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๐ค WE are thinking of YOU! Please Stop By To See Us :)
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WE cry, rejoice, talk, share!
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Hi Carol. So nice to hear from you here. Expressing your thoughts and feelings in a journal is an immense help and path to emotional well being. Plus it's your own little place to put your innermost thoughts. And track your progress. Keeping up with things on a daily basis helps to feel grounded in the present day. One foot in front of the other, works. You will feel better soon. Don't forget to eat little meals or snacks throughout the day to keep depression at bay. Thank you for sharing Carol. The people here can help you!
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Going pretty well for me given the time so far. I'm able to do most things and talk about my wife's passing more easily but still get choked up. I think progress is finding less tissues in the washer :). I'm still reading books on grief to understand it. For me, learning about it does not reduce the pain or the time but at least I know it normal etc. I started talking to a counselor who's pretty good. I was skeptical at first since she is younger than youngest child (26 vs 28) but so far she's helpful. I just settling in for a long journey. I did realize that talking to my Dad who's almost 90 about my situation was not helpful so we talk about other things.
Take care, Bill
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It sounds @BillH490171 that you are making progress. However we reach an understanding that we are not crazy and what we are feeling is normal is a giant step in the grieving process.
Marcy
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Marcy, thanks for the kind words and you are correct. We need to realize, understand, and acknowledge our new lives. It tough because in many cases, our lives were pretty good. We did not ask for this change but have the sole responsibility to get through it.
Slowly learning about grief, Bill
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Bill, you hit the nail on the head. And why this site is so helpful. The focus is on the loss and grief process. Whereas talking to family or the very elderly can have a scattered focus. They have their own issues to deal with, and though perhaps have dealt with loss, it's not an issue for them in the present time. Counselors are a good idea. At 73, most everywhere I go these days people are younger than me lol. One of my adult children is a kayaker. Kayakers are generally friendly and invite solo kayakers to join them on the lakes etc. Getting out like that is a refreshing respite from the pain of loss.
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This site has changed. It is simply a "shell" of what it was. First, we are attacked by a person that belittles us for grieving and then we lose the one person that kept us together as a group, checking on us each day and finding ways to cheer us up. You can see that no one is interested in being on this site any longer. It is sad that the one place we felt safe is now one we avoid.
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Hi. It is good to see a lot of my original friends returning to this site. All of you have been so helpful to me and I know the new people on this site will benefit from your advice. I have begun to read WIDOW TO WIDOW again. I think the first time I read it I was not able to focus and comprehend the good advice given. I am seriously considering relocating to another state near family. It is a HUGE decision to make and will involve many steps to accomplish. I still have days where I struggle and am sad. I truly wonder if I will ever recover from losing my husband, son and brother. I tell myself they are in a better place, my husband is no longer suffering and they would want me to be happy and to move on with my life. Some days I feel so guilty, then others I remind myself that there is no time schedule and that I must take it one day at a time and do the best I can. I will continue on this journey. Thank You for checking on me.
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Thank you @Cadee for your update. I can't imagine having to cope with the compounding losses that you have had and I think of you often. You are right that there is no time schedule and taking whatever time is needed to think through huge decisions sounds like a logical plan.
Marcy
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I guess I missed some of what you were talking about @Cadee2719 but I certainly understand the part about the one person that kept us together as a group. That person is certainly missed. There are however, still people who come here in need of support and those with valuable experiences to share. I hope that we can continue to utilize the forum as a safe space to provide and receive support from one another.
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Life is ever changing and so we adapt. I also think this group serves a valuable purpose. The focus is on grief/loss. As opposed to other groups where the focus is scattered. Which can leave you feeling at odds. There's a sense of real help here. The sharing of grief/loss is affirmed. Many grieving people skip this first important part. And continue to grieve searching for affirmation. There's no timetable to grieving. But I think it's a process. Worthy of repeating to the next step of the grieving process. I hope everyone continues with the group. Thank you all for being here!
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I agree. Having lost three of the most important people in my life within months, I came to this site seeking help. The people here were so patient and kind to me. I relied on them to get through each waking day. Without them, I would not have made it. They referred me to books to read, told me about their experiences in dealing with the aftermath of loss, and even found ways to make me smile and laugh. They took time from their busy days to reach out to me and for that I will always be appreciative. I hope this site will continue to be helpful to those that reach out for help. I know that you, Marcy ,Beatlelover and Nicole and others) are certainly the ones that have helped me and will help others. Thank You for your kindness.
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You @Cadee2719 have helped me too! Knowing you and others were out there when I needed to know someone was listening has been a saving grace for me. May we continue to be here for each other in whatever way we can. โค๏ธ๐ค
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So glad to see your post @Cadee2719
Thank you for your kind words. And know that you have helped me as well. Everyone on here has saved me
at one time or another. For that Iโm
eternally grateful ๐
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@mc6844 | @MarcyW882921 | @BeatleloverKT | @Cadee2719 | @BillH490171 Does anyone know where Nicole (Spring2023) is today? It's hard to imagine that she'd abandon this thread. I hope she's okay. I last heard she relocated to Florida and was living with her daughter, she had a boyfriend that took her on a cruise, and then, her account has suddenly become inactive. I am hoping someone has been able to contact her via cellphone, or email. Anyway, any input of her well-being would be greatly appreciated. She was on here everyday, and then she no longer comes here. That's a bit concerning.
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I, too, am aware of the post criticizing us for mourning the loss of our loved ones. AARP has moved this person to The Front Porch. I do not understand how such a hateful message was permitted to exist on this site knowing we were all dealing with loss in our lives. I guess Nicole could no longer take it which I understand. I, too, had left this site confused and sad by this women's comments. I think when you are in such a fragile state of mind, criticism for mourning your loss is unwarranted and extremely hard to deal with. I, wish Nicole the best of all life has to offer. She took time out of her busy day to check on daily, to keep us involved, to meet others, to make us smile and laugh. I miss her. Sad that one person wiped out what I thought was a safe place to be.
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Last month @KellytheBelly, Nicole let me know she was leaving the forum and her reason for that action, but she did not send me any way to reach her. ๐
Marcy
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Iโm so sorry you feel this way @Cadee2719
I know everyone has their reasons for not
being on here everyday. Personally I have my
own issues medically and a very hard time
with my 90+ parents. Often I try to come up
with my solutions as well. Donโt want to rely
on anyone else for help if I can do it first. I havenโt been able to find any belittling posts
on here but certainly want to know who it was
so I can address it. Please PM me and let me
know. Thank you. Have a blessed day ๐
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It is still so hard for me to accept the fact that my only Love is gone,,,,I am trying each day to do something for myself or someone else in my life....three months seem like three years......I will never get over it....but will get through it,,,,,,,,Prayers are lifted for all that are struggling ,as I am...God bless....CAROL
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Thinking of you @CarolD435501. There are days when it is hard to believe that someone we loved so much is physically gone from this earth. They are however kept alive through our memories, in the place they hold within our heart, and in what we do with our life. You are amazing that in three months time you are taking care of yourself and giving of yourself to others! According to many sources, you are right that you will never get over your grief but those sources also say you will grow around your grief. Prayers for you too as you travel on this journey to get through these struggling times.
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God bless you @CarolD435501 It is quite a
journey, greaving. All my best to you. Iโm
coming up on five years and I doubt Iโll ever
fully get over it either. Prayers to you ๐๐
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WE cry, rejoice, talk, share!
Whatever YOU need, WE are here for YOU.
***YOU are a very SPECIAL person and WE want to hear from YOU***
Grief & Loss Team ๐ค๐ค
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๐ฌHappy Friday All!!!
I have 14 more FREE days left of my 30-day TRIAL Amazon Prime, then will do SAME next year. ๐
I really DO NOT see what the big deal is about it as after 1st week, I have caught up on ALL the movies, TV shows and audiobooks I had missed from PREVIOUS year.
Luv the 7-day FREE Trial for Hallmark, Acorn, Britbox and Audible. ๐ฅณ๐
Lol, such a "pain" to FIND stuff that "interest" me after my BINGE on my FAVORITES! ๐๐
Luv you ALL,
Nicole ๐ค๐ค
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(Friday 6/16/23)
Sometimes WE do NOT feel like stopping by to chat.
WE understand! ๐
But HOPE you will stop by AGAIN to see us. ๐ฅณ๐
Grief & Loss Team ๐ค๐ค
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