🕯 A Place To Be With OTHERS Who Are Grieving! WE support each other.

📎 Dear Julie @JulieT507376 !!!

You have been with us 10 months and I have watched you blossom with determination to keep busy.

Hats off to you my dear friend as you ARRIVE at your DESTINATION (tomorrow).

A day WE all have DREADED (our 1st anniversary).

Some leave after this arrival, STRONGER and knowing IF needed, they are ALWAYS WELCOME BACK.

While I HOPE you continue to be a part of our group, I will understand that it is time to say goodbye.

Goodness, Sadie 🐕 has ADDED SO MUCH to my life and Mister's 🐈.

How is your sweet girl doing? Still limping?

And how are you doing Ms. Busier than I am?

Cookies all ready for tomorrow?

Luv,

Nicole 🤗🤗🤗 (Grief Forum)

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JulieT507376

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Cookies are done and the neighbor ladies are excited to come and bring their special cookies. They all know what the day is and yet are willing to support me by letting me celebrate Mark. It was hard deciding what cookie to make Mark. He was so easy to bake for! He loved everything I made for him.❤️ I’m taking day by day now. I need to start thinking about his clothes. Maybe in the spring. For now I continue to get comfort knowing they are where they belong. It is

definitely a process. One that is felt with every breath I take.
BTW…The eagle is still at my house sitting in trees or on the poles. It gives me great peace.

Thank you everyone for your support! It’s has been calming and healing at times when I’ve really needed it.

MarcyW882921

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Julie @JulieT507376 ,

Your cookies look great! It's terrific that you made a decision to celebrate Mark and are following it through. You know best what is in your heart and you have the eagle nearby to give you peace.

Marcy

📎 I tell you, WE need to open up a Hospital & Mechanic Shop./lol 🤣😂

Guess where my old lady is? Yes, went out to head to Walmart this morning - check engine light on. 🙄

Jonibee @jonibee & Cadee @Cadee2719 , time to feel BETTER my friends.

*** They say what does not kill us makes us stronger. So I guess WE are getting STRONGER. 👍👍👍

😴 Everyone, try to get some sleep tonight at your bedtime. 🤗🤗🤗

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Why do these things always happen when money is tight especially around the holiday time..I don't drive anymore but can feel your pain in having to cough up the $$ should something be amiss..I just had to order Oil so that puts a bite on the buck....Another day another dollar...

📎 [2/8/25] Yes Jonibee @jonibee , I finally made it through January with NO CAR ISSUES. Lol, geez - told my mechanic something had to change. Hope you are hanging in there.

Luv,

Nicole 🤗🤗🤗 (Grief Forum)

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Two things camd to mind something that I ate (with all the warnings of things that tainted food brings on and posture I find that sometimes I slouch especially at the computer as the desk chair seat is uncomfortable the seet goes too far back for my short statue...So I am trying to stay in tune with my body what goes into it and what affects it like a poor mattress , sleeping positions etc..We know more about our auto's than our own bodies/

MarcyW882921

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Jonibee @jonibee ,

Ha I can identify with the short stature and desk chair seats being too deep. I have a back pillow from Relax the Back that I use in my desk chair. It was a bit pricey as things are from that store, but I have gotten a lot of use from it for several years. Being in tune with our bodies and caring for them the best way we know how is a good thing.

Marcy

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Thank You for the tip...I believe that because of the way I sit in this chair I may slouch forward and it causes stress on the back ..so I will look into it...I did order a back pillow rest but it's too short so the hunt is on...

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Just a 3 mos. follow up with primary and blood sugar check..Still waiting for appt. for abdomen scan and it's up in the air as far as gastreologist as the pain has gone away so it could have been something else..It's a wait and see attitude..I am trying to cut medical appts out of my life as at this stage of life its a hassle and invasion of body that I don't care to go through anymore..I just want to enjoy the holidays without appts...

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Cadee2719

Community Champion ⭐

I agree with you. I have worked hard to get all these appointments but I have two more to go!

Results to discuss with the rheumatologist and first visit to the family doctor for my diabetes, mammogram, acid reflux. From the paperwork she sent me I guess she has a lot of other tests lined up for me. I will complete them all and hopefully be able to settle in and not have further visits for awhile. It is good for me to get an update on my medical conditions since I have not seen a doctor since March. I can't complain, just turned 81 and I'm still kicking.

📎 Cadee @Cadee2719 , did you look into a generator or do you or your Son have a FIREPLACE? 🤗🤗🤗

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Cadee2719

Community Champion ⭐

Hi Yes I got a generator and my son and I both have fireplaces. No snow yet! Fog today. Made peanut brittle yesterday for you. My rheumatologist called and moved my appointment up to January to discuss the results of the ultrasound. My brother is coming to spend time with me at Christmas, his wife is staying home with the dogs. I am excited as it will be the first Christmas together in about 30 years! My son will pick him up and bring him to my home. After the holidays are over my brother has to go to Utah to have the iris in his eye replaced. I spent the morning arranging to have flowers delivered to my husband and son's grave on a regular basis. It was sad in a way, but I am the only one that sends flowers to their graves each year. Well I better start my English Toffee bars so I can ship them off to you. My tree is up, my house is decorated (first time since the deaths of my son and husband) so I am getting ready for Christmas. ❤️

MarcyW882921

Community Champion ⭐⭐

Cadee @Cadee2719 ,

This all sounds encouraging. You are making traditional holiday treats, decorating, and have plans to be with family at Christmas. I'm very happy for you!

Marcy

📎 Guys please keep our Julie @JulieT507376 in YOUR THOUGHTS!!!

She has been SO STRONG with her 1st anniversary of losing Mark drawing NEAR (December 4th). 😭😭😭

NOW she is dealing with WORRY over dear sweet Sadie who hurt her paw while spending Thanksgiving with family.

Julie could NOT get any Medical Care for her YESTERDAY, but hoping TODAY before heading back home.

To some, Sadie is just a dog.

To Julie, this sweet girl was Mark's and STILL IS!!! 🤗🤗🤗

MkK700720

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Hope Julie's Sadie is feeling better.

📎 Group Discussion: Those DREAMS!!! Do you try to UNDERSTAND them? I know in the past Marcy @MarcyW882921 had mentioned her husband interpreting them. Anyone have a comment?

📎 Lol, for awhile it was like EVERY NIGHT I had one and WOKE UP SAD.

Then life gave me a BREAK of a few days. 🙄🙄🙄

So, LAST NIGHT (yes, had one) and although I got up SAD decided I would TRY TO UNDERSTAND WHY it happened.

[1] Could a luv one is trying to communicate?

[2] Or life is TRYING to comfort and/or warn me.

*** Number 2 - comfort. While I was SAD an old and dear friend from High School back in Jamaica West, Indies (later ran into in Miami, Florida when I was married) was in it - what he did in the dream REMINDED ME someone did/does CARE. ***

Of late here in Virginia, it has been a CONSTANT AVOIDING DRAMA and it takes a beating on your SOUL.

So LIFE, I have NO idea IF Breeder (his pet name from school, lol) is STILL ALIVE but please THANK HIM wherever he is. 🤗🤗🤗

MkK700720

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I'm sorry you're going through that Nicole. Seems people are under so much stress these days. Watching movies on TV is a good stress reliever. Lots of good series on Roku.

📎 Group Discussion: Anyone else HEALTHY eating? Remember, this will HELP with feeling LESS SAD & keep the DOCTOR bills LOW!!!

📎 This Tuesday at Walmart I bought FRESH produce for the 1st time in YEARS!!! And about had my 1st heart attack. The prices. 😱😱😱

But I NEED a NORMAL Medicare Lab for NEXT year 2025. This year's 2024 said I am PRE-DIABETIC. 🙁

RIGHT NOW, I am chopping up broccoli and green pepper to make a KIDNEY BEAN SOUP. Delicious!!! 👍👍👍

MkK700720

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That is great Nicole. Ready made salads and soups are easy, varied and healthy.

Community Champion ⭐⭐

Dealing with neighbors who are a hazard to ones serenity and health is toxic..So you do the best to circumvent the situation like you're doing..Ignore them like they not there..I have a neighbor who is obnoxious and crude..I deal with him like he's invisible..But if he crosses the line the law will deal with him..Everybody deserves their own space but have to be considerate of others which is not always the case..In order to save our sanity we have to act accordingly within the legal bounds...So ilive the best way that you can and ignore them ...