A good caregiver v. a great caregiver

In my personal experience a good caregiver is someone who does only what's necessary to help a loved one. A great caregiver is someone who puts the needs of their loved ones above all else, whether it be the caregivers own physical and mental health, finances, time, or lack of support from other family members. My wife and I are great caregivers and have been for 15 years and for both of our parents. We are beaten down emotionally and financially from all of the responsibilities of caregiving but in our hearts we are strong. We would never walk away like others have so they could enjoy their lives. Our parents deserved better.

Hi all, I wanted to remind everyone that your unique experience and opinion do not invalidate another person's experience and opinion. The original responses from both @postman29 and @GailL1 are welcome and provide valuable insight from each of you through your individual lenses. Please remember that online conversations lack tone and other biological communication cues, so it can be hard to decipher another person's intention. If your feelings are negatively impacted by a user's response, please do your best to communicate those feelings using I statements rather than you statements (example: I felt hurt when you responded this way because it diminished my lived experience. framework: I felt _____ when you responded this way because _____). This will allow for productive conversation. If your statements have offended another user, please know that impact is more important than intent. Even if your intentions were good, the negative impact needs to be addressed and an apology is necessary. Sometimes, it can also be helpful to take some time away from the conversation before posting a reply in order to ground and re-center yourself. The conversations we are having here are vital and sometimes hard and heavy. I hope these suggestions will improve the online community experience for everyone 💜