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I am a mother, partner, and social worker. I lived in DC for 56 years and now live in rural eastern Oregon, known as the high desert Oregon Outback. I provide psychotherapy in a primary care clinic. I knit, crochet, and garden. I worship in a progressive Episcopal parish in a sea of otherwise evangelical Christians. I am bisexual, and do workshops on LGBTQ lives and ways of being.
Area of knowledge and what I know well:
psychotherapy, caregiving, social service systems and how to be an advocate within them, LGBTQ mental health, psychosocial aspects of physical challenges.
Bio
Social worker living in eastern Oregon. I provide psychotherapy in a primary care clinic. I'm bisexual, and do LGBTQ workshops. Very knowledgeable in Caregiving – come find me there!
Certificates/Awards
Master of Social Work 1988

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Hi there, boofiepie, Loss of a spouse of so many years is HUGE. And for you, so recent and raw.   I've never lost a spouse to death, so I don't really know what this is like for you. I've lost my parents, and my sister's first child died of SIDS at 3...
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Hello there, dear js16... Fifty years is more than half a lifetime. Most likely you were his wife and now his widow. (There's a small chance that you are also a man and his husband.) Regardless of anything, you are bereft. Four months is not a lot of...
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Hello, Veronica.   Grief is the gift that keeps on giving. It is SO HARD. You know that already. I wonder if finding a grief group might help you. Is there a hospice near you? Many hospices welcome other people who are grieving to their bereavement g...
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Hi Sherree. Gosh that's a tough one. And it feels like the last chapter of our lives is adjusting to these losses. I used to work as a social worker in various oncology settings, including an inpatient unit and different chemotherapy clinics. One of ...
JaneCares 07-20-2026 02:25 PM
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I have a book called “Every moment holy” and there is a volume on death, grief and hope. I will paraphrase the part about the “Loss of a loving parent”:   I have lived my life till now with a sense there was a strong, buffering wall between myself an...
JaneCares 06-19-2026 08:59 AM
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Hi there, boofiepie, Loss of a spouse of so many years is HUGE. And for you, so recent and raw.   I've never lost a spouse to death, so I don't really know what this is like for you. I've lost my parents, and my sister's first child died of SIDS at 3...
JaneCares 08-22-2026 11:33 AM
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Hello there, dear js16... Fifty years is more than half a lifetime. Most likely you were his wife and now his widow. (There's a small chance that you are also a man and his husband.) Regardless of anything, you are bereft. Four months is not a lot of...
JaneCares 08-07-2026 05:41 PM
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Hello, Veronica.   Grief is the gift that keeps on giving. It is SO HARD. You know that already. I wonder if finding a grief group might help you. Is there a hospice near you? Many hospices welcome other people who are grieving to their bereavement g...
JaneCares 07-21-2026 07:58 AM
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Hi Sherree. Gosh that's a tough one. And it feels like the last chapter of our lives is adjusting to these losses. I used to work as a social worker in various oncology settings, including an inpatient unit and different chemotherapy clinics. One of ...
JaneCares 07-20-2026 02:25 PM
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I have a book called “Every moment holy” and there is a volume on death, grief and hope. I will paraphrase the part about the “Loss of a loving parent”:   I have lived my life till now with a sense there was a strong, buffering wall between myself an...
JaneCares 06-19-2026 08:59 AM
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Hi there, boofiepie, Loss of a spouse of so many years is HUGE. And for you, so recent and raw.   I've never lost a spouse to death, so I don't really know what this is like for you. I've lost my parents, and my sister's first child died of SIDS at 3...
JaneCares 08-22-2026 11:33 AM
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Hello there, dear js16... Fifty years is more than half a lifetime. Most likely you were his wife and now his widow. (There's a small chance that you are also a man and his husband.) Regardless of anything, you are bereft. Four months is not a lot of...
JaneCares 08-07-2026 05:41 PM
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Hello, Veronica.   Grief is the gift that keeps on giving. It is SO HARD. You know that already. I wonder if finding a grief group might help you. Is there a hospice near you? Many hospices welcome other people who are grieving to their bereavement g...
JaneCares 07-21-2026 07:58 AM
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Hi Sherree. Gosh that's a tough one. And it feels like the last chapter of our lives is adjusting to these losses. I used to work as a social worker in various oncology settings, including an inpatient unit and different chemotherapy clinics. One of ...
JaneCares 07-20-2026 02:25 PM
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I have a book called “Every moment holy” and there is a volume on death, grief and hope. I will paraphrase the part about the “Loss of a loving parent”:   I have lived my life till now with a sense there was a strong, buffering wall between myself an...
JaneCares 06-19-2026 08:59 AM
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