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JamesY521601
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January 23, 2025

TV show over and over

  • January 23, 2025
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I am a caregiver (m, 49) for my dad (82), who has rectal cancer. He watches the same show over and over again at night and it drives me crazy, and it makes me angry when he talk about it and looks forward to it. 

 

Is this a just reaction? Has anyone been through this? 

 

I feel trapped and maybe watching this over and over makes me feel it more, idk.  We've seen these episodes dozens of times, he doesn't even really follow them but he likes them. 

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      nctarheel
      nctarheel
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      January 23, 2025
      @JamesY521601 wrote:

      I am a caregiver (m, 49) for my dad (82), who has rectal cancer. He watches the same show over and over again at night and it drives me crazy, and it makes me angry when he talk about it and looks forward to it. 

      @JamesY521601,

       

      This is not a time to think about yourself.

       

      Think of the joy he receives from seeing these shows over and over. For some reason, it is a positive in an otherwise negative situation in which he finds himself. Heck, I watch SEINFELD episodes over and over because I find them funny no matter HOW MANY TIMES I watch them.

       

      Your father is obviously in the twilight of his life's journey, so make that journey comfortable not stressful....for either you or him.

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        JamesY521601Author
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        January 23, 2025

        I am not thinking of myself.  I cook all his meals, wash him,  take him to the doctor, manage his medications, take care of his livestock. I hand shoveled his 100 foot driveway and hurt my already disabled back.

         

        I don't like being upset, I was trying to find someone who understood or could offer me some insight besides "you're being selfish". Thanks for increasing my guilt

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        DanielleG877308
        Contributor ⭐
        January 24, 2025

        @JamesY521601 @you are not being selfish at all. Ignore the previous commenter as they clearly don’t understand that this is a support group. 

        I can relate to your frustration, and I think sometimes it’s the small things like tv reruns that can frustrate us the most. After all, as caregivers we take care of the big things because that’s what we expect to do (like managing medical appointments). I think the small things frustrate us because it’s not what we expected as caregivers, and it means we have to put up with frustrating behaviors when we’re already sacrificing a lot. For instance, I get really upset with my elderly Dad because he takes my things without asking. That’s not something I expected when I took on the responsibility of caring for him. To some degree he can’t help it because of his condition, but that doesn’t make it any less frustrating for me when my things disappear.

         

        Please hang in there and remember how much good you are doing by taking care of your dad. It’s only human to get frustrated by these things, and you are definitely not alone. 

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          AmeliaR345812
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          January 24, 2025

          My brother does this also.  He now has a TV in his room, that he needs help with the remote to get to his show.  He watches "House" over and over, from episode 1 all the way to the end and then goes back to the beginning.  At night, he comes and sits with us and watches what we are watching.  He is OK with that.

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