my son/and I. So now another appt. has got to be made just can;t drop by and sign the documents..jeez..I need space to do this so on the back burner for a week because I 've go other fish to fry (appts)...I need motivation to get things going again perhaps if the mood strikes I will do some knitting or start to paint to put my mind at ease...Other wise all is fine..I had a dream with my Mom in it and it put me in a good mood when I woke up so start this day...

So Nicole @SummerOnTheWay1 ... to relieve your nosey part, I fared just fine in Florida with the hurricane. I am on the southeast coast. Surprisingly as far away as we were from the storm, we did get some wind gusts and rain squalls. There was a moderate amount of vegetation debris on the roads when I went out the next morning.

Marcy

Yes I believe so Nicole @SummerOnTheWay1 . Plain Greek yogurt with homemade granola for breakfast, a protein shake for lunch made with selected natural ingredients, and chicken stir fry with plenty of vegetables is on the menu for dinner.

Marcy