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[Spring2025]

[Thursday 9/5/24 1:32pm ET]

Marcy @MarcyW882921 , Cadee @Cadee2719 and MC @mc6844 - I just got a response from Jonibee @jonibee via PM/private message. She is INTERESTED and having surgery tomorrow. I will set things up tonight and let you know HOW TO FIND IT in case you want to follow us.  🙄🙄🙄

Luv you ALL my friends,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

[mc6844]

Thank you Nicole. House, car stuff have been taking up my time. I hope you are all well. I keep you in my prayers. Thank you for all your help and support. I'm interested in your chat link too! I'm sorry for everyone's loss. Please take care 

[GailL1]

@Spring2025 

I am sure that you will make a success of it with your dedication and spirit.  

You mentioned a couple of words in a post not too long ago concerning going to the Friends and Family board with this sort of discussion. I thought these two word captured exactly what you and others here are trying to accomplish - the words were “MOVING FORWARD”, I believe, and it is an important aspect of life after loss - a more long term quest whether emotional, mentally, physically, logistically or just those everyday decisions that have to be made. 

Think you said it well here on 08/29/2024 (7:42 pm)

https://community.aarp.org/t5/Grief-Loss/I-m-still-here-Good-news-finally/m-p/2567652#M15131 

Good Luck 

[Spring2025]

You are welcome MC @mc6844 and thank you for yours!!!

Luv you my friend,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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[*** MC wrote: Thank you for all your support Nicole! ❤️  ***]

[mc6844]

Thank you for all your support Nicole! ❤️ 

[Spring2025]

Dear Jonibee @jonibee and Cadee@Cadee2719 I miss hearing from you dear friends and hope you are BOTH doing well on your JOURNEY OF HEALING  🤗🤗🤗

You guys have lost luv ones who are SO PROUD of what you have accomplished while grieving.

MY thoughts stay with you!!!

Luv you VERY MUCH,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗  and  🤗🤗🤗

[jonibee]

Just taking a moment to say hello and things are proceeding as they should..I have 3 upcoming appts and then there is the waiting time for diag anf primary care visit..So Until all this happens within this month & next, I will be hoping for a good outcome regarding my health. Thank You for inquiring as to how I'm doing..Hoping all is well with you too...

[Spring2025]

So GOOD to hear from you dear Jonibee @jonibee !!!  💃💃💃

Found out TODAY I have pre-diabetes and need to exercise and do a Mediterrean diet.  🙄🙄🙄

So between GRIEVING - slum landlord, I need to figure out WHERE to move to. This move will help me with my grieving, depression and anger. Thanks for asking dear friend.

Luv you VERY MUCH,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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[*** JONIBEE@ wrote: Just taking a moment to say hello and things are proceeding as they should..I have 3 upcoming appts and then there is the waiting time for diag anf primary care visit..So Until all this happens within this month & next, I will be hoping for a good outcome regarding my health. Thank You for inquiring as to how I'm doing..Hoping all is well with you too... ***]

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[MarcyW882921]

Nicole @Spring2025 ,

So sorry to hear your pre-diabetes news. I wish you were here so I could support you in your lifestyle changes. Keep exploring and I hope you find the right location to ease your emotional and physical burdens.

🤗

Marcy

[Spring2025]

Thank you dear Marcy @MarcyW882921 and you stay in my thoughts for your migraines dear friend. Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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[*** MARCY wrote: Nicole,

So sorry to hear your pre-diabetes news. I wish you were here so I could support you in your lifestyle changes. Keep exploring and I hope you find the right location to ease your emotional and physical burdens.

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Marcy ***]

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[mc6844]

Sorry to hear, Nicole. I think the problems bring the grieving out again. We may remember loved ones who helped us with certain things. Maybe a grandmother who prepared good food for us. Or a loved one who could fix cars and washing machines. Especially when they break all at once. But those people aren't there anymore. And we have to trust what we got to work with. Times like this make me feel all at odds. I'm looking for that support that isn't there. Even a partner or spouse that was terminally ill was still a source of emotional support in some way or other. Even if it was in remembrance of what they once were. All the stuff, the decisions can be exhausting. Why do they have to happen all at once. Lol. 

[Spring2025]

MC @mc6844 , thank you and I agree my friend!!! Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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[*** MC wrote: Sorry to hear, Nicole. I think the problems bring the grieving out again. We may remember loved ones who helped us with certain things. Maybe a grandmother who prepared good food for us. Or a loved one who could fix cars and washing machines. Especially when they break all at once. But those people aren't there anymore. And we have to trust what we got to work with. Times like this make me feel all at odds. I'm looking for that support that isn't there. Even a partner or spouse that was terminally ill was still a source of emotional support in some way or other. Even if it was in remembrance of what they once were. All the stuff, the decisions can be exhausting. Why do they have to happen all at once. Lol. ***]

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[Spring2025]

I am laughing NOW MC @mc6844 as being prediabetic, I had to give up my weekly ice cream and cake.  🙄🙄🙄

It was NOT FUNNY when my doctor told me.

Anyway, I did READ online and TODAY at Kroger I picked up some plain greek yogurt  😭😭😭  and my usual bananas. I figured THIS TIME I will slice up the banana and add to yogurt. Usually I get the FLAVORED yogurt and eat banana separetly.

SO GOOD TO HEAR FROM YOU!!!  💃💃💃

Luv you my friend,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗  and  🤗🤗🤗

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[*** MC wrote: Sorry to hear, Nicole. I think the problems bring the grieving out again. We may remember loved ones who helped us with certain things. Maybe a grandmother who prepared good food for us. Or a loved one who could fix cars and washing machines. Especially when they break all at once. But those people aren't there anymore. And we have to trust what we got to work with. Times like this make me feel all at odds. I'm looking for that support that isn't there. Even a partner or spouse that was terminally ill was still a source of emotional support in some way or other. Even if it was in remembrance of what they once were. All the stuff, the decisions can be exhausting. Why do they have to happen all at once. Lol. ***]

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[MarcyW882921]

I love a smoothie that I make with ½ of a frozen banana, frozen strawberries, peaches, or mango, cottage cheese, and almond milk. I throw in a few ice cubes and mix it in a Ninja. It is just like soft serve ice cream for me! 🍦😋

Great for self-care and comfort!

Marcy

[Cadee2719]

 Thank You Marcy.  Went to the store to buy all the ingredients.  Your saying it is just like soft serve ice cream was the trick for me.  I LOVE soft serve ice cream.  😁

[MarcyW882921]

To make it like ice cream, I use half of a frozen banana, ½ cup of frozen fruit, ½ cup of cottage cheese, about five small ice cubes, and a small amount of almond milk (maybe a half cup?). If it is too thick I add a little more milk.

Marcy

[Cadee2719]

  Made it.  Love it.  Thank You

[mc6844]

Sound really good Marcy. Thanks for sharing the recipe. I like mango. My favorite drink is water with lemon and ice cubes and a touch of sugar. Good nutrition is a form of self care. It seems to drain the body when people go through loss.

[Spring2025]

Thanks Marcy @MarcyW882921 , NEVER tried Almond Milk!!!  👍👍👍

I am also looking at Kroger coupons (well, let's say I started to  🙄)  with part 2 scheduled for FRIDAY.

Been LAZY, but time to get SERIOUS about self care.

I HOPE your migraines are either gone or reduced dear friend.

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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[*** MARCY wrote: I love a smoothie that I make with ½ of a frozen banana, frozen strawberries, peaches, or mango, cottage cheese, and almond milk. I throw in a few ice cubes and mix it in a Ninja. It is just like soft serve ice cream for me! 

Great for self-care and comfort!

Marcy ***]

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[mc6844]

I hope they are too Marcy. That is no fun. Nicole, I've heard  a lot about Kroger I'll have to try it depending on their delivery fee.

[mc6844]

Keep on with the fruit and yogurt. And no, it isn't funny when Drs tell us these things. I give you credit for applying the Mediterranean diet. I look for no sugar ice cream. Don't know if that's allowed. 

[Spring2025]

Thanks MC @mc6844 . I am sure the NO SUGAR ice cream (VERY EXPENSIVE) would be allowed but I have ONLY Social Security coming in. Been homeless back in 2017 at age 59 when my job hours got cut while other businesses closed here in Virginia. After that 13 months of staying at a Rescue Mission and saving $5,000.00 to buy my 2006 Hyundai Elantra for $2,500.00, moving into this Studio Apt in 2018 - NOW at age 66 in 2024, so NEVER want to repeat that. So I have a want and need list. Lol, the want list no longer exists as my rent goes up EVERY year. GRATEFUL the other old lady (the car  🙄)  is still running.  💃💃💃

Sad that JUNK is cheaper than HEALTHY.

My Medicare doctor is the one who suggested the diet.

Going to Walmart TODAY and will see WHAT options they have. Kroger YESTERDAY was my Cash In my $1/$2 lottery scratch-off tickets. Spend $6 each MONDAY. Gets me out of my apt and I get to see my pal David (fellow old person) at their Customer Service counter. They have MORE to offer but their PRICES!!!  😱😱😱

So I normally DO NOT shop there.

Luv you my friend,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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[*** MC wrote: Keep on with the fruit and yogurt. And no, it isn't funny when Drs tell us these things. I give you credit for applying the Mediterranean diet. I look for no sugar ice cream. Don't know if that's allowed. ***]

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[mc6844]

Nicole, you're absolutely right. Food costs rising and inflation is a worry these days. I like olives but they're getting too expensive too. I noticed stores are selling chunks of chicken etc. people are making more casseroles.

I'm sorry for your troubles in the past. That must have been a very painful time. Except you didn't let it ruin your outlook and hope, and what you need to do to stay healthy. And your love for your daughter, who I'm sure is very happy you are still here. We're all happy you're here. Thank you Nicole. 💕

[Spring2025]

Lol, MC @mc6844 - don't forget the OTHER family member - Mr.  🐈.

You are such a BLESSING dear friend!!!

Walmart on Tuesday was a MAJOR DISAPPOINTMENT for HEALTHY options, but GRATEFUL they carry the cat food HE LIKES.  🙄🙄🙄  Told him he NEEDS A JOB.

I hope you are well!!!

Luv you,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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[*** MC wrote: Nicole, you're absolutely right. Food costs rising and inflation is a worry these days. I like olives but they're getting too expensive too. I noticed stores are selling chunks of chicken etc. people are making more casseroles.

I'm sorry for your troubles in the past. That must have been a very painful time. Except you didn't let it ruin your outlook and hope, and what you need to do to stay healthy. And your love for your daughter, who I'm sure is very happy you are still here. We're all happy you're here. Thank you Nicole. 💕  ***]

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[mc6844]

Lol. He is lucky to have you. I love pets. But can't presently care for them. When I find a dog that lets itself in and out of the house, gets supper itself, does dishes, I'll think about it. Lol

[Spring2025]

READY TO MOVE FORWARD ON YOUR HEALING JOURNEY?  🤔

Follow YOUR purpose.

Griffin recommends thinking of three things you enjoy doing the most — cooking, gardening, reading stories, sports, whatever.

Or make a list of the things you have always wanted to learn more about. Then poke around to find a free class online or at a local community college or university. You will learn a new skill and meet people interested in the same subjects.

▶️***[Link to AARP article below]***◀️

https://www.aarp.org/home-family/friends-family/info-2022/dealing-with-loneliness.html

[mc6844]

Great ideas Nicole. I took free computer classes at the local high school some years ago. I was grateful to learn new skills. I knew a girl who took woodworking and built a lovely dresser. You can learn skills and if course meet new people. The other people there need people there, or there wouldn't be classes. Plus taking a course in a familiar field of study, or a new one, can help people move forward too.

[Spring2025]

I have found that TALKING with OTHER grievers has helped me not to feel so alone.

While we will still have OUR MOMENTS of anger, sadness and so on - LEARNING from others how they have been able to MOVE FORWARD helps us on our journeys.

So stop by and SHARE your SURVIVAL TIPS, you may be helping someone who just lost a luv one.

Thank you,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗  (Grief Forum)

[mc6844]

Very true Nicole. This is why I've favored the Grief and Loss Forum. The topics are focused on loss and grief. So a person naturally focuses on this topic when they stop in. And they can stop in any time they want am or pm. This is good for the grieving. Who may find it hard to commit to a specific date or time or session. Plus in grieving events or things like car repairs or mechanical usually handled by the deceased can set the grieving process back, or all over again. Although unexpected, it's just another layer of grief. That's why the saying  "don't go to the empty well for water" is worthy of note. It's important to pay attention to grief, and go to pertinent and necessary resources for relief and healing. It takes effort. It's tiring. But being in a state of emotional upset isn't good for surviving and eventually thriving in this process. Thank you for bringing the topic up. Today is my day for catching up with the forum. 

[mc6844]

I think that's very helpful too, Nicole. So many things we never think of ourselves. Having a new source of learning is a great comfort when the grieving hits.