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January 29, 2017

changing mom's address

  • January 29, 2017
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Hi, we are selling my mom's house & I am not sure what to change her address to; the assisted living facility where she resides, or my address so I am sure to receive anything important?  thoughts?  thank you!

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    SarahGH
    SarahGH
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    January 29, 2017

    It depends on a bunch of factors:

     

    - Do you live near the assisted living facility, and will be visiting her regularly to bring her "social mail"?

    - Who takes care of her "business mail"; does she handle her own checkbook .. or do you take care of all of that?

     

    You may decide to have important mail sent to your house, to make sure it isn't lost, and you can handle it promptly, but have social mail sent to her .. greeting cards, newspaper, magazines, if you don't visit her often.

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      mm87956984Author
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      January 29, 2017

      hi thanks for responding!  yes I am nearby and see her everyday.  I take care of her bills etc.

      JaneCares
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      January 29, 2017
      @mm87956984 wrote:

      Hi, we are selling my mom's house & I am not sure what to change her address to; the assisted living facility where she resides, or my address so I am sure to receive anything important?  thoughts?  thank you!

      If you have financial power of attorney, or an agreement with your mom to help her pay the bills, i'd have the mail sent to you, and then you can hand deliver personal mail when you visit (at least weekly). Kind of depends... 

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        January 29, 2017

        thanks for responding!  I do have POA and take care of her bills etc.  I thought it might be easier if it just all came here but wondered what others have done.  thanks so much!

          SarahGH
          SarahGH
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          January 29, 2017

          My elderly aunt lived with me for 2-1/2 years, before she wound up in a nursing home, after hip surgery. Since she already lived with me & I handled her paperwork w/POA, I just told gave friends & relatives the address of the nursing home, because I remember going there & she'd be excited to have gotten a card or letter from someone.

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          JaneCares
          JaneCares
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          February 19, 2025

          Dear people, the family caregiving group on facebook as 21,000 people on it. a lot of people avoid facebook but this group will answer all your questions very quickly. just a thought. 

            SummerOnTheWay1
            SummerOnTheWay1
            March 6, 2025

            📎  [Thursday 3/6/25] Jane @JaneCares & Amy @agoyer , can you guys POST & PIN link to the Caregiving Facebook page in the Caregiving Forum?

             

            I may be wrong, but this would help with finding the HELP needed.

             

            Thanks a bunch!!!

             

            Luv,

            Nicole  💛🤗

             

            [*** @JaneCares wrote 2/19/25:

            Dear people, the family caregiving group on facebook as 21,000 people on it. a lot of people avoid facebook but this group will answer all your questions very quickly. just a thought. ***]

            JaneCares
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            March 7, 2025

            https://www.facebook.com/groups/aarpfamilycaregivers

              agoyer
              agoyer
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              March 7, 2025

              @mm87956984 That's a tricky one! Are you her financial power of attorney? If so, I'd change her address to your address if you'll be getting important financial information etc - just to make sure it won't get lost. And you can put in a forwarding adress thing for a certain amount of time. But I'd tell family and friends and anyone who might send her "good" mail to send mail directly to her facility if she takes joy in receiving mail. And you can always bring her mail that comes to you too...

               

              That's just based on my experience with my parents and with facilities...

               

              And yes - be sure to join our Facebook Group if you'd like to! Lots of questions like this come up there and a lot of almost immediate responses will come your way! I moderate the group and @JaneCares helps too with admin duties as well as an AARP colleague, Jen. So between us and the 21,000 family caregivers you get lots of quick responses - it's a nice complement to this online community! Hope to see you there 🙂 

               

              Take care,

              Amy Goyer, AARP Family & Caregiving Expert

              Author, "Juggling Life, Work and Caregiving"

               

              Take care,

              Amy 

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