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[mc6844]

I've read through several posts and as always admire everyone's efforts, and the struggle to move forward in ways we can. I agree that it's not easy to restart a life, gain new interests or pick up on old ones. Keeping up with one's own health is a challenge but necessary to prevent problems. I'm past a lot of hobbies. Tried to get interested again, but it's a no go. I never had time to watch much TV in my life. So there are lots of old shows from less complicated eras that I haven't seen. I think I'm reminded of the saying 'there's a time for everything under the heavens...'

[SummerIsTooHOT]

👣  1 Step At A Time!

[MarcyW882921]

Nicole@NicoleRetired2020FL , You are up late tonight!🤔

Marcy

[SummerIsTooHOT]

1 comment (Thursday 12/7/23)

Lol, Marcy @MarcyW882921 - you know how that goes. But heading to go listen to my audiobook = possible zzz's   🙄🙄🙄

[MarcyW882921]

Same here Nicole @SummerIsTooHOT - only mine is a book that I will hold and read before nodding off to sleep.

Marcy

[SummerIsTooHOT]

1 comment (Thursday 12/7/23)

🏡  Marcy @MarcyW882921 , any UPDATES on your "roof" 💙💙💙

[MarcyW882921]

Nicole @SummerIsTooHOT , I received a copy of a permit that was filed so I'm thinking I should be hearing something before too long.

Did you get my PM I sent on Tuesday?

Marcy

[SummerIsTooHOT]

1 comment (Thursday 12/7/23)

My mind ran on you "just now" Bill @BillH490171 for a SAFE AND PEACEFUL trip THIS Tuesday 12/12/23 (mentioned in your post below). 💙💙💙

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✏ (FRIDAY 12/1/23) Bill @BillH490171 wrote:

Interesting day for me as I signed the burial agreement to have my wife's ashes placed in the niche we bought a few years ago. She'll be near her mom and other family members. Its been 6 months and I'm ready for this next step.  I'll drive up to Ohio on 12/12. The sun is shining now after a cold rainy morning. I know she would be happy and urge me to place her there.  Seems like this year is a blur at times.  

Hope you all have a great weekend and let the sun shine on your lives,  Bill ✏

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[BillH490171]

Nicole, thank you and I'm hoping in an easy trip up, say and think my regards with two of my daughters, and then a drive back home.

Bill

[SummerIsTooHOT]

👣  1 Step At A Time!

[jonibee]

Through out the year I receive gifts like the one shown here from my deceased hubby via by a  messenger( a member of our family.)...This one is very special because of the message on the enclosed card...He is with me in spirit..With Love from Tom....

[mc6844]

That's very nice Joni. Thank you for sharing your comfort and happiness. I'm sure loved ones are around in more ways we could know.

[SummerIsTooHOT]

2 comments (Wednesday 12/6/23)

👥  For Those Of Us Who Are READY To MINGLE, what steps if any 🙄 are you taking to meet "new" people? 🤔

(Me/lol) Kind of ready but NOT for groups. I am being NICER to folks, but still have my GUARD up. My "only" child, a daughter is STILL the only HUMAN I trust. At age 65, I MAY never trust anyone else before I die. Too OLD for all the "drama and games"  😎

[MarcyW882921]

I've gone solo to a few group activities recently.

Marcy

[mc6844]

I like how you say you're being NICER to folks. Lol.  

[SummerIsTooHOT]

👣  1 Step At A Time!

[MarcyW882921]

Making friends has been a challenge for me and maybe it has for others as well. I know people from chorus, tennis, and water aerobics and I talk to people at these activities. It doesn't go beyond social interactions during those activities. I find that it's not the same to be with couples who were friends of ours and the single people I know have families (parents, children, grandchildren) and friend groups that are established. 

I do things on my own, but it seems to be a rather solitary existence.

Marcy

[SummerIsTooHOT]

5 comments (Tuesday 12/5/23)

Same here Marcy @MarcyW882921 and I HAVE to let my "only" child, a daughter FEEL okay with TIME AWAY from me.

YOU will meet OTHER "healthy" humans on YOUR Healing Journey when YOU get more "involved" in life! 👍

The "trick" is to FIGURE OUT what DIRECTION you want to go... 😎

I want to get INVOLVED with animals BUT so NOT into the "politics and drama" I encountered last year when I tried it. Lol, I am RETIRED and not looking for a JOB (boss from h.ll, micro managing and so on).

[Cadee2719]

Morning.  I am hoping that once I get settled in my new state that I will be able to volunteer and help others.  I have enjoyed doing this most of my life.  I agree with you Nicole that sometimes doing so puts you in a place where they want more and more from you and it becomes a full time job!  I now realize my limitations and will NOT allow that to happen.  My husband use to tease me and say "You spend so much time volunteering, why don't you get a job and get paid for it!"  After the kids were in school, that is exactly what I did.  🤣  Marcy I agree that rebuilding a life and a circle of friends is hard, along with all the other adjustments we have to make.  It seems to me that you are doing an excellent job.  ❤️

[MarcyW882921]

Thank you Cadee @Cadee2719 . I attended a webinar today and someone asked about building friendships. The presenter suggested joining in with community activities, volunteering, and pursuing hobbies. It has been good to hear from multiple sources that I seem to be approaching this in the right ways. You are right though Cadee, it is hard.

Marcy

[MarcyW882921]

Thank you Nicole @SummerIsTooHOT for your kind words of encouragement. I have basically decided to do things I want to do and if it's by myself then so be it. I have gone to movies, a Trivia night, a concert, and lectures and enrolled in a class. I am supposed to be notified soon about attending a training for a short term public service job.

Marcy

[SummerIsTooHOT]

1 comment (Tuesday 12/5/23)

You are welcome Marcy @MarcyW882921 💙💙💙

And YES, I have my "moments" of FEELING alone - BUT I have "learn't" NOT to put up with "unhealthy" humans or RETURN to situations that are best LEFT in the past.

Yes, getting out into the work world again will bring some POSSIBILITIES 💃💃💃

[MarcyW882921]

Nicole @SummerIsTooHOT , My work will be very short in duration so I'm not holding out much hope for possibilities from that front. I'm ok with it.

Marcy

[SummerIsTooHOT]

3 comments (Monday 12/4/23)👣  Did You Do YOUR Steps?🤔

(Me) 7:48pm ET Lol, after unpacking groceries today I decided I needed a REWARD.  🙄  So I returned to bed and have been BINGEING on "Pretty Hard Cases" (Canadian mystery series, free on Prime App). NOW I have to PLAY CATCH UP = all the stuff that should have been done. 😭  And an 8am Mechanic Appointment TOMORROW.  😭

Find YOUR PEACE.... 😎

[Therapist4u]

Nicole needed a REWARD .....

Introvert doodles

 So she returned to bed 🛌  😊

[SummerIsTooHOT]

1 comment (Monday 12/4/23)

Oh YES I did Allen @Therapist4u 💃💃💃

[Therapist4u]

Hi again Nicole

Thanks....it took me a while to find 🔎the right pic 📟 ... LOL!!🙂

[SummerIsTooHOT]

6 comments (Sunday 12/3/23)

😎  Tell Us About YOUR HOBBIES! The Experts tell us they "may" help us on OUR Healing Journey..... 😏

(Me) I AGREE as they help me to ESCAPE for awhile from OVERTHINKING. As far as hobbies, gave up a lot of them due to NO MOTIVATION. But working on my STEPS 👣 to TRY to return to them. My Puzzle Book, which I use to purchase EVERY year is long overdue and last one still empty. It is the VARIETY PUZZLES, luv the mix as I get "bored" with just one type of puzzle. Hmmm, reading - the last book still sitting "unread"....

[MarcyW882921]

My main hobby is singing in an a-cappella chorus. It can get very busy this time of the year with performances. 🎶❤️🙂

I also cook, bake, read and play a couple of word and puzzle games on my phone.

Marcy

[Cadee2719]

I play a lot of the AARP games; solitaire, word search, and the new one they have this month.  I read (have done so since I was a child) but I find that it is hard to concentrate on the stories now.   I bake and cook new recipes but give the food to my neighbors as I can't eat all that I make!  I take care of my plants (of which there are many) and find that these things relax me.