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@2beingme 

Hi Donne Thanks 

Indeed as song Says "What doesn't kill us makes us stronger"

Me & my mom & friend Tulia always said getting older isn't for sissies 

We become stronger from living and going through our experiences which gives me better insight to what desire for my life to no longer settle. 

Happy is a choice 

Thanks for sharing 

Ginger : ) 

 

 

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You're welcome Ginger.  Being a single senior citizen is not easy and definitely not for wussies but I believe that we're a tough breed though.  While becoming single again, at this point in my life, was devastating, it most certainly wasn't the worst thing that could have ever happened to me.  I don't say that to trivilize or disrespect anyone else's devastation of becoming single and alone at this age, I just want to express that we can survive and we can move on to still live fulfilling lives.  It's just that our lives will be different; we develop a new normal, of sorts.

 

Anyway, I wish you well and I hope you find what you're looking for, whatever that may be.  Have a wonderful weekend.

 

DonneSmiley Happy

 

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Hey Kaye I have not met anyone here face to face but have made some friend connections here just from having topics in common 

Also there is group on here under Topic "Random Thoughts" called Front porch thread which has folks who live all over but check in everyday about Weather and such

So just a bonding found through having & sharing our common experiences 

Good luck 

Ginger  : ) 

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@2beingme 

Hey thanks so much for sharing your story 

Your an inspiration to me & others

My marriage ended just over 5 years ago the 1st couple years were tough was living on my own for 1st time in my life at 56 years of age & lost my Mom & a best  friend of 25+years almost 4 years ago It all was a big whammy on my life. I too was devastated and knew my life would never be same hadn't dated since 1995 & dating doesn't seem to be same these days. 

I have  moved twice.  I couldn't or didn't want to stay in home we'd built 4 years before but was hard losing my 15 acres had with my 2 boys b4 met him 

I also never want to marry again.... been there done that 

Since can't work even being an outgoing person who enjoys being around others and usually made friends found husbands while working its tough finding connections 

Thanks for all your ideas and suggestions & giving me hope things will better just gotta put one foot in front of other & seek out others 

I don't have a bad life plus also realize things happened for reason & I have been blessed alot & keep trying to accept change can be a friend not the end of the world which I felt when all the dominoes in my life were falling apart 

Thanks & hopeful,

Ginger  : ) 

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Hi Diane:

 

Tell me what you are looking for and what kind of information you would like. Where do you live? Where do you like to travel? Your cheif concerns about dating? What brings happiness and excitement?

 

Bruce

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Once again, I can't praise MeetUps enough.  For anyone interested in more info on it, here is the website https://www.meetup.com/.  You can create a profile and bio and then search for groups and events in your area.  I live in SoCA, in Los Angeles County, in downtown Glendale, which is just nine miles north of downtown Los Angeles so I'm really fortunate that there are literally hundreds of groups and events in my area.  I've been an active member for three years and have had a really wonderful experience and have met so many incredible people, some of who turned out to be really great dates (some great stories for another time).

 

In retrospect, I'm not sure I would recommend that newly single people do what I did when I found myself single again at 53.  At the time, I hadn't dated since 1992 and had spent most of my adult life as a wife.  Needless to say, I was devastated and the demise of my marriage was life altering and I knew that life as I knew it would never be the same.  Subsequently, I made some really drastic changes in my life and my life today is kind of a 180 degree from what it used to be.  Not everyone can do that; it really takes a certain kind of person to do that - it's definitely not for everyone.

 

I left the nice house out in the burbs (Ventura County), with it's 90+min daily commute (rt) to work for a small apartment in downtown Glendale, 7blks from my office and a 30min daily (rt) walk to work.  Out in "Reagan Country" (hubby and I lived a few blks from the Reagan library), I was a closet Democrat and I never really felt like I belonged there.  The first thing I did when I left and moved to Glendale was join the local Democratic Club, where we were instrumental in collecting enough signatures to get an initiative on the local ballot.  It's been a good experience for me by meeting people who have a similar mindset and who share a lot of the same attitudes and philosophies.

 

I also bought a bicycle and joined the local Ciclavia club and began cycling; they have numerous events and functions in the area; I also began attending MeetUp bike events.  I then started going to other events and joining other groups with other members I was meeting.  Some of my fave groups and events are my hiking groups as well as some of my social groups.  I also joined a bowling league at the bowling alley around the corner from my apartment and started meeting people in my neighborhood. 

 

Glendale is also a very thriving community with so many restaurants, shopping areas and entertainment destinations and the city hosts a lot of different community functions and events where they close down several blocks of Brand Blvd (major blvd through the downtown area) for the day.  It's a great opportunity to hang out with friends, neighbors and coworkers; it also makes for some great dating opportunities.

 

After 18yrs in my professional industry, where I was a pretty passive member, I became more involved and joined a committee that organizes a couple of their annual events.  I also started going to more of the regular meetings and just started getting to know a lot of people that I've known about for a long time but never really associated with very often.  Subsequently, my professional life has become more rewarding and successful.

 

I could go on but the point is, I just started becoming a lot more active and sociable than I had been for a very long time.  Being married, I had kind of insulated myself in my own little "married" world and when I became single again, I did a lot of things that prevented me from insulating and/or isolating myself again.  I will never marry again (twice was enough) and I will never return to the kind of life I had before.  I love the life I have now and it's not that I didn't love my previous life or that I didn't love being married because I did.  However, my life is different now and I just no longer want to go back to living the way I used to.

 

Anyway, coffee break is over and I need to get back to work; I've babbled on long enough.  For those who are newly single and looking for ways to develop "meaningful connections", I strongly suggest that you start to look for opportunities where you can meet more people that share some of the same interests that you have.  It's my personal opinion, based on my own personal experiences, that the best way to meet viable dating prospects is through people you already know.  Whether that is through friends, family, neighbors, coworkers or some other acquaintance or associate, these are the people who are going to probably be the best way to expand your social circle.   

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Could you please forward me some information?

Thanks,

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There is a better way to promote more positive ways to communicate with other older singles.  AARP could be the organizer of a variety of week long programs conduced in cooperation with The Chautauqua Institution, Biltmore Estate, Stratford Festival etc.  Individuals would have freedom to meet others, but participate in fun cultural events. The key is bringing people together and doing something of value.

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I’m just joining to see what your format is  like and your clients. 

Thank you

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Hello fellow Baby Boomer Bella 

DITTO Ditto to everything you've said

Some awesome ideas and you hit the nail on the head about us not imagining we'd be in this place in our lives but we are

A meetup group sounds nice

Have question? Are you member of meetup? Could you share your experiences about it? Costs? I've checked out site but was wee bit confused about how operates... be grateful for any info Thanks!

Have a blessed day

Ginger  : ) 

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