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***A place to share and support***

Grief & Loss Team 🤎🤗

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[Winter2025VA]

Be patient: Understand that grief isn't linear and can resurface, especially around anniversaries or holidays; it's a process that can take months or years.

[MarcyW882921]

Amen to that!

Marcy

[Winter2025VA]

Marcy @MarcyW882921 , glad you stopped by!!! 💃

Went for xrays today. Go back on 20th to get a Walking Boot.

I am on my 3rd cast. First two I let the "youngsters" pick colors.

1st was green with sprinkles

2nd red with sprinkles.

Lol, everyone luved them at Kroger when I was riding around in their SCOOTER. Said they were festive. Told them the youngsters picked them.

Today, I picked paws = for my boy.

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📸  Check out my cast selection dedicated to my boy Mister.

Learning to drive the SCOOTER was interesting & funny. Grateful folks understood I had NO idea what I was doing.

NOW I am a pro. 😉

Luv,

Nicole 💛🤗

[MarcyW882921]

Nicole,

I love the paws!❤️ I'm sorry that you had to get another cast and then have a boot to look forward to. Learning to ride the scooter at the supermarket was good exercise for your brain. It's great that you have become proficient at riding, and maybe you will give tutorials. LOL

Marcy

[Winter2025VA]

Lol Marcy @MarcyW882921 , I just may open up my Scooter driving lessons biz. 😂

Luv,

Nicole 💛🤗

[Winter2025VA]

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***A place to share and support***

Grief & Loss Team  ‌💛‌‌🤗‌

[Winter2025VA]

Myth:
It’s important to “be strong” in the face of loss.

Fact:
Feeling sad, frightened, or lonely is a normal reaction to loss. Crying doesn’t mean you are weak. You don’t need to “protect” your family or friends by putting on a brave front. Showing your true feelings can help them and you.

[Winter2025VA]

📸 Picture Attached [they are ADORABLE]. Marcy @MarcyW882921 , my neighbor just got my mail for me. Finally I get to SEE & READ your Christmas card. Thank you SO MUCH!!! Nicole 💛🤗

[Winter2025VA]

Grief During the Christmas Season - National Farmers Mental Health Alliance.

[1] Maintain a routine. Grief is overwhelming and can leave us feeling out of control. Routine helps create a sense of normalcy and order when times are difficult.

[2] Keep things simple. Let go of the activities that are overwhelming, but keep a few simple things that have brought you joy in the past.

[3] It’s okay to say ‘no’ to some things in order to say ‘yes’ to taking care of yourself.

[4] Honour old traditions or memories. This is a helpful way to keep your loved one’s memory present.

[5] Remember your loved one in a special way. Perhaps begin a new tradition and be okay with that tradition changing or ending as years go by. Some things are only needed for a time, while others remain significant for years to come.

[6] Allow yourself to grieve. It’s okay to show emotions. Tune into them.

[7] Do something good for others. Doing something nice for someone else boosts energy and mood, decreases depression and anxiety and increases serotonin and other feel-good chemicals in your body.

[8] Plan ahead for what you may or may not be able to handle.

[9] Identify grief coping skills (breathing exercises, journaling, walking, listening to music etc.)

[10] Ask for help. Support from friends, family, coworkers and/or a professional are so important.

https://nfmha.ca/grief-during-the-christmas-season/

[Winter2025VA]

Dear Marcy @MarcyW882921 , I just received Post Office "email" notification that there is a CHRISTMAS CARD coming to my mailbox from you!!!

Unfortunately it will be AFTER Christmas before I can get it.

Girlfriend, I fell for the 1st time in my 67 years on Black Ice 12/6/25 & suppose to be on bed rest (cast, ankle fractured in 2 places).

My neighbors here in Virginia have been AWESOME & John Mark checks my mail & takes my trash out on Saturdays.

Cast should be off January 2nd. 💃

Anyway, fellow Florida Girl (lol, NOT old lady), I do still plan on moving back to Florida. So see you soon!!!

Luv,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗  (Grief Forum)

[MarcyW882921]

Oh Nicole, I am so sorry to hear about your fall! I'm so glad you have some neighbors who can provide some needed support to you. I'm sending wishes for speedy healing so you can get that cast off on time.

You know I have to say it...we don't have ice here in FL! I do hope one day we will meet in person.

Marcy

[Winter2025VA]

Thanks Marcy @MarcyW882921 !!!

Lol, but you have hurricanes and alligators. 😱

Yes, we will meet as we planned when I move back.

Luv,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗  (Grief Forum)

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@MarcyW882921 wrote:

Oh Nicole, I am so sorry to hear about your fall! I'm so glad you have some neighbors who can provide some needed support to you. I'm sending wishes for speedy healing so you can get that cast off on time.

You know I have to say it...we don't have ice here in FL! I do hope one day we will meet in person.

Marcy

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[GailL1]

@Winter2025VA 

So sorry that this happened to you, Nicole - Yes, that “black ice” is dangerous .  How long are you supposed to be on bed rest?  Glad you have some neighbors to help you out. 

Get better soon - 

Sending Well Wishes to you everyday.

[Winter2025VA]

Gail @GailL1 , thank you SO MUCH!!!

They say cast for 4 to 6 weeks. I go back for x-rays on January 2nd (4 weeks). HOPING cast will come off.

Lol, learn't my lesson with NEW maintenance guy, NEVER trust him AGAIN to salt my porch like they are "suppose" to do & have been doing. Pulled out my salt as I DONOT want my Homecare Team to fall like I did.

Luv,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗  (Grief Forum)

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@GailL1 wrote:

@Winter2025VA 

So sorry that this happened to you, Nicole - Yes, that “black ice” is dangerous .  How long are you supposed to be on bed rest?  Glad you have some neighbors to help you out. 

Get better soon - 

Sending Well Wishes to you everyday.

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[JaneCares]

Oh, Nicole! You are so kind and thoughtful to everyone you encounter, and now you need help. Sounds like the folks in Virginia are helping. Swift healing for you and your dear bones!

Jane

[Winter2025VA]

Thanks Jane @JaneCares !!!

Lol, it has been quite an "adventure" losing my independence. Was determined NOT to bother anyone, but there was NO arguing with them. 😂

Luv,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗  (Grief Forum)

➡️[*** JANE 

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@JaneCares wrote:

Oh, Nicole! You are so kind and thoughtful to everyone you encounter, and now you need help. Sounds like the folks in Virginia are helping. Swift healing for you and your dear bones!

Jane

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[Winter2025VA]

I am thinking about YOU  💛

Luv,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗  (Grief Forum)

[MarcyW882921]

Thanks Nicole @Winter2025VA ! I think of you, and try to keep up with your postings. I'm doing all of my usual activities, and I add in a class, webinar, or meeting with friends too.

Marcy

[Winter2025VA]

Today is YOUR DAY = you determine the outcome!!!  💛

[MarcyW882921]

Thanks...it's good to see your presence @Winter2025VA !

Marcy

[Winter2025VA]

BE GOOD to yourself!!!

Sometimes losing a loved one means LESS to pay the bills.  ☹

But finding ways to FILL UP will keep us BALANCED (emotionally, spiritually, mentally).

Suggestion: So many FREE WAYS to do this. Just find WHAT fills YOU up. Me, bingeing on Agatha Christie Audiobooks (free on YouTube). Also helps me to catch a few zzz's on those nights I CANNOT SLEEP. My sleepaid.  ‌👍‌

Question: What self care are you doing?  🤔

Luv,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗  (Grief Forum)

[MarcyW882921]

The local library is like a gold mine too! They have books, music, movies, and activities. You can also download books electronically if you can't make it to the actual library.

Marcy

[MarcyW882921]

Singing, taking classes, exercising, socializing, engaging with my spirituality, and making healthy food choices.

Marcy

[Winter2025VA]

I HOPE you have been able to find some support for YOUR journey.

It is SO HARD when we lose folks we CARE about.

Luv,

Nicole  ‌🤗‌‌🤗‌‌🤗  (Grief Forum)‌

[MarcyW882921]

And all kinds of other things too if we are mindful and look for them. I have been bombarded recently with angel numbers and find them very comforting.

Grief is a long difficult journey and finding any kind of bright spots along the way certainly helps. 🌞🌷⭐️🌕

Marcy

[Winter2025VA]

Dear sweet and strong Cadee @Cadee2719 thank you SO MUCH for your PM.

I am letting EVERYONE know while you are MIA at the moment, you did let me know you are still alive.

Hang in there my friend and know that we ALL admire your strength in spite of losing your hubbie, brother and son within a few months of each other.

I am looking forward to your NEXT visit when you feel up to it.

Luv and ADMIRE you my friend.

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗  and  🤗🤗🤗

[MarcyW882921]

Love and hugs to our dear friend Cadee @Cadee2719  ! I hope whatever challenges you are facing will give you a break soon.

Marcy

[Winter2025VA]

It's Friday, on our way to the weekend.

To ALL GRIEVERS, know that your luv ones are ALWAYS with you as you travel on YOUR HEALING JOURNEY  🤗🤗🤗

[MarcyW882921]

Weekends can be tough. What do you have planned that may be a positive distraction? For me it's making a spiritual connection, volunteering, and participating in a bowling fundraiser. Whatever your plans, I hope they provide some grief relief and maybe even bring some joy to your heart. 

Marcy