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Would love to just chat!

I am recently retired and still getting used to being at home all day.  I tried to get a part time job but no success. I would love to chat and get to know people from all over the country.  Maybe you can give me some advice on retirement loneliness!  Rebecca 

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Greetings! Boy, do i know where you're coming from. I was completely overwhelmed due to dealing with a failing mother and adult children who were struggling, while keeping a high stress full time job. i wound up in therapy due to the anxiety. Then....my mother passed away, my children found themselves in better circumstances, and i decided to retire after 32 years of employment. And i found myself struggling as to how to fill my time, after so many years of never having enough of it! i came to the stunning realization that i needed a ROUTINE, even if it was a different routine than the one i had previously. I started establishing a routine....and then COVID hit. So, now back to establishing a DIFFERENT routine. I was ready to give up the high stress job, but i never really planned on what the next step should be. 

 

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@hockeymom9178  I want to first say how sorry I am about the passing of your mom. You have definitely gone through a great deal in a short amount of time, and were so wise to seek counseling when it grew overwhelming.  Classic feast or famine.  It can take time to decide how you want your retirement to look.  Blocking in time to exercise regularly is a good start.  Slowing begin building a social network of friends and family.  Check in with them regularly. Creating a weekly meal plan can free you up from asking yourself, what am I going to have for dinner every day. Also decrease temptation of fast food or delivery regularly. It's an adjustment to cook for one.  You can always double portion favorite dishes and freeze.  Hobbies are a great way to build in routine.  Are there hobbies you like (d) or look into new ones. A crazy thing I picked up two months ago was entering limerick contests. A total blast!  Joining a book club, gets you a chance to meet people with some similar interest.  Volunteering can do that too.  If you are a person of faith, joining a church. Maybe a part-time job is a way to get you out regularly too.

 

Best of luck hockey mom, you are resilient and resourceful, you got this! 

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Hi, Bess, I'd love to chat and this couldn't come at a better time for me. My mood goes up and down as I travel through this. The metaphor of having to fill an empty canvas every week and every day, even every hour, has come to me. You spoke about no luck in getting a part-time job. I can't even figure out to do volunteer stuff. 

 

How do we make this a regular thing? Could we bring people together on Zoom? 

 

Thanks, Tony

 

 

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Rebecca,
I too would just love to chat, I am also retired, and after being housebound due to Covid for a year I ended up detaching my darn Achilles Tendon and having surgery,  so now my rear end is stuck in this chair for months.  Where are you located?  Maybe we can keep each other from going nutty

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Hi, Rebecca. I am so happy to have met you here. Today is my 2nd week anniversary for leaving my job and moving towards retirement. Before I pulled the trigger on leaving my job I thought that my major challenges would be 1) money and 2) filling the void, like waking up and seeing a big, dark tunnel of nothing. But what I didn’t anticipate was what you mentioned, “retirement loneliness.” 

 

Quite honestly, I’d never been very good at keeping friends or making them. But now I am reaching out and a lot of people I thought would respond are not. So I have a rejiggered the 2nd challenge to be filling the timing productively with people.  I figure that would be hard for me in normal circumstances but of course Covid is making this worse. I’d love to keep talking to you, Rebecca and anyone else who has these feelings or has any advice. Thanks, Tony

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AnthonyG273710.....Find something you enjoy doing and you will find others who will share your activity.

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Loneliness and retirement.....the best way to overcome them is to keep busy.

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@besslewis , Volunteering is a great transition from retirement.  Great way to meet new people. Also, taking classes on things that interest you, finding new hobbies, or rediscovering old ones. There are so many people that could use your help.  Congratulations on your retirement, best of luck with this new faze of life. Christine

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help I would love to chat in the forums and to you but can't seem to swim thru. I am retired since I was 66. I was an L&D nurse for over 30 years and like most people miss the daily life of going to work but not actually the work. I am trying to sew and scrapbook. I love to read. I live in a rural area and love it. I have three mustangs(PETS) and 2 **bleep**zus. 

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Hi @LynneS930241 lol, the AARP Community Board  is not easy to use and I had taken a year off (2020) and returned this year. You can PRIVATE MESSAGE AND FRIEND folks you connect with and who want to communicate. I am here if you need any help at all. Good hearing from you 🙂

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do you have any hobbies? what are you good at? Do you ever take walks in your neighborhood or is there a park nearby? Sometimes you can meet other walkers with similar interests. Try it or get yourself a bicycle. You'd be surprised at who your neighbors are. Have you considered a home based business? There are so many that are good for retirees and anybody, plus you meet new people, even virtually. Im working on one right now if you're interested. Are we allowed to trade emails or numbers?

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Dear Rebecca

I just retired about 3 weeks ago after losing my husband this fall so I know how you feel-not sure what to do with this time. If you want to to chat or write please contact me-I do have friends but they are from work so hey are busy during the day. If you are a reader wecan talk about books. I hope to hear from you.

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Hi Rebecca,

I'm semi "retired" and have had to deal with the realities of having less day-to-day contact with others.  One positive step I have taken was to start a "men's group" comprised of five guys that I knew throughout my career.  There are five of us and we talk every other week for about 1 1/2 hrs.  The guidelines are simply that we don't discuss religion or politics.  Other than that we give ourselves homework assignments which basically entail answering questions about our lives, concerns, challenges and ideas for thriving in this stage of our lives.  We all live in different parts of the country.  Perhaps starting a group of virtual friends can be helpful for you...

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Hi Bess and everyone!

 

My name is Dana, still working in the family business. I support my special needs nephew/son with some help from my parents. He has been living with me since 2010 and it is rough. 

 

Let's see, I am a locksmith by trade and have worked in many areas of the industry. I currently am the business manager and the front desk tech for the business, yes, I wear many hats around here!!! I also work from home as a customer service rep for Carnival!! LOL

 

Never married and have never had children. I love to travel. LOVE being in the mountains. Dog lover. My life is pretty boring at the moment but it's all good.

 

This is a start for me, just looking for a support group. Since I am a caregiver in my home as well as being there for my parents. I figured this might be a great place for me to start??!!

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Bess, have you considered a home based business? A lot of projects are totally virtual, taking advantage of the technology. I'm working on a project with great benefits and great compensation.

 

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Bess tell me, can you see this post? Im trying to make sure it can be seen and how do you know when people respond? is there some red number 3 or four telling me i have four replies, up at the top?

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It doesn't appear that the original poster has been back here since June 2020. I can see your post so it is there. She just hasn't seen it. That's a big problem with systems like this is that people join, stay gung-ho for a month or so and then quit coming back. I have been looking over threads and other than the people who want to argue about politics, a large number of the threads have had no activity in months.

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It says here that you are regular contributor..... and I'm interested in having folks to chat to, as well. Can you give me some tips for that? 

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@jt56285305  Welcome to the AARP on-line community! It looks like this particular post has sporadic contributors. Have yet to find a post that has regular contributors who would just like to chat. I've tried in the past, but it didn't seem to have staying power.  

 

You can always thrown your hat it the ring, and try to start a post of your own. 

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I would love to have chat friends but I don't trust most sites but I do this one problem is I can't seem to function on it . I respond then nothing now I am getting it on my email but dont know what to do except resond . like this is there anyway to have a two way chat?

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Hi, im looking forward to retiring soon also;oh how i wish it were today! im so restless these days;it just takes a lot of prayer to get through some days on the job; its not a hard job, im an elementary school janitor, but after over 25 years, Im burnt out, and at nearly 60, its too late to start over somewhere else, or is it, and still have the same salary or better? I dont know, what do you think?

 

Wendell Bowen
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@WendellB235731 do you have a SCSEP program in your area? They hook up age 50 and older with jobs and training for a new career.

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hello  trying to learn how to chat on this site . I am not haveing good results Hope this  will begin a two way chat as It has not worked in the past.

I hear you ,us too

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Spring is my favorite time, great to get busy outdoors, cutting grass, landscaping, gardening, walking, jogging, getting the bicycles out; ive been wanting a moped and one of those classy Italian bikes like they ride in the Tour De France!  Ive always been real big on fitness and stuff; that with my passion for art and painting pictures, art has become real therapy for me; plus getting paid is always nice too. I paint signs and murals too.

 

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Hello my name is Richard from Oklahoma would love to just chit chat sometime.

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Greetings,
Got lots of time and love to write, share ideas, opinions and thoughts, so who knows?

Best wishes of health and happiness to you and yours, take care and be safe,
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   Greetings from Tucson, Arizona.

    My name is Michael.  Here to chat or reply to messages.  Love talking to people.  Take care everyone.

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