Safety - I live alone with no reliable support system
I'm 59 and live alone after caring for my wife in her dementia for 11 or so years. I have no in person friends, the rest being a few people online I'm friendly with but not close with. Although my mother lives in town, she is not the kind to provide the support I need. Neither is my brother, who lives across the state.
Having several mental and physical health issues that are concerning, and living in the depth of emotional distress I experience, I want to build a safety net in case something happens to me and I either die or become incapacitated in my home. As it is, I could lie dead or unable to summon help for many days before anyone noticed I hadn't texted in a while. It's a depressing thought.
I also have animal companions that would need to be provided for if that happened!
I need a plan and some kind of help implementing the plan. I need to know that someone will notice if I haven't checked in and that something will happen because they noticed. That, and creating a care plan for the animals, is what I primarily need.
I have so much I can't do because of my confusion and anxiety and grief and stress and all the rest that I'm in the long slow process of healing. My lack of ability to do basic things is terrible. In my confusion and anxiety, my ability to do my own research to figure out which service I see on a Google search might help me, which features I need, what others think of the service, etc. is next to zero. This is a couple years long process for me, because I can only do little bits here and there. This post is months in the making because of that.
I'm on disability (SSDI) and I use money from my wife's disability check to continue paying rent and bills. Although so much of it goes to her room and board and medical bills, that I have access to that money means I'm just over the edge financially and make too much for expanded services like Medicaid and other services that have been suggested to me. The people who helped me apply the last couple of times both told me I was "barely over" the financial bar, whatever that is.
After doing a LOT of searching over time, to find help for my daily life and in helping me manage my mental health and medical care, and seeing that there's nothing available for me, I am now limiting my quest to getting help in creating a safety plan for me and for my animals in dire need, as in death or incapacitation.
I need someone to notice if I disappear, and I need flexibility in how I respond to however they contact me. In my current state, my confusion, anxiety, and who knows what-else, make my ability to reply in a specific timeframe difficult, so I need them to react in steps, not calling the cops if I haven't responded in 10 minutes like the one online service I tried out.
Also, if there are any that provide any kind of attention to my animals that would be incredible. I'm slowly gathering all the information for them, which will be on my refrigerator, but who will look at it and do anything about it if I'm unable to communicate?
Anyway, any ideas would be great. If you have more than just suggesting a specific app I'd really appreciate it. I know there are apps out there, I need broader help than just that.
Thanks in advance!