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How long do you want live? 80, 90, 100?

Do you have a number in mind? Do you want to live to be 80, 90 or 100? How about 115 or 120?

Do you think it matters what your expectations are? I do. I think if you expect to live a long healthy life, your chances of doing so are greater.

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Living to 90 is good as long  as my functions are still working. On Facebook they had a video of a 90+ lady doing her last Ice Skating  performance. I don't need to ice skate. but I want to move on my own. Im 74 all my parts are still working.

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Today Hugh Hefner passed at the age of 91 . He was functional till his last days, Slow but sure.  Living his life the way he wanted. Aging did not stop him....In 17 yrs I will be 91. That's how I wish to be.

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Today Hugh Hefner passed at the age of 91 . He was functional till his last days, Slow but sure.  Living his life the way he wanted. Aging did not stop him....In 17 yrs I will be 91. That's how I wish to be.


I don't know how to say this, so please forgive me if it comes out wrong. I was living with my mom when her health suddenly dropped like a rock and she nearly died in my arms. I knew she didn't want to be in a nursing home/hospital, but I panicked, and called an ambulance. I didn't know what to do, so I left it up to them. If I was better prepared to handle it, I might have been able to handle it better. Since nobody dies and lives to tell about it, It's still a mystery to us all. It seems to me, that even tho we all know our time will come some day, Being conscious of the event itself is a bit disconcerting. I don't think I'd want to be conscious of my own death. But even tho this may sound a bit morbid, I'd like to find out how people who are about to cross that threshold feel/think about it. I'm not sure if I'd be able to give someone that kind of interview. But when my time comes, I'd like to be prepared for it. I don't know if there is any good way to do that. But it sure seems better than being a bumbling idiot about it. Any thoughts about that?

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I don't know that there is any way to prepare for death other than how we prepare to live.  Being aware and conscious and kind and loving to ourselves and our life, and all our dear ones, while we are alive now is probably the only way to be "prepared" for one's own death.  Life certainly offers enough practice in facing difficult things as well as the lovely things.  Just practice, is all I can think. With love and blessings.

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My mother died at 94. She lived in pain for several years and had difficulty getting around, but she was as smart and sharp as ever. I was with her as she went through the process. She'd told me a few years before she died that she was ready. However, when she went to hospice, she cried.  And then she concentrated on what she loved, her children. I was with her while she passed, talking to her and holding her hand.  I think she left us feeling content. 

My job, at 74, is to live fully.  I'm not rushing around trying to accomplish a bucket list of events.  Instead I do what I want as conditions and money allow.  I enjoy sitting on my back porch in New Orleans, watching storms come through, or drinking my morning coffee while to birds and butterflies sing and dance across the trees and flowers.  Friends and family mean a lot.  Currently I'm back up north visiting my friends who have become part of my family and watching the leaves turn.

While I was raised a Christian, I don't worry about the afterlife.  We live through heaven and hell on earth, so when the choice is mine, I pick heaven.  

As for the process of dying, I have no desire to live through the prolonged pain of disease or dementia.  But if the process is peaceful, I'll take it as I do everything else. 

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Dear LadyAnne73 No matter when the end of my life comes, I know that the Lord is with me and that I am loved and when I take my last breath Jesus will be holding my hand and I will be with Him for all eternity. I will see my dear Mother and my siblings, the many friends that have gone before me and all the worries and problems that I may have will be gone forever and I will be at peace. God bless you.
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Thank you for reminding me. This ia not the end for those who have accepted Christ. God Bless you.
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Okay, so let's see, I'm 56 as of tomorrow, and I think that I'd like to live to be somewhere between 75-85 years young!  Then when my time comes and I have finished my mission in this life I will move on to my next existence freely and at peace.

Feeling Groovy in New England!

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With the soon advent of technologies I truly believe everyone should always plan on living to over 100...my two grandmothers 96 and 101...I am 69 shooting for 100...

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One thing I'm especially worried about is MACULAR DEGENERATION...I don't want to be blind.
I'm taking the best eye vitamins supplements I can find and afford ( "Optimal Eyes" - bought on Amazon) and keeping healthy. I was reading how 11 million Americans suffer from Age related Macular degeneration, I don't want to have it attack me.
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I am 71,  would like to make it to 100 !!

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I have said that too. Recent losses have given me things to think about.  I lost my car in an accident and can't replace it.  I did not renew my drivers license. Now I have to get rides everywhere I need to go.  My daughter takes me mostly but a neighbor and dear friend has been a big help. She is moving the end of February which is a double loss. My daughter and grandaughter moved in with me. Now my grandaughter is moving to No. California where her boyfriend lives. She is my joy and her leaving makes me want to cry.  Because of the accident, I lost some memories though much has come back.  I have always been very independent and I think that has helped me stay positive.  Now so much is a struggle. I used to do my own errands and it was good for me to interact with people I would meet. All that I can't do now depresses me.    

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May GOD bless you greatly GinnieLee.

 

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Praying for you Ginnie
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Oh, I'm sorry for what you're going through.  Loss is so hard.  I have abandonment issues, so I find loss very hard.  Yes, staying in touch with people is so very important and, for me, my pets are close to my heart.  Right now one of my sons and his wife live a half-hour away and they are expecting their first and my first grand daughter.  but they are vagabonds by nature and I can't count on them living nearby, even after baby.  Take care, and I hope ways to cope and adjust to your situations will come to you.

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Kudos to the 62 year "young" lady.  I am a 61 year "young" lady.  I'm going for the long run, too, despite similar health issues.  I enjoyed your reply and I am fired up to go for it!  Thank you for your inspiration.  90 to 95?  Here WE come!!!!

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For me, this is a very complex question!  I am 71 and have been living with an advanced cancer that is considered "terminal" for over 13 years, which means 13 plus years of cancer treatment.  Though the cancer is fairly well controlled right now, I am tired!  Not an easy way to live.  I've done well enough to be considered an "exceptional responder".  My mother died from a different cancer at 69 and a year later my father, who had always been in extremely good health, had a major stroke and went on to spend the last 18 years of his life in a wheel chair with right side paralisis and unable to speak more than saying "yes" and "no", usually accurately.  It did not take long for me to realize that my mother had gotten the better deal!  My dad's family has been long lived for generations, with ancestors living unto their 90s and 100s in the 1700s.  My grandmother lived to be 102 after having been in a clinical trial for cancer in her 70s in the 1950s.  She still planted a small garden well into her 80s but the last ten years of her life, she had alot of cognative decline.  It's hard for me to imagine feeling well enough past 80 myself to make living enjoyable.  I have learned alot about what is truly important in my life and how to live in the moment.  I have to work at it to stay mobile and I can't travel as much as I had hoped to.  I am highly motivated to live long enough to vote in the 2020 Presidential election!  That is the thing outside my family that motivates me the most these days.  

 

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Both of my grandmothers lived past 95 so I'm going for 100.  At 67 I've had 2 total knee replacements, and just retired from teaching.  I walk regularly, exercise at least 3 times a week, and enjoy yoga.  I have 4 kids and 8 grandkids and have been happily married for 47 years to my grade school sweetheart.  I would say I have been, and continue to be blessed with each new day.  If God calls me home before I'm 100 it's because my grandmas don't want me to break their record and want me to enjoy an even fuller life with them!

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89 is ok for me.  Beyond that, it would depend what the quality of my life would be.

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100 as long as I'm healthy.

 

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I hope to make it to 82, when my house will finally be paid off!  After that, it'll be a fight against Alzheimer's ... it's in the family 😞   So, I have to make the most of the next 15 years, if I make it THAT long!! 

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Well, 82 is good so you're well on your way.  I'll be 84 in six months and I've already outlived my dad and am coming up on my mom who made it to 87.  My doctor tells me that I am in exceptionally good health for someone of my age.  The only major health issue I have at the moment is spinal stenosis which has made it next to impossible to  do the two to four mile a day walks that I used to do until about four years ago.  However, I spoke with my primary care physician a couple of weeks ago and he has agreed to refer me to the Laser Spinal Institute for possible surgery to deal with the stenosis.  If that happens, I'll be back to the way things were five years ago.  Without any other health issues, I'm hoping to make it to the century mark and maybe beyond!

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Roy,

   Sorry to hear about your spinal stenosis. Did anyone give you Krause excercises? (If not please google them) Unfortunately there is no cure for your problem. Weight control and gentle stretching helps a good deal. (Never arching or twisting) So glad to hear you are active. That is the best medicine.

I have not heard or read valid  reports yet on Laser surgery for stenosis at your age. I hope to hear more. Best wishes. 

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Long enough to see how my 5 grandchildren's lives turn out. They range from 13 down to 5 months. I am not leaving this world until I see how their stories turn out. I am 62 now..so atleast 100.

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I'm sure glad you wrote what I was thinking about writing. It will save me from having to write something. Thanks. Maureen
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I'm afraid once the Republicans kill/cripple Medicare, Medicaid and Social Security much of the optimism on this thread will begin to turn.  Of course they will delay this for several years (see their healthcare "reform" bill that was defeated by a single vote) so their voters will "forget" that the Republicans are the responsible ones.  And they will get rid of all of them/cripple them, or try like hell to get rid of them - see Ryan's proposed budget.  What better way to have a loyal workforce than to force your workers to work or lose health benefits as they're aging and need health benefits?  My father and step mother have benefited enormously from the current system, at my, my wife's and my daughter's (continued) expense, but are full throated supporters of this attempt. Hippocrites indeed. 

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I get what you are saying. But still, unless there are some awful things you are dealing with, you really would like to have a long life....right?

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I have often heard you live to be as old as your mindset.  In the 50's I wanted to be a Rocket Scientist and have been fascinated by technology ever since.  I set my longevity to 107 or the year 2050.  I wanted to see if we would make settlements on the moon, how automobiles would evolve (driverless as they predicted in 1960), and how our living could be made better by technology.  Some things have been great, others no so great.  Lets see what the next 33 years will bring.

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I am there with you!  Born in 1945 and I have always wanted to live to 2050.  My reasons are much like yours. Let's do this!

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i will be content with every day god allows me to awaken to see another day.thats good enough for me.

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