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[Cadee2719]

  Thank You for your response.  I have a lot to think about.  For now, I am not going to increase it to 8 pills as the doctor suggested.  I may eliminate one pill and see what affect that will have.  The medication I am taking is also used as a chemo treatment for cancer???  I called the new rheumatologist's office and asked for them to call me if they had a cancellation.  I would feel better seeing the new doctor and getting his advice.  I am really shocked by how long it is taking me to get appointments with new doctors here.  Again, I appreciate your responding to me.

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[Cadee2719]

  Nicole, it is important to do the research.  I spent hours daily checking out places in Idaho (having never been there).  I went to visit my brother and spent almost three weeks driving with my son to several sections of Idaho.  I researched the "safest" cities, weather, cost of homes,  cost of living, medical care, etc.  My research became a full time job.   My career was in housing thousands of student at a University and one of the programs I had was educating students wishing to live off campus.  I emphasized the importance of visiting the area all times of the day and night, talking to neighbors, being familiar with the crime in the area, checking out the area to see how convenient it would be for them to shop, see doctors, commute to school,  etc.  Remember my number one priority was to be safe and I HAD to leave CA to accomplish this.  I  know you will be diligent about this process and do what is best for you.  Maybe you should consider a guest house or a duplex where you won't have to contend with a lot of neighbors.  Do your neighbors above you own the property or are they renting?   You are in my prayers and I am hoping that you will find a home that will give you Peace and Happiness.  You deserve it.

[DianeB887812]

Good afternoon. Got up early today then spent the morning working my daily puzzles. Took my walk and then checked my mail. HMPH! Nothing from AARP. Checked junk mail and there they were. All my lovely messages got sent to junk! So I sat and fixed them all. I did not tell my mail client to send AARP mail to spam so I have no idea how that happened. 

Anyway here I am checking to make sure my new friends are all ok. 
l will be busy tomorrow getting myself out the door for my eye appt. I’ll be using Uber because I always get dilated for a retina check. That will make it hard for me to read my mail until sometime in the afternoon, so do not panic if  I’m a bit late tomorrow. I will see you all tomorrow. Until then LUV TO ALl. 

[Winter2025VA]

(1 comment) Dr. Diane @DianeB887812 aka Dr. Walker, hope you ENJOYED your walk THIS MORNING. Do you change routes? When I walk, I do to eliminate the boredom

It is nearly 7pm for us BOTH (you in Florida, me in Virginia) and AFTER a much needed ALL DAY NAP  ,  I am headed to get my soak ready. 

Was TOO TIRED before nap to do the soak = falling asleep.

The NAP was possible as UPSTAIRS neighbors from h.ll have been GONE since Friday. 

Need to check mailbox and take trash to dumpster way in the back TONIGHT. Hate this chore, but....

Luv you my friend,

Nicole 

[DianeB887812]

I also took a nap today. 

My 30 min morning walk is a lovely tree lined sidewalk. If I want a longer walk, I can continue and circle the extended block. That takes 90 min. 

And if I want to take a hike, I can walk to the near by park and take a forest trail. That can take 2-3 hours. 

Every one is used to seeing me walking and waves and says hi. Even the maintenance crew as they zip by in their golf carts. 

[Winter2025VA]

(4 comments) Any other Nero Wolfe FANS out there? Fed Mr. at 6am and NOW back in bed LISTENING to this Audiobook. Overtired and you know how that is. Tired but not falling asleep. Anyway, audiobooks have saved me many times from myself. And what I mean is, we need REST to COPE with what life brings our way. Many nights audiobooks have been my SLEEP AID. So grateful    So tell me about the BOOKS you like - the ones you read/listen to for PLEASURE.

[Cadee2719]

  Are you familiar with the Libby Library App.  You sign up at your local library and you are able to get books that you can read/listen to from a number of libraries.  If they do not have it they place you on a waiting list to receive it.  Check with your local library about it.

[DianeB887812]

I find it difficult to read but I have a movie library and a Streaming service. Last night I watched and fell asleep to “His Dark Materials” I also watch “Pride and Prejudice“ a lot. I had a year where I watched “Contact” over and over. Many of the Marvel movies are also favorites. My walking play list songs are therms from many of my favorite movies. 

[Winter2025VA]

(1 comment) Diane @DianeB887812 , I use to be an AVID reader and LIBRARY patron.

As I type this post, I glanced over at the 3 books I am SUPPOSE to be reading. 

Have you WALKED?

Luv you,

Nicole

[DianeB887812]

On my way out the door. Be back in 30 min. 

[Winter2025VA]

1 comment [Saturday 7/13/24 2:28am ET - yes a restless night]

How are YOU doing? 

Lol, one of my nights of restlessness but know this too shall pass!!! 

HAPPY DANCE, neighbors ABOVE me was NOT here LAST night. 

Their car was still here yesterday morning (Friday) and I had grit my teeth for a day of them NOT at work and on my LAST NERVE. But life RESCUED me and they left at lunch time. Am I getting a PEACEFUL WEEKEND???

Mr. No Name was VERY WEIRD yesterday. Was lounging on the SIDE of my porch TWICE instead of ON porch/steps or UNDER my car. Lol, about gave me my 1st heart attack as I was busy looking UNDER my car to see IF he needed to come in for water and food. Hmmm, interesting.

Then last night I was OUTSIDE about the time I turned on my Porch Light (9pm) talking to Rosa as we were BOTH concerned about a RANDOM CAR parked in front of our apt building. Lol, she is nosey like me (we the UNOFFICIAL NEIGHBORHOOD WATCH). WE will ask folks HANGING out in FRONT of OUR apts how they are and IF they waiting on someone = drug dealers and their customers NO LONGER hang out in FRONT of our apts. 

Anyway, 2 young guys was backed in BESIDE my car which is also backed in. And yes, smoking their LEGAL weed. I explained to the nice youngsters that this OLD lady has allergies and ONE window in her Studio Apt which she has had to CLOSE earlier than planned due to the weed scent in parking lot. Gosh, go smoke it in the woods of which we have LOTS on our hill. Anyway, they APOLOGIZED and hopefully this was a ONE TIMER.

So Mr. interrupts me and Rosa's chat as I had to go INSIDE to let him IN. 

Another WEIRD change. After eating and drinking water, he goes UNDER MY BED. This is the 1st time. Okay, wants some ALONE TIME I see/lol. So I ignore him and watch Poirot on PBS and about ready to fall out my chair = sleepy.

Mr. is still UNDER MY BED. 

He REFUSED to relocate out my door. Finally had to use my broom to GENTLY nudge him AWAKE and hopefully out my door. Lol, I even SHUT my door which would usually have him DASHING OUTSIDE. Nope - NO movement. Totally EXHAUSTED and NOT wanting to FALL ASLEEP while he is in my apt, I finally got him out. Lol, he was very angry and fought my broom. He sat on my porch LOOKING at my now CLOSED door like I donot believe she put me out look. Felt really bad, but needed to crawl into bed for the night.

Now to see IF he stops by AGAIN...

I HOPE so. He always came back in spite of Ms. Geraldine and her son using a broom to move him out of their way and PREVENT him from getting into the apt. Nope, he was NEVER allowed INSIDE and the whole complex would HEAR her YELLING at him EVERY MORNING. Lol, she would TRIP over him coming out her door IF she was NOT paying attention.

Luv you ALL,

Nicole 

[Cadee2719]

Maybe that explains why he didn't want to sleep in the bed you provided.  He wants to sleep under YOUR bed in the house.   Sorry kid, you got yourself a cat that loves you.

[Winter2025VA]

 (1 comment) Lol Dr. Diane @DianeB887812 aka Dr. Walker, I NEARLY skipped TODAY but knew you would be asking = so didnot skip. It is nearly 7:30pm for us BOTH and just finished my soak!!! 

Hmmm, skin actually looking NORMAL. The nails still I guess brownish purple.

Anyway, TOMORROW will be day #3 soak and 12 more days for bloodwork.

Luv you my friend,

Nicole 

[DianeB887812]

Good going! Keep up the good work. I’m proud of you!

[Winter2025VA]

  (3 comments) Hi Cadee, Doctors Diane aka Dr. Walker and Dr. Nicole aka Dr. Nosey CHECKING UP on you. 

[1] Any luck with an appointment with your NEW Diabetes Doctor?   I did go back to read your OLD POSTS, but may have missed this appointment. Apologies IF I did.

[2] Glad you have an appointment in NOVEMBER with your Rheumatologist!!! 

[3] Again apologies IF I missed this appointment - Good Luck with getting an appointment SOON with your NEW Cardiologist.

*** Please UPDATE us when and IF you want to. WE nosey but do CARE about YOU/lol  ***

@Cadee2719 @DianeB887812 

[Cadee2719]

  My cardiologist in CA sent the "referral".  Hopefully, I should hear from the new cardiologist soon.  I got the new refill prescription for my rheumatoid arthritis yesterday.  The material that came with it is scary.  It says it "may cause cancer" and that it is used to treat cancer!!!!  Now I have to figure out should I take a medication for my arthritis that can cause cancer?  Can I tolerate the pain until I see the new rheumatologist and avoid the medication I fought so hard to refill?  Is the cure worse than the illness?  I am so confused.  I am thinking I should maybe get the family doctor next and that they could do the referrals to the other doctors that I need.  

[DianeB887812]

Cadre,

There are many medications with that warning. I have been taking one for my diabetes for the last 30 years. You have to weigh the risks. If you or members of your family have a tendency towards cancer, you might not want to risk it. But if not getting help with the pain might be worth the risk. My Dr checks me for cancer every 6 months. If it does start up catching it early will keep the damage to a minimum. You do need to have a discussion with your doctor and weigh the risks vs the rewards. In the end it is your decision to make. 

[Cadee2719]

  Thank You for your response.  I have a lot to think about.  For now, I am not going to increase it to 8 pills as the doctor suggested.  I may eliminate one pill and see what affect that will have.  The medication I am taking is also used as a chemo treatment for cancer???  I called the new rheumatologist's office and asked for them to call me if they had a cancellation.  I would feel better seeing the new doctor and getting his advice.  I am really shocked by how long it is taking me to get appointments with new doctors here.  Again, I appreciate your responding to me.

[Winter2025VA]

 (1 comment) Any WEEKEND PLANS???

Me, TRY to stay out of jail for str.ngling my neighbors ABOVE me/lol. 

And work on OPTIONS to move to while I blast my RADIO on my FAVORITE FM STATION to tune them out ALL WEEKEND. 

Hmmm, I bet OUR Cadee @Cadee2719 will be cooking for her neighbors = that is WHY I need to move next door to her.

And Bionic Marcy @MarcyW882921 probably on another Road Trip.

Nicole 

[Cadee2719]

  My neighbors all love to cook and bake as well.  Brittany makes all kinds of bread and Briana cooks.  My table at the Block Party was a hit.  I had watermelon (the firemen loved it because they said it hydrated them), a bowl of candy (kids loved it), chips, pretzels and I baked a Pecan Praline cake which the new mothers loved.   The one neighbor said his kids were mad at him because he ate half of the lasagne himself!    It is fun cooking and baking for people that enjoy it.  I have already scheduled  the two little girls next door to come and bake Christmas cookies with me.  My poor son; his air conditioner went out in his car!  106 and no air.  I let him take my car.  He took it in; they said they fixed it and when he arrived home, it went out again.  He thinks it is a short in the system.  I didn't know that it got so hot here but I am not complaining.   It was 123 where my friend in CA lives!!!!!!!!    Hope your feet get better soon and I hope that Allen is ok.  Glad to see that Dr. Diane is taking care of herself.  Sorry that my thoughts are all over the place today.

[Winter2025VA]

(1 comment) OUR Diane @DianeB887812 stopped by 

Toes looking BETTER since I did my Foot Soak yesterday, will do one today. Thanks for asking!!! 

Lol, oh YES - I now keep my purse, car keys in a small plastic container from Dollar Tree and had ordered a SPARE set of Car Keys. Spent WAY TOO MANY mornings crying - piss.d - stressed when the keys seem to disappear. 

When are those Medical Appointments????

Luv you my friend,

Nicole 

[DianeB887812]

Eyes Monday

Heart Tuesday 

I’ll report after each. Not expecting any big news. 

[Winter2025VA]

1 comment [Friday 7/12/24 5:44am ET]

How are YOU? 

Quiet day for me = NO errands. Lol, was suppose to make that LONG DELAYED trip to the Laundry Mart YESTERDAY. Yes, the one I usually do EVERY SPRING = wash Winter Stuff (including comforter) to store for NEXT Winter. Between the extended Winter this time and storms, yours truly has NOT been this year. Will try week after next. 

Need the space in my Studio Apt for SUMMER stuff until FALL arrives.

SO GRATEFUL Summer is only 3 months (well, suppose to be). 

LUV SPRING AND FALL. 

Well let me go empty the container in my Utility Room before it overflows./lol 

Overnights when I do sleep cuts it close. Sleepless nights I can keep an eye on it.

Mr. is also outside asleep on my porch. I guess he came home after midnight last night as he was not there when I checked.

Luv you ALL,

Nicole 

[DianeB887812]

I’m feeling kinda normal this morning. My biggest problem is I keep losing things. My all time favorite scissors were MIA and after two days of inspecting every inch of my one bedroom apartment, I gave up and ordered a new one. I’m now double checking the location of important things like my keys and phone. I may buy some Air tags to put on important things until this part of the grief recovers. I am very dependent on the driving instructions my phone provides. I know this will pass, but it is darned annoying. 

Meanwhile, I also have two Dr appointments next week. Time to check my eye pressures and the cardiologist wants me in for my 4 month checkup. I’m glad my blood pressure has come back to normal. Those last couple of weeks with my husband were very stressful and all my numbers were very out of wack. 

How are those toes doing? 

[Winter2025VA]

  (1 comment) Hello Dr. Diane @DianeB887812 aka Dr. Walker, this is your patient Nicole letting you know I just did my Vinegar & Hot Water (ends up being warm water when vinegar added) Foot Soak!!! 

Lol, now that I have you keeping an eye on my toes, I will be doing this daily.

So HARD to just sit, but made myself work on my LOGIC PUZZLE BOOK. Helps to pass the time and give my OLD BRAIN a workout. 

Thank you for CARING my friend,

Nicole 

[DianeB887812]

Good for you!  I have lots of puzzles. They keep my mind from constantly worrying. I religiously do the Times puzzles every morning with my coffee. 

[Winter2025VA]

@Therapist4u    @mc6844 

(7 comments) WE ARE THINKING OF YOU!!!

[mc6844]

Thank you Nicole. I've been clearing closets etc. It was too much to do. It's somewhat better.  But too tiring for me. Hope everyone on the forum is ok. And I hope your feet feel better.  Take care!

[MarcyW882921]

I second that thought!

Marcy

[Winter2025VA]

(4 comments) Marcy, I am use to OUR MC being MIA/lol and know she will POP UP usually when I am asleep and does Bionic Kudo Session. 

But Allen is usually on the site each day especially in the Front Porch Forum. His pal Frozen @Frozenoem  posted TODAY so I am hoping he responds so I know he is okay.

Such a caring fellow going thru MAJOR medical stuff. 

Luv you,

Nicole 

[*** MARCY wrote: I second that thought! Marcy ***]

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[MarcyW882921]

You are a good soul Nicole @Winter2025VA ! I hope Allen will show up soon to say hello. We are sending positive vibes his way for some healing and peace.

Marcy